I realized that sometimes, life gets the best of you. Sometimes there are big disruptive events that ruin your light or small mini-events that chip away at you. Sometimes you find yourself waking up in the morning dreading the day.  OR you wake up and replaying all the ways people have hurt you. Sometimes those things cause you to skew your vision of yourself and your future yourself. During those times you have to be clear about who you are, and use strategies to keep that person in tact.