Embodied with Elizabeth Patricia DiAlto Figueroa

To close out this season of the Embodied Podcast, I'm coming to you solo and exploring the power of feeling and dealing with your emotions. I like to think of it as going out on an emotional LIM: literacy, intelligence, and maturity. It's so important to go back to the fundamentals and dig into what processing your feelings actually means.

If you're engaged with life in a growth-oriented way, this work is invaluable and timeless. Regardless of how enlightened or energetically-aligned you are, life has a way of throwing new challenges and tests at you everyday.

Join us back here on January 16th for a new season where we'll be diving into more healing, joy, and liberation.

In episode 410 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [3:39] The difference between feeling and dealing.
• [8:49] Practicing emotional literacy, intelligence, and maturity.
• [12:35] Tuning into how your signals and triggers change over time, especially as you engage in more healing work.
• [18:02] Why I think the feeling and dealing work is beneficial for everyone.
• [23:50] Quieting the inner critic to make space for more compassion and understanding.
• [27:13] Feeling this undercurrent of fatigue and the need for rest during this season.

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Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Sign up for the free Feeling and Dealing 2.0 Workshop - December 8th at 7:30pm Eastern
• Join the Wild Soul Sacred Body community
• Sign Up for the Free Embodiment Course
• Sacred Embodiment Specialist (SES) Training
• Catch the full show notes for episode 410 here
• Email us with questions or feedback

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My friend Jadah Sellner, author and business mentor, joins me on this episode to talk about the takeaways and creative process behind her latest book, She Builds: The Anti-Hustle Guide to Grow Your Business and Nourish Your Life. We discuss what it looks like to detox from hustle culture, lead with love, and embody your own definition of success. This book is a full integration of the masculine and feminine, providing both a practical and holistic point of view on how to avoid burnout and discover more flow in your life.

Jadah’s perspective on entrepreneurship and personal development is such a breath of fresh air. I can’t wait for you to hear our conversation and get your copy of She Builds!

In episode 409 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [3:24] Setting the standard of inclusive, trauma-informed teachers and mentors.  
• [10:00] Receiving feedback in a constructive way and working through your unconscious biases.  
• [18:13] Jadah’s business philosophy: love over metrics.  
• [22:46] Why is the baseline goal to be a seven-figure business owner? 
• [25:48] What ‘anti-hustle culture’ is all about.  
• [29:57] Embracing your pace and following the seasons of your life.  
• [39:22] Inside-out processing vs. outsourcing your answers and decisions to other people.  
• [46:00] What we learned in Alexandra Franzen's course: Marketing Without Social Media 
• [51:38] Jadah’s reflections on the creative writing process. 

 

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Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Sign Up for the Free Embodiment Course 
• Sacred Embodiment Specialist (SES) Training
• Catch the full show notes for episode 409 here
• Email us with questions or feedback.

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In this episode, I sit down with Elisha Halpin, spiritual mentor and embodiment coach, to discuss consistency, playfulness as an adult, and nervous system healing. Elisa illustrates the beauty of a deep regulation journey and exploiting your relationship with curiosity, consistency, and choice. She also shares her interpretation of the initiation with the dark goddess and what it means to be in full flow with yourself.

Elisa adds so many rich layers to the ongoing embodiment and expansion discussion that we're always having, so don't miss this conversation!

In episode 408 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [2:44] The joy of slowing down, especially as a person who loves change and transition.
• [11:15] What it looks like to practice consistency in a way that honors who you are.
• [15:27] Learning how to incorporate more playfulness into your adult life.
• [20:48] The difference between the cooperative and adaptive aspects of your true personality.
• [24:46] Noticing when you're in and out of alignment with your soul.
• [31:39] How to get into an equal exchange with others.
• [36:28] Why your own personal healing is essential if you want to make an impact in the world.
• [41:47] Breaking free from somatic oppression and giving too much power to a modality.
• [46:21] What's necessary for nervous system expansion and healing.
• [48:31] Having a healthy respect for the dark, chaotic life force.

