“Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections, but instantly set about remedying them - every day begin the task anew.”
~ St. Francis de Sales

Why are my habits so hard to change?
Why do I keep doing the things I don't want to do?
How do I build a new habit and get rid of others?

In Episode 60, Kenna and Pat Millea take a deep dive into the psychology and spirituality of habit formation. They unpack the common struggles that we face when trying to build or break habits and encourage a self-compassionate approach that motivates us toward real change. Drawing insights from sources like Thomas Aquinas and James Clear's Atomic Habits, they explore how habits can align with spiritual goals and lead to a Christ-centered life. Whether you're hoping to be free from habitual sin or to create a workout routine, this episode offers practical tips for habit formation, paying attention to cues, cravings, responses, and rewards. Join us for a clearer way toward self-discipline and holiness!

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Episode 60 Show Notes

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Chapters:
0:00: Introduction and Highs & Hards
9:21: Why habits matter
18:33: The four stages of a habit
29:05: Analyzing my cues & the way habits compound
41:21: Challenge By Choice

Reflection Questions:

1. What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?
2. How can habit formation be a tool to enrich your spiritual life, and not just as an exercise in self-improvement? 
3. What are one or two bad habits that you want to break?
4. What are one or two good habits that you want to create? 
5. How might you invite the Lord into the work of building good habits? What natural steps can you take through your own will & efforts?

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Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.