When you live out of alignment with your values, burnout follows. Learn how to get back on track as a first responder couple and reconnect to what truly matters in your life and relationship.

In this heartfelt and insightful conversation, Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor, law enforcement spouse, and host of the Code4Couples Podcast, sits down with Katie O, a first responder spouse, wellness coach, and former search and rescue volunteer. Together, they explore how identifying and living according to your personal and shared values can completely transform your wellness, your mindset, and your marriage.

Katie shares how her background in health care, first responder life, and coaching helped her understand that values aren't just words — they're your compass. She and Cyndi break down how first responder couples often drift from their values because of service-driven work, emotional overload, and constant demands, and how realigning with what's most important can bring back joy and connection.

You'll learn:

What "values" really mean — and how to identify yours

How values impact wellness beyond the bubble-bath version of self-care

Why burnout or resentment are often signs of values conflicts

How to reconnect with your purpose and your partner

Simple tools and reflection questions to help you live according to your values every day

 

Hosted by Cyndi Doyle, founder of Code4Couples®, licensed professional counselor supervisor, author of Hold the Line: The Essential Guide for Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship, and retired police spouse helping first responder couples strengthen connection, communication, and resilience.

 

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00:00 – Intro: Living according to your values 02:00 – What "values" really mean 06:00 – The link between values and wellness 10:00 – How values conflicts show up in first responder marriages 16:00 – Questions to uncover your true values 24:00 – Using time and priorities to reveal what matters most 33:00 – Aligning values as a couple 40:00 – Preventing burnout and disconnection 44:00 – Final takeaways & resources