Faith & Feels

In this 60th episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Young Sang Ryu from Begin Again Institute for a rich and insightful conversation about sex addiction, developmental trauma, and healing. Young shares his experience using experiential therapy and psychodrama in intensives for individuals struggling with sex addiction.

One of the most profound insights he shares is that "addicts need to be seen, not fixed" and that "addiction can be a solution to a deeper problem." We explore why healing goes beyond changing behaviors and why people need to feel seen, understood, and connected.

In closing, Young offers powerful words of encouragement for both those struggling with addiction and betrayed partners who are hurting.

This is a meaningful conversation with so much wisdom to take in, so I encourage you to listen to the entire episode.

*For more info on Begin Again Institute, please visit www.beginagaininstitute.com

If you or your loved ones want to personally reach out to Young with any questions, you can email him at [email protected]

Resources for Addicts:

www.sa.org

www.saa-recovery.org

www.start.joinrelay.app

For further training on Somatic Experiential Therapy for professionals:

https://www.ehcmemphis.com/somex

Pixabay Music: "Viacheslavstarostin" and "Music Gentle Touch"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Faith and Fields

01:44 Understanding Addiction and Trauma

03:09 Young Song Ru's Background and BAI

05:03 The Nature of Sex Addiction

11:10 Developmental Trauma and Emotional Attunement

15:05 The Misconception of Behavioral Management

17:43 Faith and Addiction Recovery

21:14 The Importance of Being Seen in Recovery

24:02 Physical Expression of Emotions

27:24 Understanding Emotions in the Body

29:43 The Body's Response to Emotions

32:03 Experiential Therapy Techniques

34:32 Understanding Addiction Through Childhood Experiences

39:44 The Role of Psychodrama in Therapy

42:12 The Importance of Group Therapy

46:03 Encouragement for Addicts Seeking Help

49:17 Support for Partners of Addicts

53:00 Cultural Perspectives on Healing

57:16 Conclusion and Resources

In this 59th episode of Faith & Feels, I share "My Random Rambling Reflections" on what has been happening in my life, my work, and the things that have been weighing on my heart lately.

I start by sharing about finally launching the YouTube channel I said I was going to start this year—and actually doing it! I then talk about a recent client case that has deeply grieved my heart while also reigniting my passion for speaking up about sex and porn addiction. I reflect on the deep and complex childhood trauma that can exist underneath addictive sexual behaviors and why so many people need support to heal the wounds that have never been addressed.

I also share my heartfelt plea to parents to have honest, age-appropriate conversations with their children about sex, pornography, and the digital world. I feel a deep burden for young children who are being exposed to pornography and other digital harms before they are emotionally or developmentally prepared to process them. I talk about why children need safe adults they can turn to, and why creating an open line of communication with our kids matters so much.

I also get a little more personal and share what I've been learning about self-care as a therapist and as someone who is constantly pouring into others. I talk honestly about my own struggle with imposter syndrome and the humbling journey of learning to recognize the impact I can have, even when I don't always feel confident in myself. Seeing clients experience breakthroughs and make progress in their recovery has brought me so much gratitude for the work I get to do and continues to propel me forward.

I share about a deeply encouraging prayer I received recently at PIHOP and how it reminded me that I also need to slow down, receive, and care for my own soul—not just continually pour out to others.

I close the episode with Isaiah 61:1–4, a passage that has been deeply meaningful to me. Its call to heal the brokenhearted, rebuild ancient ruins, and restore what has been devastated across generations feels closely connected to the heart behind my work, my ministry, and why I continue to speak about these difficult topics.

This episode is a little more personal, reflective, and unfiltered—and ultimately a reminder to slow down, take care of ourselves, and remember that healing and restoration can happen one person, one family, and one generation at a time.

Resources:

https://www.youtube.com/@FaithFeels

www.pihop.com

www.defendyoungminds.com

www.protectyoungeyes.com

www.fightthenewdrug.org

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Rayna Lee for a meaningful and eye-opening conversation about human trafficking, the sexualization of women, and the impact media can have on our body image, self-worth, and identity.

