In this episode, we dive into the complex, beautiful, and sometimes messy world of ADHD and relationships with psychotherapist and relationship expert Anita Robertson. Together, we explore how neurodiversity shapes the way we love, communicate, and connect — especially when both partners are navigating different brain wiring.

Anita shares her personal journey with ADHD, how it influenced her path into couples therapy, and why traditional relationship models often miss the mark for neurodiverse couples. Drawing from her clinical work and lived experience, she explains how emotional regulation, attachment patterns, and family dynamics intersect with ADHD — and how couples can build tools that actually work for them.

We also talk about late diagnoses, generational patterns, and the powerful role of awareness in breaking cycles of shame and misunderstanding. From the impact of rejection sensitivity to the importance of praise and curiosity in relationships, this conversation is packed with practical insights and heartfelt moments.

Whether you’re in a neurodiverse relationship, recently diagnosed, or simply curious about how ADHD shows up in connection and intimacy, this episode offers compassion, validation, and actionable takeaways.

What You’ll Learn

• How ADHD traits influence romantic and family relationships
• Why emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity can create conflict cycles
• The connection between attachment styles, trauma history, and neurodiversity
• How late ADHD diagnoses can reshape identity and relationships
• Practical ways couples can communicate and support each other more effectively

About the Guest

Anita Robertson is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and relationship specialist focused on helping neurodiverse couples thrive. She integrates attachment-based, emotionally focused, and Gottman-informed approaches with ADHD-affirming strategies, and is the author of ADHD and Us: A Couple’s Guide to Loving and Living with Adult ADHD.

Resources & Links Mentioned:

• Grandma Has ADHD Community & Resources
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• Jami Shapiro – ADHD Coaching & Sparkler Society
  https://jamishapiro.me
• Silver Linings Transitions
  (ADHD-informed organizing & move management)
  https://silverliningstransitions.com

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Key Themes

ADHD • Neurodiverse Relationships • Emotional Regulation • Attachment • Family Patterns • Late Diagnosis • Communication Tools

Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life.

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