In this episode of More Than Roommates, Jonathan “JP’ Pokluda shares about the necessity of tension (dissonance) in marriage and 5 ways we need to S.H.I.F.T. in our marriages. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church.

Scriptures:

PR 15:18, 17:14, 17:19, 20:3

PR 18:2, PR 18:13, James 1:19-20

PR 10:2, 19:11, 28:13

PR 19:11, 12:1, 19:20, 25:28

Resources:

This is an edited version of the talk. If you want to watch the video of the Dissonance talk, you can watch it through this link – Dissonance Video.

To hear more about WENI, check out MTR Episode 12 – Identifying Negative Communication Patterns

Questions to Discuss:

1. What’s the benefit of dissonance/conflict/tension in marriage?

2. How can you make hearing and understanding the goal in your marriage (and not winning)?

3. What are some practical ways you need to S.H.I.F.T. in your marriage?