Sarah gets brutally honest about the skill that took years and multiple coaches to master: responding from logic instead of emotion. After noticing patterns of emotional responses from others in recent months, she shares the neuroscience behind why our brains hijack us, how to spot emotional vs. logical responses (in yourself and others), and practical strategies she uses to avoid relationship-destroying reactions. Plus, her confession about what triggers her emotional responses most (spoiler: it involves lunch).

In This Episode, Sarah Discusses...

• The amygdala hijack: Why your logical brain literally goes offline when triggered

• Clear signs someone (including you) is responding emotionally vs. logically

• How to respond when others are coming at you emotionally

• Three questions to ask before hitting send on any responseThe acceptance piece: sitting with discomfort instead of reactive responding

• Quotes from This Episode

  • "By the time your logical brain even knows something happened, your emotional brain has already decided to do its own response."
  • "We all know those phrases, right? They're professional ways to say, I'm basically really pissed off, and I want you to know it without me actually saying I'm pissed off."
  • "Our first gut response in those situations is usually not the most helpful. The one that comes after we pause, when we sleep, when we eat - that usually solves problems and builds relationships."

  
  

  Action Steps & Takeaways

  • Track your emotional response patterns using the ABC model (Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence)
  • Implement the HALT check before responding to triggering situations
  • Practice the 12-24 hour rule on one small trigger this week
  • Ask yourself: "Am I trying to be right, or am I trying to solve the problem?"
  • Use incompatible behaviors (walking, breathing exercises) to prevent emotional responding

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