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Or slide into Elisha DMs on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisha_halpin/

Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Sign up for the free course: Embodying Our Way to Liberation
• Sacred Embodiment Specialist (SES) Training
• Catch the full show notes for episode 408 here
• Email us with questions or feedback.

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Today I'm joined by Josie Pickens, organizer, educator, journalist, and culture critic, to discuss how to be a better lover to yourself, others, and explore intimacy in a more expansive way. Josie unpacks the message behind her essay "Party of One" that was featured in Sex and the Single Woman, and she describes her journey to being in a primary relationship with herself.

We also dive into the juicy healing work that Josie has been doing and the ripple effect that it's had on her life. We touch on our experiences with non-monogamy and polyamory, and celebrate how younger generations are reimagining what's possible when it comes to love, dating, and relationships.

Don't miss this conversation with Josie where we dig into how to be more loving people in a world that tries so hard to get us to not be.

In episode 407 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [3:18] The healing work Josie's currently engaging in
• [11:03] How to allow yourself to live your liberation and be nourished, even within the systems that we live in
• [15:45] Why feeling 'enough' is one of the most abundant feelings in the world
• [20:38] What distinguishes hoping from wishing
• [23:50] The connection between curiosity, surprise, and satisfaction
• [28:57] Limitations on how boys and girls are socialized relationally
• [38:36] The themes and takeaways from "Party of One"
• [44:24] What it looks like to be in a primary relationship to yourself
• [51:37] Why does the goal of any relationship need to be lifelong companionship or marriage?
• [54:16] Advice for people who have a hard time making decisions from a place of self love or self preservation

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Or slide into Josie's DMs on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonubian/

Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Sign Up for the Free Embodiment Course
• Sacred Embodiment Specialist (SES) Training
• Catch the full show notes for episode 407 here
• Email us with questions or feedback.

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This week, I invited Charlotte Ruth Wilson, a multi-passionate creative and embodiment coach, for a deep and thought-provoking conversation on the distinction between the business of coaching vs. the skills of coaching, the polarity dynamics of feminine and masculine energies, and the role vulnerability & creativity play in our relationships and businesses.

We dive into abusive relationships, whether we label ourselves feminists or not, and a conversation around vulnerability (and its effect on your mental and emotional health).

Ready to drop into your full expression and feel inspired? You don't want to miss this powerful conversation with Charlotte!

In episode 406 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [8:30] Charlotte's thoughts on being a Reflective Practitioner and how we can teach ourselves by reflecting
• [10:15] The powerful ways she is creating space for self-expression on social media
• [12:52] The business of coaching vs. the skills of coaching - and how to make this distinction!
• [16:49] Charlotte's story of being in an abusive relationship and being diagnosed with MS
• [20:05] Polarity dynamics and an in-depth discussion on masculine and feminine dynamics
• [22:26] Vulnerability as a form of feminine energy (and the harm this can cause)
• [29:28] Feminism, compassion and empathy for men, and the dangers of some of the feminine/masculine coaching in our space
• [38:16] Examining the energy behind your messaging
• [44:55] Tapping into creativity and how Charlotte started painting again after not being able to walk

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Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Wild Soul Wisdom Class (Nov 11th)
• Sacred Embodiment Specialist (SES) Training
• Catch the full show notes for episode 406 here
• Email us with questions or feedback.

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How can we let sacredness be the medicine for so much that ails us? In life, love, work, and all our relationships?

Today we're diving into sacredness, relational healing, how both can really influence collective and systemic shifts in the world.

Are your relationships deeply nourishing? Do they feel supportive and fulfilling? Or are you finding yourself drained from dealing with bad behavior, emotional immaturity, or unhealed trauma?

This week, I want to invite you into some deeper thinking & awareness around how you engage with people.

Personally, I've had to heal and grow a lot in this area with -

• Creating better boundaries that honor my relationships and myself
• Building better communication with the people in my life
• Lowering my tolerance for bad behavior while ALSO giving people the opportunity to repair poor behaviors
• And, allowing myself to bring sacredness into everything I do

Ultimately, creating reciprocal, nourishing & supportive relationships is about honoring the inherent sacredness in all of us and honoring the different ways we each love.

