If you tell yourself "just one more time" and then find yourself checking his phone thirty minutes later, your nervous system has turned phone checking into your only source of safety. You're not weak or broken—your brain has learned that checking equals relief, and now you're stuck in a spiral of urgency, temporary calm, crushing self-judgment, and checking again. The problem isn't willpower. The real issue is the faulty core beliefs underneath driving this compulsive behavior.

In this episode, Katie reveals why phone checking is just a symptom of deeper wounds you haven't healed yet, and why trying to stop the behavior without healing the root will never work. You'll discover the exact spiral keeping you trapped, why your husband's porn cycle is identical to your checking cycle (yes, really), and how to find genuine safety within yourself instead of his phone. When you heal what's underneath, phone checking naturally becomes irrelevant—no willpower required.

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