rich & REGULAR with Kiersten and Julien Saunders

Ep 193: How we say no when people ask for money


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This week we’re diving headfirst into the one word that can save your budget and your sanity: No

Julien kicks things off with some personal stories about recent awkward moments when "friends" ask for money, which sets the stage for a much-needed conversation.

For some of us, saying "no" can feel just plain wrong, especially during the season of giving. This isn't your typical "budget better" advice, we're going deep into why saying "no" is so dang hard.

But we don’t stop there. We also discuss: 

  • Holiday pressure and how the “season of giving” turns our good hearts into overdrawn bank accounts
  • Survivor's guilt and our responsibility to lift as we climb 
  • How a lifetime of people-pleasing can leave you feeling resentful
  • How to say no to: acquaintances who suddenly need "just a little help", family and friends, and people you've helped before
  • Actual useful tactics that work in real life, from setting dedicated budgets to learning the art of the "alternative offer," and how to say no without feeling like a total jerk
  • Why "they'll figure it out" is so powerful and how letting people solve their own problems might be the best help you can give

This is a vulnerable episode for anyone who finds themselves saying "yes" just to avoid being rude, or because they think being generous is the only way to be a good person. We've been there, and hopefully, you find this helpful.


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