The Notebook is one of the most beloved romance films of the 21st century. When I run this activity, whether it's at a rationality workshop or Vibecamp, and I ask someone to summarize what it's about, there's usually (less and less as the years go by) someone who, eyes shining bright, will happily describe what a moving love story it is—all about a man, Noah, who falls in love with a woman named Allie one summer, writes her every day for a year after they're separated, reconnects with her years later, and then in old age reads their story to her in a nursing home because she has dementia, helping her remember their love until they die peacefully in each other's arms.

And none of that is wrong. That is the bulk of what happens in the movie.

But when I follow up by asking them how the relationship started (which, in a dozen instances of running this event, only one person has ever independently volunteered)... well, my favorite reaction was back in 2021, when the teenage girl's face immediately shifted from glowing enthusiasm to a sheepish “OH… right, that was actually quite problematic, wasn’t it?”

“Problematic.” Ah, the [...]

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(04:40) Media

(09:21) Family

(13:47) Religion and Culture

(18:15) Friends and Peers

(23:03) Now What?

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