Emancipate Your Mind

"I know what is going wrong in my relationship, but how do I create a healthy relationship when I don't think I've ever seen one before?"

One of you asked this question a couple of weeks ago after the podcast on setting boundaries with a narcissist. It's such a valid question because we can't create what we can't envision.

In this episode, my husband and Licensed Professional Counselor, Kevin Hales and I discuss some of the elements of healthy attachments in adult relationships.

For the past 9 years, he's helped couples heal hurt and pain in their marriages with Emotionally Focused Therapy which is founded in Attachment Theory.

This week we cover topics like safety to discuss emotions and desires, flexibility to grow and evolve, and setting healthy boundaries.
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INTERESTED IN TALKING WITH KEVIN?

Kevin Hales is a Licensed Professional Counselor  who is trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) for couples and AEDP (Accelerated Experiential-Dynamic Psychotherapy). He works primarily with couples as well as individuals working through religious transition and trauma, depression, and compulsive sexual behaviors.  He works from offices in both Centennial and Castle Rock, Colorado.

You can find contact information for Kevin on the Colorado Counseling Center website.
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JOIN THE DISCUSSION

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

If you'd like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store.

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

We all have bias.

Once we decide that something is "true" or "right", our brain quits accumulating information that contradicts our beliefs.  It does this to save us time and energy.

However, for those of us who are deconstructing high demand, authoritarian systems of thought it's especially crucial that we remain open to learning new ideas, especially ones that call into question our cherished beliefs of what is "right", "true", or "the way things are" if we wish to continue to think freely and live as our full selves.

In this episode, we discuss how we sometimes deconstruct ideologies but keep the underlying patterns of thought and behavior that kept us in the high demand religion in the first place. Some of these patterns are a high discomfort with uncertainty, a need to have a "right" answer so that we feel safe, and the desire to only keep people in our circles that agree with us.

We'll also discuss some of the uncomfortable, but necessary, measures we can take if we wish to confront our bias and live as freely and imaginatively as possible.
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JOIN THE DISCUSSION

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

If you'd like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store.

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

"Religion has the ability to impact which identities you hold onto, which identities you deny, and even what identities you think are possible and are valid".

"At its best, religious culture can be beautiful grounds for human flourishing, but at its worst it can be incredibly suppressive." 

In this episode, public speaker, writer, and ordained minister, Alicia T. Crosby speaks about her experience growing up as a Black Baptist minister's daughter, grappling with her identity as a queer person, and her own process of recognizing, deconstructing, and healing religious violence for herself and her efforts to create social justice for other groups marginalized by religion in the world.

She speaks about religious violence against POC that comes from white supremacy embedded in Western Christianity and how doing our own work with shame resilience can help us tolerate the discomfort necessary to confront these subconscious beliefs and biases and allow ourselves to grow into a new way of believing and behaving. 

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WANT MORE OF ALICIA'S WORK?

Visit her at her website:
aliciatcrosby.com

Or follow her on social media:
Instagram @aliciatcrosby

TikTok @aliciatcrosby

Twitter @aliciatcrosby

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JOIN THE DISCUSSION

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

If you'd like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store.

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

If you were raised in a high demand religion you were likely taught about a punitive, narcissistic, abusive, or codependent god.

In this discussion with fellow Deconstruction Coach, Kyle Bishop, we discuss some of the red flags of an abusive, narcissistic, or codependent god and how we were conditioned from a young age to enter into codependent relationships with this version of god.

We further discuss how believing in this kind of god affects our sense of self worth and causes us to judge, criticize, and separate ourselves from others to help ourselves feel better. 

We also talk about how we can take back our power through confronting and being honest about our shadow self, learning to look for validation from within instead of from outside sources (including god), and allowing ourselves to to let the parts of us that no longer serve us burn away.

Kyle bravely talks about non-conventional tools, like psychedelics, to help us break down the subconscious barriers and begin to move grief and trauma through the body.

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WANT MORE OF KYLE'S WORK?

Contact him for a free 30-minute coaching session on his website www.BeyondGodAndReligion.com

Or follow him on social media:
Instagram @beyondgodandreligion

TikTok @beyondgodandreligion

Facebook @KyleGlenBishop

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JOIN THE DISCUSSION

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

If you'd like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store.

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

Boundaries are necessary to create healthy, safe, and trusting relationships. However, when we've been raised in codependent relationships with narcissists, our attempts at setting boundaries are often thwarted, ignored, or punished.

Over time, our lack of boundaries can leave us feeling unfulfilled, misunderstood, confused about who we are, and often at the mercy of others. 

In this episode, we explore how to protect ourselves and take back our power in a narcissistic relationship and set boundaries for our own sanity, safety, and self respect.

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JOIN THE DISCUSSION

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

If you'd like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store.

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected]