Raise your hand if your first idea of true love came from Disney? For me it was Aladdin, I used to daydream all the time about my prince meeting me at a balcony, the only problem was that I was super afraid of heights. The whole notion of a woman being rescued was so normal in the 80s and 90s and that had a huge impact on the idea of love and what a soulmate was. So we venture into the world of movies, good movies, great movies, romantic movies, even a romantic comedy... and how these models of perfection have molded our personal sense of a soulmate.

But do we believe in soul mates? Have we met our soul mate? What defines our concept of love?

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This podcast usually focused on dating and relationships and marriage...but we rarely talk about divorce, and seeing as the world is in turmoil (and a pandemic) and relationships are falling apart faster than Trump's twitter fingers... I think it's about time we discuss the D word. The doctor and I were raised with out family, and culture's view on divorce and we were taught that it was wrong, unfathomable, and only done by those who given up on marriage and are escaping it. Well we have come a long way since then, so take a listen to our pod today and let us know your thoughts about divorce. Has your reasoning and justification of it changed over time? Do you have parents who are divorced? Do you wish your parents were divorced? Would you ever get a divorce? Can you see the positives and negatives of such a large decision? The discussion continues...

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Dating is definitely a journey, and what I find super interesting, is the changes and growth you go through in different stages. When I was in my 20s, I always pictured myself to be married with 2.5 kids by the time I was 30. Well, that didn't work out as planned, and now in my 30s, I definitely feel my clock ticking and I approach dating very differently. So being on tinder and other dating sites isn't ideal... and now I'm feeling like I've been through the cycle so long that the wheel has gone around full circle. Sigh. I hate this....

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Last week we tried to discuss going 'Instagram official' and the power of the internet, but we diverged into a lovely discussion about understanding our hormones a bit better. Very lucky to have a doctor amongst us who can educate us better on these things. So now, attempt number two at discussing the internet. I think it is really important to look at how this impacts even those of us in our 30s. So have a listen and let us know, how important is it to go official online?

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A very famous song goes by, "Let's get physical, physical!" And it's possible that this might stir up some memories for you, perhaps of a special time, or a special someone. But have you ever stopped to think about the chemical reactions your body undergoes during these intense moments of pleasure and lust. Unlikely.

There are more than 40 neurotransmitters in the human nervous system; some of the most important are acetylcholine, norepinephrine, dopamine, gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), glutamate, serotonin, and histamine. So today we try to better understand our chemical makeups and what happens when we feel a certain way, and why we can be, oh so very addicted, to these neurotransmitters.

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If we really thought about it, would we actually want someone perfect? The answer is going to be no because none of us are perfect. We are all flawed beings, a sum of our genes and hormones and parents and life experiences and socialization. So why are we so set on this idea of a perfect partner, that's not what we really want.... is it? The Doc and I break down some of the qualities that matter the most to us, and what we are hoping to find in an ideal mate. Tune in and see if you agree or disagree with our top choices!

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Akon once famously sang, "Now they done stop me and I get locked up...they won't me out". But what about those who have been let out. If a judge and the justice system deem them to be eligible for parole or early release and get a second shot at life, don't they also deserve love. Some people would agree with it, some would not, and some would say it's circumstantial.

So when two females from different walks of life, are coming across men who have been convicted of crimes, how do we feel about meeting them, dating them, and having a relationship with them. Hey, men in prison can be swiping on tinder too, so let's get a discussion going on this. Would you date someone who had spent time in prison? Would the length of the sentence be a determining factor? What about the crime itself? How about if they had been rehabilitated, seeked therapy and made changes in their personal life? Or, is it an immediate no? Does a prison sentence also come with you being punished in love?

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So cheating is a thing, it happens, it hurts, it burns, and unlike other things that burn, there is no magic pill that can cure it. Ok so what if your partner does cheat, could you get over it? What if it was physical? What if it was emotional? What do you even define as cheating??? Did it happen in the past, was it once or twice, did you catch them, did they tell you, did you suspect it? There are definitely more questions than answers.

Have we cheated? Have we been cheated on? The doc and I look at our own opinions of flirting, cheating, and the crazy world of dating, relationships, forgiveness, or at least trying to!

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Well, what started as an episode discussing social media norms with relationships, posting relationship statuses, sharing couples pics, and our experiences with each..... eventually became a very heated discussion about tinder etiquette. Granted, a lot of men just swipe right on every female (or male) they come across, but surely a person can take the time to upload some decent pics? Write a decent blurb? Ensure the pictures are actually of a human being?

What are your thoughts on uploading profiles to tinder and other online dating platforms?

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A lot changes when a person turns 30. Their lifestyles, their tastes, their body, their social norms... and if you are single in your 30s, then your dating life will also take a drastic change. One difference that not a lot of people talk about, is meeting potential partners who are already parents. Whether you want to date someone with children or not, it is a reality of being in your 30s, and honestly speaking, difficult to completely avoid. People are more likely to have children, be divorced, and have someone significant in their life due to a previous relationship. The Doc and I have similar outlooks and preferences when it comes to this topic, so hear our take on getting with a Baby daddy (or baby momma)!

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