Together, we explore Rayna's personal experiences, cultural influences, and the ways our society often places value on appearance and sexuality. We also talk about the importance of faith in helping us reclaim our identity and remember that our worth is not determined by societal pressures or how others see us.

This conversation is an invitation to grow in awareness, pursue healing, and see ourselves and others through the eyes of God—created with dignity, purpose, and immeasurable worth.

Recommended Resources:

www.elpozodevida.org

www.timtebowfoundation.org

Takeaways:

-The conversation focuses on human trafficking and sexualization of women.

-Media plays a significant role in shaping body image and self-worth.

-Personal experiences in Mexico highlight the harsh realities of trafficking.

-Cultural narratives often glamorize exploitation and desensitize viewers.

-Social media pressures young women to seek validation through appearance.

-True empowerment should not come at the cost of one's dignity.

-God's love and acceptance are foundational to understanding self-worth.

-Comparison with others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.

-The importance of community and support in navigating these issues.

-Finding identity in faith can provide true freedom and healing.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Faith and Feels

01:26 Exploring Human Trafficking and Sexualization

04:51 Personal Experiences with Human Trafficking

09:26 Cultural Impact of Media on Body Image

13:39 The Connection Between Media and Real-World Issues

18:02 Personal Stories from the Streets of Mexico

22:20 The Glamourization of Exploitation

26:01 The Pressure of Social Media on Young Women

30:22 Finding Worth Beyond Social Validation

33:30 Empowerment vs. Exploitation in the Digital Age

39:19 God's Unconditional Love and Acceptance

43:44 Final Thoughts on Worth and Identity

*Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarostin" and "InplusMusic"

In this 57th episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Paul Ho from El Pozo de Vida, an anti-human trafficking organization in Mexico, for an honest conversation about what healthy masculinity looks like through the lens of faith.

Together, we explore how our identity as sons of God shapes the way men lead, love, and live. Paul shares his personal journey of healing, the impact of his relationship with his father, and how embracing vulnerability and emotional honesty became part of his transformation. We also discuss the difference between healthy and toxic masculinity, the importance of mentorship and community, and why Jesus is the ultimate model of strength, humility, and compassion.

Whether you're a man pursuing personal growth, someone who loves and supports the men in your life, or you're simply curious about what biblical masculinity really looks like, I hope this conversation encourages you to embrace your identity in Christ and reminds you that true strength is found in humility, authenticity, and grace.

More info:

www.elpozodevida.org

Key Topics:

-What healthy masculinity looks like through faith and vulnerability

-Personal stories of healing and identity

-Biblical examples of compassion and emotional expression

-The importance of community and mentorship for men

-Addressing toxic masculinity and its roots in cultural and spiritual issues

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the episode and guest

01:17 Paul Ho shares his background and work in Mexico

04:10 The spiritual and secular streams of justice work

06:33 Paul’s marathon as a metaphor for healing and identity

08:57 The healing power of a letter from Paul’s father

13:38 God’s message: Just be my son

16:58 The biblical view of masculinity and Jesus’ example

22:20 Healthy masculinity modeled by Jesus

30:02 The impact of toxic masculinity and cultural pressures

33:10 Mentorship and community in developing healthy masculinity

39:25 The importance of emotional awareness and vulnerability

45:01 Processing emotions and coping mechanisms

50:20 Acknowledging behaviors and personal growth

55:46 The role of personal responsibility and grace

01:00:16 Closing thoughts and blessings

*Pixabay Music : "Waterfall" and "Viacheslavstarostin"

In this deeply personal episode, my husband Henry shares the story of losing his father and the days that followed. Together, we reflect on the reality of grief, the gift of being present with loved ones, and how faith can sustain us through life's hardest goodbyes. This isn't a conversation filled with easy answers—it's an honest look at sorrow, hope, and the ways God meets us in our pain.

Whether you're grieving a loved one, walking alongside someone who is, or simply navigating a season of loss, we hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. There is space for tears, for questions, and for hope—even in the midst of heartache.

