ESSAY Magazine (An International Journal of Sexaholics Anonymous)

Turning to God one moment at a time, one day at a time, is a way of life he is committed to with God’s help and the Fellowship’s support. 

Made a decision. When I first came into recovery in 1998, I thought making a decision was a one-time event. Almost 30 years later, I've learned the hard lesson that I have to make a decision every day—sometimes multiple times a day. As my sponsor told me months ago, sometimes it's 25, 30, 40, 50 times a day or more. I'm faced with challenges every day.

“Throughout our structure a traditional “Right of Appeal” ought to prevail, so that minority opinion will be heard and personal grievances receive careful consideration.”

Just because a minority exists does not mean that the minority gets ignored. Responsible recovery requires that we go out of our way to ensure that the minority gets ample opportunity to express its thoughts and feelings. We must avoid the tyranny of the majority.

The Fellowship’s Support and accountability helped her take responsibility for her recovery and embrace the Program.

I was an 18-year-old girl, broken and abandoned, who had experienced many destructive relationships. I was very confused about my career, education, and family, and felt hopeless about the future.

Surrendering one expectation after another produced a cleaned slate at the end of the day.

One day it just seemed like nothing was going right, and I was getting angrier and angrier. I prayed the Serenity Prayer, and that helped some. Making a mental gratitude list helped as well by counting the things that were going right. Whatever I focus on increases, and now I was focused on the good rather than the bad.

In June, she presented Part One, the challenges of women in SA. Now she will focus on the solution as we know it today.

As a review, in Part One we looked at the following:

Being attentive during the day and surrendering all to God before bed helps him rest in acceptance. 

Can I stop a bird from flying over my head? No. Can I stop that bird from building a nest in my hair? Yes. It’s the same thing with dreams. I can’t control what my subconscious mind does, but I can control how I respond.

He learned how to fire his old God and hire a new and caring one.

When I was a boy, I called out to God many times, especially when I was in pain. My father physically and verbally abused me. I begged God for him to die; I cried in prayer for things to be different. But the abuse got worse. It is hard to understand why this happened, and some things I may never understand.

The Tamil Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) Online Group celebrated its third anniversary with a two-day recovery workshop and fellowship. 

The gathering was held on February 14–15, 2026, at Dhanam Foundation in Madurai, a historic temple city located in the state of Tamil Nadu in South India.

SA has been a source of great strength and recovery during a time when all hope seemed lost.

“You’re an addict.” I had spent the night in a cold jail cell on the worst day of my life. My wife was the first to tell me this truth, which I instinctively knew had to be right. I was definitely addicted to something and needed help. 

The ESSAY’s December edition is “Amends: Straightening Out the Past”. We will be exploring the challenges that we faced when approaching this step that can sometimes be intimidating. How do members focus on the current step instead of being distracted by Step Nine? Some of us determined that our worst harms would never see the light of day. The wonder of the Steps is that we increase strength and power as we take each step so that we have all we need by the time we reach Step Nine. Facing this powerful and freeing Step brings to a close the vital need to remove the blocks in our path and introduces us to the last three Steps that we will be living in for the rest of our lives: ten, eleven, and twelve.