Allison is a textbook 5 (all 5s love being compared to textbooks, seriously) who leans heavily into her 4 wing. She describes herself as an introverted, chronic thinker plagued with extroverted tendencies. It’s a tough life. She is the proud mother of two stellar teenagers and has been married to her beloved Type 2 husband for 23 years. Allison graduated summa cum laude with her Doctor of Pharmacy in 2002 and set off to blaze trails but discovered along the way that something was missing. In 2014, what she now understands as her 4 wing begging to be set free, called her live creatively by becoming a fashion stylist. Through this work, she helps women change their negative self-perceptions by helping them feel good in what they wear. She struggled with the paradox of her two careers and felt that she couldn’t possibly do both until she learned more about herself through the Enneagram. She now understands that each job brings satisfaction to different parts of her being and helps her live life fully. If not at one of her kids’ sporting events, you’ll find her splitting her time between being a pharmacist and fashion stylist and loving every minute. You can follow her on IG @styledandprofiled or feel free to reach out to her at [email protected] really does love meeting new people :-)
Check out these questions we asked Allison and perhaps spend some time journaling or processing these for yourself.
Knowledge, learning, observation, intellect, logic are some of the words that may resonate strongly with a 5. When did you first knew you had a desire to gain knowledge? Do you have a childhood or adolescence memory about that you can share with our listeners?
5’s can sometimes get caught up in a need to know everything inside of just knowing where to find it. Do you ever find yourself experiencing the internal pressure of needing to know everything? If yes, how do you combat it?
As a 5, do you recognize when you sound like a know-it-all? What do you do when it happens?
Sometimes 5’a can feel drained after being around people. How do you avoid energy depletion? How do you recharge yourself?
How do you show love and how do you feel loved?
Since 5’s can seem withdrawn, quiet, reserved, people around may have misconceptions about them. What would you want people to know about being a 5? The good, bad or ugly!
The talk style of the 5 is often called dissertations. 5's have alot of wisdom and knowledge to impart to the world. And yet for many 5's underneath their love of learning and all the books on their shelves is a fear of incompetence. Is a fear of incompetence something you feel from time to time and if so, could you describe when this surfaces for you and how you are working to let go of this fear?
What mantra are you most drawn to that helps you as a 5?
Avarice is the deadly passion of the 5 and this can show up as withholding time, money, resources, knowledge or affection from others. How do you withholding from others and how are you working in this?
Fives can sometimes be pretty disconnected from their bodies and so practicing yoga can connect them to their body and eventually connecting to the body can be a pathway to the heart for a 5. What is a physical practice in your life that helps you connect to the body?
Fives are often the first to leave a social event and they have a tendency to withdraw from others. How are you working on staying longer in social situations, instead of running away from them?