Resources:

"Footprints in the Sand" Poem

"Waymaker" "King of Kings" "Amazing Grace" Worship Songs

Matthew 17:20 (ESV)

"He said to them, 'Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, "Move from here to there," and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.'"

Luke 23:42–43 (ESV)

And he said, "Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom."

And he said to him, "Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise."

*Pixabay Music: "Viacheslavstavrostin Music" and "Christian Instrumental"

In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Kristen Whitmore for a heartfelt conversation about parenting, sexuality, pornography, and the importance of creating safe and honest conversations with our children. Together, we explore why parents play such an important role in initiating these discussions, navigating the awkwardness that can come with them, and helping children develop healthy understanding and connection rather than shame.

We also talk about personal experiences, sexual brokenness, emotional safety, and the impact shame can have on both parents and children. Kristen and I discuss the importance of understanding trauma, fostering emotional connection within families and relationships, and equipping kids to navigate today’s culture with wisdom, honesty, and grace.

Throughout the episode, we emphasize that parents do not need to approach these conversations perfectly—just intentionally, openly, and with compassion. We also reflect on the role of faith, community, and the church in supporting families through these often difficult but deeply important conversations.

Recommended Resources:

www.protectyoungeyes.com

http://www.youtube.com/@WithThePerrys

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-sexual-trauma-and-gods-design-with-dr-juli-slattery/id1458672189?i=1000761065464

"Sex, Sexual Trauma, and God's Design with Dr.Julie" Podcast

*For info on Kristen Whitmore, visit www.renewchurchoc.com

www.renewchurchoc.com/meet-the-staff

Books to Read with Kids on Sex, Porn, Our Bodies:

Good Pictures Bad Pictures by Kristen Jenson

7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson

God Made All of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

*Pixabay Music: "In Plus Music" and "Viacheslavstarostin"

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields

01:39 The Importance of Open Conversations about Sexuality

04:00 Personal Experiences with Sexual Education

09:19 Establishing a Safe Space for Discussions

15:35 Navigating Awkwardness in Conversations

21:24 Addressing Pornography and Its Impact

25:17 Understanding Shame and Vulnerability

28:12 Navigating Shame in Parenting and Sexuality

30:03 Exploring Sexual Trauma and God's Design

34:51 Understanding Sexual Brokenness in Youth

38:15 Unmet Sexual Needs and Masculinity

42:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection

46:55 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations

51:03 Finding Community and Support in the Church

In this episode, I sit down with Joshua De La Cruz, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what teens are really facing in today’s digital world. We explore everything from video game overuse to the deeper emotional needs underneath behavior, and how parents can show up with more curiosity, authenticity, and compassion. Josh shares practical insight on building stronger relationships with teens and creating spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. If you’d like to connect with Josh or learn more about his work, you can visit www.delacruztherapy.com.

Takeaways:

Joshua De La Cruz is passionate about supporting teens.

Video game addiction is a common issue among teens.

Building connections with youth requires compassion and curiosity.

Understanding the underlying needs behind addiction is crucial.

Parents often seek therapy out of desperation.

Creating a safe space for teens to express themselves is vital.

The importance of creativity in youth cannot be overlooked.

Relationships with young clients can be deeply impactful.

Parents should approach their teens with authenticity and humility.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Faith & Feels

01:54 Meet Joshua De La Cruz: A Journey into Mental Health

07:03 Understanding Teen Challenges in a Digital World

11:17 The Impact of Video Game Addiction

18:44 Building Compassionate Connections with Teens

22:07 The Importance of Creativity in Youth

27:14 Valuing Relationships with Young Clients

35:47 Advice for Parents: Connecting with Teens

*Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarostin" "In Plus Music"

In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Dr. Kervins Clement, CSAT, founder of Clement Counseling and Consulting who is trained in sex addiction, Gottman Method, EFT, and EMDR. We dive into a profound conversation about the intersections of trauma, sexuality, and healing. We talk about the concept of eroticized rage, the complexities of shame in sexual experiences, and the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey. Dr. Clement shares his insights on reclaiming sexual identity and intimacy, and we discuss the need for more open and honest conversations about sexuality within the church and beyond. We close the episode with encouragement for those in recovery, talking about the importance of doing the work for yourself and recognizing that healing is a continuous journey.

