ABA Redefined - Episode 19: The Energy You Keep - Who’s Shaping Your Reality’

Release Date: 10/29/2025

Duration: 18 minutes

Host: Sarah Burby, BCBA, Founder of MindBodyBehavior

Episode Description

Your circle isn't just nice to have—it's literally shaping who you're becoming. In this raw and energizing episode, Sarah gets real about the invisible power of the people you surround yourself with and why "your vibe attracts your tribe" isn't just a cute saying. From mastermind groups that blow her ceiling off to draining relationships she had to step back from, Sarah breaks down how to audit your inner circle and intentionally curate the energy that will unleash (not limit) your potential.

In this Episode Sarah Discusses...

• Why the upcoming MindBodyBehavior retreat has her so amped she can't sleep until 2 AM

• The two types of people: those who lift you up and those who drain your energy

• How her mastermind group destroys limiting beliefs about what's possible

• The neuroscience behind it: state-dependent memory and how your emotional state shapes what you learn and recall

• Thinking about growth like shaping successive approximations in ABA terms

Quotes From This Episode

"Who we keep in our inner circle is literally who is shaping who we become. And I think that a lot of people really underestimate that."

"If they can do it, why can't I do that? Maybe I've been selling myself short for X amount of years. Maybe I'm much more capable than what I've been doing and what I've let myself believe."

"Can you imagine what would happen if you started believing in yourself as fiercely as you've been clinging onto your excuses, as fiercely as you've been doubting yourself?"

"Your energy is so precious. I just need you to understand that, and it's up to you to be intentional as hell about who and what you allow into your space."

"The world needs you to stop playing small. It needs you to stop hiding your magic and stop believing the BS about who you can't be."

"I am deliberate about my influences. I surround myself with people who believe boldly and move bravely. I choose energy that unleashes my potential, not limits it."

This Week's Challenge

1. Audit your top five influences - people, social media accounts, podcasts. What energy are they amplifying in you?

2. Have one conversation about an energy-draining dynamic. How could you realign it with compassion?

3. Invite one person into your circle who embodies the energy you want to grow. Tell them why.

4. Notice how your potential expands when you do this work.

• MindBodyBehavior's First In-Person Retreat (April 2025)

• State-dependent memory research

• Shaping and successive approximations (ABA concepts)

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