In this episode, Brad sits down with pastor and author Kyle Idleman to talk about the unseen thought patterns that quietly shape our marriages. Kyle shares the heart behind his new book Every Thought Captive and why so much of the transformation we hope for in marriage never sticks, because we try to change our behavior without ever changing our thinking.

He unpacks how strongholds form, why simply trying to “stop thinking something” rarely works, how to replace lies with biblical truth, and why the gospel itself begins with admitting weakness and asking for help. Kyle also explains how Romans 12 and neuroplasticity surprisingly say the same thing about renewing the mind.

If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same patterns in your marriage, this conversation offers a hopeful first step: before you try to fix your marriage… fix your thoughts.

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🔑 KEY IDEAS:
• Why unseen thought patterns quietly shape your marriage
• How strongholds form (and how to break them with Scripture)
• The lie: “Asking for help means failure” (Kyle’s personal example)
• Romans 12 and neuroplasticity: what science and Scripture agree on
• How gratitude and intentional thinking reshape your brain
• Using Philippians 4 as a filter for your thoughts about your spouse
• Why lasting change starts in your thoughts, not your behavior

📚 KEY VERSES
📖 Romans 12:2 – “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
📖 Philippians 4:8 -- “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
📖 2 Corinthians 10:5 – “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

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