Resources:

https://www.youtube.com/@DrKervinsClement

Takeaways:

Today's episode includes sensitive topics around sexual health and trauma.

Eroticized rage is when feelings of anger become intertwined with sexual arousal.

The body responds to sensations without choosing what's right or wrong.

Shame can complicate the understanding of sexual arousal in trauma survivors.

Healing involves reclaiming one's sexual identity and desires.

Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process.

Conversations about sex should be normalized to reduce shame.

Recovery requires hard work, accountability, and ownership.

You are not your addiction; focus on your health and well-being.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Faith

01:48 Meet Dr. Kervins Clement: Background and Expertise

09:02 Understanding Eroticized Rage

19:44 Navigating Shame and Trauma in Sexuality

27:40 Reclaiming Sexual Identity and Intimacy

39:25 The Importance of Self-Compassion

46:22 Encouragement for Those in Recovery

Pixabay Music : "In plus Music" "Viacheslavstarostin"

(*Fully Updated Version from Episode 44)

In this eye opening and honest conversation, I’m joined by Kristen Whitmore and Pastor Wilson Wang from Renew Church on the SOLA Leaders Podcast to talk about a topic the Church often avoids — sex and love addiction.

Together, we explore the reality that many believers silently struggle with pornography, shame, and relational brokenness, and why creating safe, grace-filled spaces for these conversations is essential for true healing. I share my personal journey into becoming a therapist and how my own story shaped my passion for integrated healing — where faith, emotional health, and relationships come together.

In this episode, we unpack the difference between sexual addiction and love addiction, the deeper longing for connection and approval beneath these patterns, and the ripple effects pornography has on individuals, marriages, and mental health. We also talk about why accountability, community, and honest discipleship are key to recovery — and how the Church can move from silence to support.

Most importantly, this conversation is a reminder that no one is beyond hope. Freedom, transformation, and wholeness are possible when we step out of isolation and into the light. If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, longed for deeper healing, or wondered how the Church can respond with both truth and compassion, this episode is for you.

*This episode belongs to Sola Network Leaders Podcast. For more info, visit www.sola.network.com

Recommendations:

www.joinrelay.app

www.sherecovery.org

www.puredesireministries.org

www.fightthenewdrug.com

www.sa.org

Books:

"Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" by Barna Report

"Unwanted" by Jay Stringer

"Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody

*Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarrostin"

Sound Bites:

"This podcast is for those who love Jesus."

"We talk about sex and love addiction in the church."

"Sex addiction is a hidden and prevalent sin."

"Love addiction stems from abandonment."

"We want to normalize these conversations."

"We need accountability to fight this fight."

"The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it's connection."

"There's hope, there's transformation available."

"You are not alone in this struggle."

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields

01:34 Exploring Sexual and Love Addiction

02:57 Rika's Journey to Therapy

11:12 Understanding Love Addiction

13:54 Bringing Conversations to the Church

16:46 Creating Safe Spaces for Women

19:32 The Role of Accountability in Recovery

23:21 Engaging in Conversations about Sexual Addiction

28:09 Statistics on Sexual Addiction

31:17 The Damaging Effects of Pornography

34:11 The Importance of Connection in Recovery

39:37 Words of Hope for Ministry Leaders

Happy New Year 2026 Everyone!

This episode is just a casual conversation with me and my husband, Henry. We’re sharing a little about what life has been like lately, a goal we have for the new year, and some encouraging moments from our journey with therapy and God.

Sit back, relax, and just hang out with us.

I’ll be posting once a month now (with maybe an occasional surprise bonus episode). I’m hoping to preserve more energy for my personal relationships, my spiritual community, and a few side projects.

Thank you for walking alongside me. I hope these conversations continue to bring you small doses of joy and encouragement.

*Resources mentioned :

www.fullyhealth.org

"Run to the Father "Worship Song by Cody Carnes

Pixabay Music : "Calm Soft Music"