Famous at Home

This past year we lost one of our dearest friends and mentors, Bill Lokey. As we close out the year, we were listening back to some of his wisdom and gold nuggets and thought it would be a tremendous gift to re-release a series we did together in 2020. He was a gift to us, and his insights, wisdom, and influence will continue to echo across generations, no doubt.

In his honor, we're releasing this four-part series, recorded in 2020, to share with you again his insights on leadership, connection, and trauma.

In part 1 of the series, we begin with the heart of leadership. Because no matter our stage, we lead people. As a parent, you lead your kids. As a spouse, you lead your husband or wife. At work, you lead your employees, congregants, soldiers, clients, and teams.

How would each person you lead describe your ability to connect to their reality? And how much do we pay attention to those realities versus focusing solely on our own? As Bill describes, the quality of how well we lead rises or falls on our inner world. And the people we lead, feel it.

In this series, we cover The Heart of Leadership, The Heart of Connection, The Heart of Trauma, and The Heart of Your Culture.

In this first episode, Josh and Bill talk about:

• What makes a person a leader
• What happens when we feel like we're not enough or don't have what it takes to lead
• Why we have a tendency to focus more on reputation than character
• What happens when your stage is ripped out from under you
• How to transition well as a leader when bad things happen
• What it means to grieve and why it's critical for how we lead

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart


Sign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout

Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
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Did you know that the English word "priority," when it came into the English language, stayed singular for 500 years? Not until the 1900's did we make it plural. As Greg McKeown suggests, the result is quite dangerous. When everything is priority, nothing is priority.

As we evaluate our overwhelmed schedule, this one simple exercise has helped us cut through the noise. What is the priority (singular)? This evaluation has led us to make some intentional adjustments, which Christi shares on this week's episode.

Here are some takeaways:

• Practical ways to simplify an overwhelming schedule
• How to not only give yourself permission to do less, but other people around you
• The preciousness of time and how we won't get these years back with our kids
• Why Christi is taking a step back and what that looks like

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, February 26-29, 2024:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart


Order a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experiencehttps://amzn.to/47YdliY

Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

The MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort is officially open for registration! Cohort begins February 5, 2024!
Click here to sign up!

Order a copy of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown:
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Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
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In honor of Christi's birthday, Josh talks to her about what this milestone means and how she's processing the feeling of entering a new decade of life. Christi shares valuable lessons she's learned over the last several years, what she plans on leaving behind, and what she wants to bring with her into her 40's.

Here are some takeaways:

• Christi's practice of learning to release a high achieving mindset and just let herself "be"
• How to discern if you're living in your true authentic self, or from your false self
• How refreshing it is for everyone around you, when you can be real and let go of what others think of you, or what you think others think of you.
• The upside down kingdom of God, and how He makes significant what the world finds unpopular

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Order a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience
https://amzn.to/3R92zRd

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Listen to this episode on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/famousathomepodcast

Grammy Award-winning singer / songwriter, worship leader, author, and all around incredible human being, Matt Redman, joins us to talk about living a wholehearted life. Matt is one of those rare souls, a man who not only lives whole-heartedly, but who pursues a congruent life both on and off stage.

We talk about how to prioritize our emotional health while navigating the often lonely, fast-paced, and unrelenting world we live in. Our emotional and spiritual well-being often hangs in the balance of leading at work and showing up at home.

We also talk about the Leader's Heart Cohort, what it means to be famous at home, and leadership as an act of worship. Matt describes how to identify your first "yes" when it comes to showing up well at home.

Show Notes:
Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Order a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience
https://amzn.to/3R92zRd Learn more about Matt Redman:https://mattredman.com

Listen to Matt Redman's podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-wor-th-podcast/id1565062773

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Listen to this episode on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0_Wyfa-hCkQp46d3cLTDpw

*Warning: In this wholesome conversation with our children, we talk about Santa Claus. The phrase in our home is, "Santa is pretend, and in our home, we pretend." For that reason, and that reason alone, you may want to guard little listening ears.

In this heartfelt episode, we invited our two oldest kids, Landon (11) and Kennedy (9), to talk about our family devotional, 25 Days of the Christmas Story, and to share their perspective on what Christmas really means to them. Sometimes, what we think matters to our children, isn't at all what they care about. We hope this conversation offers an open door for you to talk to your children what Christmas means to them. We also share practical ways you can create lasting memories with your family during this holiday season.

