Today, we sit down with Jinger Duggar Vuolo, author of "People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations," to talk about her new book and how she put an end to her people-pleasing tendencies. We discuss how she broke out of legalism and learned the true gospel as she sought to glorify God with her life and how biblical modesty is the standard to which we should aspire. Jinger also tells us how her people-pleasing ultimately hurt her ability to be in community and gives other people-pleasers advice on how to stop focusing so much on the selfish need to belong and how to let others into their lives.

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Timecodes:

(02:25) About "People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations"

(08:57) Teachings of Bill Gothard 

(13:44) People pleasing behavior 

(17:45) Biblical standards of modesty

(22:16) Pleasing God vs. pleasing man

(32:06) Trading down

(40:44) People-pleasing is selfish

(44:01) The heart behind hospitality

(48:07) Advice for people-pleasers 

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Related Episodes:

Ep 745 | Life as a Duggar & Letting Go of Legalism | Guest: Jinger Duggar Vuolo

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-745-life-as-a-duggar-letting-go-of-legalism/id1359249098?i=1000596623691

Ep 777 | On Duggar Theology, Josh’s Arrest, & Media Lies | Guests: Jinger Duggar Vuolo & Jeremy Vuolo

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-777-on-duggar-theology-joshs-arrest-media-lies-guests/id1359249098?i=1000606178083

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