What are the 4 Horsemen of communication and conflict? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss four negative patterns all couples need to watch out for and remove—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John M. Gottman

Scriptures Referenced:

Philippians 2:14, Proverbs 21:19, James 4:6, 1 Peter 5:5, 1 Timothy 1:15

Questions to Discuss:

1. How can you fight back against being overly critical of your spouse?

2. Text your spouse right now and tell them one reason why you’re grateful for them.

3. With which one of the four horsemen do you most readily identity with? What can you do to minimize this negative behavior in your marriage?