Show Notes:

Order a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience
https://amzn.to/49IZpuM

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh + Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Sickness, grief, and loss are inevitable. All of us will experience or walk with close loved ones through sudden loss, or the complexities of a serious or life-threatening illness.

Jane Butler, our dear friend, graphic designer for Famous at Home, and Co-Founder of Near, joins us to talk about her husband's brain cancer, how they navigated two brain surgeries, and how she manages to continue to walk alongside him and her young kids as they face hard things.

In this episode, Jane shares her deep passion and wisdom about the intersection of life, marriage, parenting, serious illness, and grief and her new passion as the co-founder of Near, an organization offering support for those going through difficult times.

Here are some takeaways:

• When someone you love receives a diagnosis and you don't know what to do
• Supporting and organizing care for our hurting friends during a crisis
• How to shy away from "toxic positivity"and not dismiss someone else's pain
• The best way to show compassion for someone experiencing a crisis
• How to lead your young family in the midst of loss, grief, and difficult seasons

Show Notes:

Learn more about Near:
https://staynear.co

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@FamousatHomepodcast

Have you ever worried that you might have missed what God was trying to tell you? Maybe you didn't hear Him correctly? Maybe you even wonder if there's too much noise around you to hear His still, small voice? In this episode, we give an update on our new family adventure, but more importantly, talk about what we've been learning about discerning God's voice in the day-to-day.

Here are some highlights:

• How God has been speaking to us in our current season of adventure
• How to bring God into your season of grief, loss, and loneliness
• Ways to pay attention to what God has for you each day
• The difference between confusion and mystery
• Why God longs to speak to us each day

Show Notes:
Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort (limited spots available):
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Leave our podcast a review to help others find out about it:
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Instead of seeing the "good stuff" right in front of us, we often hold a mental checklist of what will get better "someday." The impact this has on our children cannot go unnoticed.

In this episode, we talk about the fruit that comes from seeing and celebrating the good stuff God blesses us with each day.

Here are some takeaways:

• The rhythm God started in Genesis 1 of celebration and reflection, "It is good."
• Practical ways to reflect on "the good" of each day as a family
• How we can emphasize more on celebrating what's "good" as a family in light of the Halloween season
• How the knowledge of our heavenly home can give us perspective on the goodness in our current circumstances

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Leave our podcast a review to help others find out about it:
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We've been on a journey of simplifying our lives. While it hasn't been the easiest path, we're discovering unexpected beauty along the way.

This week, we share what we're learning during this time of scaling back and embracing a quieter season, how it's bringing more clarity to our family's purpose, and how it's also unearthed a newfound joy for our family. When we as parents find our God-given lane, and stay faithful to pursuing it without getting distracted with unnecessary "yeses" and busyness, we give our kids a gift.

In this episode, we talk about stripping down the self-imposed pressures, tasks, and busyness we've accumulated along the way, so that we can experience a more fulfilling, purposeful lifestyle that God intended for us.

Here are some takeaways:

• How our busyness, fear of missing out, and people-pleasing tendencies impact our kids
• Practical ways to make decisions based on your body's signals and needs
• How daily scripture reading changes how you view the world
• The tension, differences, and rewards between making your name known on earth vs. making it known in God's Kingdom
• How to discover your God-given lane and own it, so that your calling and desires align

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort!
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Leave our podcast a review to help others find out about it:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/famous-at-home/id1185660348?see-all=reviews

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@FamousatHomepodcast

Our nervous system's main job is to protect us, but what happens when it's our kid's need for more of us (more time, more play, more food, more...more...more...) that makes us feel unsafe? How do we recognize it? And how do we take care of ourselves while also letting our kids know that their needs matter?

In this episode, we share practical ways to discern between when it's necessary to take care of ourselves when we feel unsafe, and also how to prioritize our kid's needs so they feel safe.Here are some highlights:

• The nervous system and how our bodies react when we have nothing left to give our kids
• Practical ways to come out of fight, flight, or freeze so that you can be present with your kids
• Why scheduling command-free time with your kids throughout the day is gold for your relationship
• Physical touch as a way of showing your kids that you are present
• The critical reality of letting your yes be yes and no be no
• How to model repair and forgiveness with your kids when you don't get it right, as a means of emotional safety in your relationship with them

Show Notes:

Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart

Interested in group coaching with Josh or Christi? Click here for interest form:
https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest

Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Leave our podcast a review to help others find out about it:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/famous-at-home/id1185660348?see-all=reviews

Send us podcast topic ideas:
https://www.famousathome.com/podcast

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@FamousatHomepodcast