Join me for this deeper conversation around how you're engaging with the people in your life and the healing that can be found in honoring and embracing the sacredness of ALL life.

In episode 405 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [9:33] Healing from codependency & unearned benefits of the doubt
• [11:25] Saying NO to bad behavior, emotional immaturity & unhealed trauma responses
• [14:08] Discerning what is and is NOT your business and eliminating distractions so you can expand your capacity for the things that are in alignment for YOU
• [17:17] How to tell if your exchanges are generative, regenerative, or reciprocal - and why this matters
• [20:25] Why you should give the MOST of your energy to THIS kind of relationship
• [27:50] Embracing sacredness as a way of healing ANYTHING - individually, collectively, or systematically

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Resources mentioned by Elizabeth in the episode:

• Episode 399 - My Sacred Slut Summer
• Gail Larsen's book "Transformational Speaking"
• Make Self Love Your SUPERPOWER, a live weekend event (Nov 5-6)
• Email us with questions or feedback.
• Sacred Embodient Specialist (SES) Training
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We can feel the divide in the world - on political ideology, public health, and the environment (to name a few!)

Is there a way to learn to live together, to resolve the conflict, and to restore relationships?

My friend Kerra Bolton is an outstanding journalist & author who has worked as a freelance writer for CNN and is a winner of the NY Times Award for Outstanding Journalism.

This week, I invited Kerra to discuss the impact of building community through restorative practices.

We are diving into her take on how to build restorative communities and her journey to writing her book. She shares some tips on how to work through violations or ruptures within a community, some powerful learning and what the process of a true restorative practice looks like.

You don't want to miss her refreshing take on the way politics is evolving and playing a role in our culture, and how we can minimize divides through these restorative practices.

You know how much we love talking about growth and change on this show - come learn something with me, she has a lot to share!

Listen to episode 404 now!

In episode 404 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• (3:00) Kerra's origin story, and how she identifies with Christianity
• (13:25) Meeting a crazy man who ended up being a visionary (and what he taught her about societal needs)
• (23:15) What a true restorative practice can look like (some scripted questions to shape the conversation and why there is a need for a facilitator)
• (35:20) Untangling vaccines, mask mandates, and the political tug-of-war over public health issues
• (45:14) Politics in relationships - values vs. solutions

For full show notes and links to all the resources and books mentioned in this episode, go to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/404

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When it comes to the philosophy of non-monogamy, there can be a lot of questions: Is it polyamory or an open relationship? Do we have to tell each other about other partners? Is it a relationship or just sex? Today's episode is all about intimacy and non-monogamy and how people connect and relate to each other in that world, with lots of nuggets that apply to ALL relationships, whether monogamous or not. In today's episode, I'm breaking this all down with Marcia Baczynski (aka Marcia B.)

Do you geek out on consent, communication, intimacy, how we relate to each other and connect, and why we engage in romantic and sexual relationships in the first place? You're not going to want to miss this episode!

In episode 403 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• (5:48) The difference between non-monogamy and polyamory
• (10:28) Important and relevant things to communicate with your partner(s), particularly when you're in a non-monogamous relationship (and why the complexity of communication grows exponentially—not linearly—in non-monogamous relationships)
• (12:50) Ethical non-monogamy vs consensual non-monogamy: what's the difference and do they mean the same thing? (And Marcia's preferred term here) How do you determine if one non-monogamous relationship is ethical or not?
• (32:17) Our best tips for living the lifestyle that works the best for YOU (and one really important thing to keep in mind when navigating non-monogamy)
• (44:08) TWO things that are so important to pay attention to when it comes to your relationships and what to hone in on so that you can get your desires met more often

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Or slide into Marcia's DMs on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/askmarciab/) or Twitter (https://twitter.com/askmarciab)

Links:

• Episode 399: My Sacred Slut Summer
• Buy Marcia's book, Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators
• Learn more about Cuddle Parties
• Download Marcia's free Field Guide to Consent
• Learn more about Marcia and her work at her website: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/
• Take her upcoming course, Not Needy (starting October 26, 2022)
• Come join me for my October workshop!
• Sign up for my Open Community Embodiment Class on Nov 11, 2022!

