What's A Good Guy?

Episode 341: The Spark


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Does a great relationship require that instant spark—or is true love built slowly over time? In this episode, we dive deep into the myths of attraction, chemistry, and how relationships really grow. From the excitement of butterflies to the security of a slow burn, we explore why so many people walk away from amazing potential partners simply because they didn't feel fireworks right away. Psychology even has a name for this—the Mere Exposure Effect—showing how love often grows from familiarity, consistency, and trust, not just instant chemistry. We also unpack how the "spark" can sometimes be misleading. What feels like passion can actually be anxiety disguised as excitement—the constant wondering, "Do they like me? Do they not?" That rollercoaster can feel addictive, but it doesn't always lead to lasting love. Whether you've chased sparks in the past, settled into a slow-burn love story, or are still figuring it out, this conversation challenges the dating myths we've been told and reveals what truly makes relationships meaningful. ⸻

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• Why the "spark" is often overrated (and misunderstood) • How slow-burn attraction leads to deeper, lasting love • The role of the Mere Exposure Effect in building connection

• Why butterflies may actually be alarm bells of anxiety

• How to recognize secure, healthy love over short-lived chemistry ⸻

✨ If you've ever wondered whether you should wait for fireworks or lean into familiarity, this episode will give you the clarity you need. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more honest conversations on love, relationships, and everything in between. #whatsagoodguy

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