Books mentioned in this episode:

• The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
• Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas
• The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams
• Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied: A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever by JAIYA
• The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin D.C.

Hustle culture has too many people completely burnt out these days. Thinking that you have to constantly be "on" is doing a disservice to your mental, emotional, and physical health—and to your business.

There's a difference between being "on" all the time and being ready. There's a difference between hustling and being intentional.

When you are ready, when you stay ready, you can own your skills and step into your expertise.

In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend Trudi Lebrón about all things business. We're deep diving into how to find joy in just being, the power of coaching and embodiment work, and the nuances of capitalism. It's a conversation about making a true and lasting impact.

We also talk about her new book, The Antiracist Business Book, and why she chose to focus on business and the coaching industry. She also shares about her new professional development program, The Art and Science of Coaching.

The topics in this episode couldn't be more relevant to where we are as a society, and I hope you'll be able to apply some of these concepts and ideas to the growth of your own life and business (if you have one!). In episode 402 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

• [03:15] How Trudi is finding the joy in just being and spending time with friends and family
• [06:36] How two people's interpretations of encouragement can be very different
• [11:22] Trudi's experience meeting Fatman Scoop and getting valuable business and sales advice
• [20:25] Being ready for opportunities that come your way
• [23:54] Why Trudi chose business and the coaching industry for the angle of her antiracist book
• [33:38] How the recent Patagonia sale embodies the concept of Just Commerce
• [40:50] Trudi's belief in the power of coaching and business vs. coaching skills
• [46:03] Why Trudi created her new professional development program, The Art and Science of Coaching
• [50:33] How embodiment work can you help you both professionally and personally

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/402

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Christopher Rivas is a multi-talented, multi-dimensional writer, speaker, and storyteller to name just a few of his skills. He's the author of the soon-to-be published book Brown Enough and creator of the Rubirosa podcast. His work encourages us to ask deeper questions about our culture, our histories, and our relationships to the people in our lives.

Today, he's the first man I've had on the Embodied podcast in two years. Christopher and I talk about how we both relate to our Brownness, how whiteness and capitalism have, intentionally or not, separated us from aspects of our cultural heritage, and how storytelling can connect us with pieces of our history we feel removed from.

Christopher shares story after story with us in this episode, from humorous anecdotes about a ridiculously placed shower to heartfelt recollections of how his work allowed his father to reflect on his own assimilation into white culture.

I hope this episode encourages you to keep digging into your own healing and your ancestral history, to keep reaching out with empathy and understanding to those around you, and to learn to build your own stories that can connect you with your own individual culture and your inner self.

In episode 401 we discuss:

[01:19] An introduction to Christopher and his work on storytelling

[08:43] How Christopher's dating life helped him to reevaluate what he'd been taught about whiteness, beauty, and culture

[13:02] Defining "body of culture" and how it affects Brown people

[17:31] How Christopher's father and his assimilation into white culture influenced Christopher's work

[21:22] The healing effect that Christopher's storytelling work has had on his father and his ability to connect to his original culture

[27:38] The craziest story about LA and inappropriately installed showers from Christopher's book

[33:32] How learning a new language can be a deeply humbling and empathic experience

[40:41] How Christopher views climate and infrastructure reform as an opportunity to express empathy and care for our neighbors

[44:15] How Christopher discovered the real James Bond (he was Dominican) and why he became so determined to share this story with the rest of world

[51:39] Why stories like Rubirosa offer everyone, regardless of their culture, an opportunity to challenge their heroes and ask better questions about their history

[59:33] Why accepting your multidimensionality and rejecting the "boxes" society places us in can open you up to new realities

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/401

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