Famous at Home

Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

*Note: We originally titled this episode On Motherhood, Healing, and Finding Your Voice. However, we changed the title after the recording because the content is about becoming a calmer parent, and whether you're a mom or dad, the journey to become calmer is for all of us. 

In this episode, Josh interviews Christi on her 17-year journey of chronic pain and how the healing journey of her physical pain surprisingly taught her things about herself that emotionally helped her become calmer and more present with her kids. 

Some highlights include:

• How to overcome difficult seasons of our lives and embrace the gradual process of healing
• Discerning between internal or external influences keeping us living in fight or flight mode
• Practical ways we reconnect back to ourselves and how that can help us be a calmer presence for our children
• The importance of paying attention to what your body needs in small doses  

Here are timestamps for each of the topics:

(3:23) Honoring Moms

(3:54) Josh + Christi’s revealing conversation about how they communicate

(7:07) Christi sharing the importance of her finding her voice and sharing what people need to hear

(8:06) How our voice is a light on a hill, carrying the Kingdom of God with us wherever we go

(9:30) The importance of Mother’s Day and the fuel that Mother’s Day should be for a mother 

(11:20) Why being told she was “calm” meant so much to Christi and the influence the body has on our emotions

(14:40) Christi shares about her 17 years of chronic pain and what she’s learned about how God speaks to us through our bodies

(18:15) Why the body cannot heal in a constant state of fight or flight, and how to recognize whether our hurriedness is coming from internal or external influences

(20:45) How Christi got “calm” and practical ways become calmer

(25:30) How our child's needs can feel unsafe to us, and how to calmly respond to our child's needs instead of reacting to them

(30:11) Honor your journey of healing, no matter where you're at on that journey

(31:57) Encouragement and a blessing from Christi for where you’re at in your journey right now

Show Notes:

Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series.
https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup 

Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.
http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! 
Click here.
https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/DvhMoVpUs20

Welcome to our first Summer Series! This is episode 1 of a 5 part series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. 

In this episode, we address how we can enter into our child's world and build their emotional resilience. We outline 4 pillars that help us lay a foundation for our kids to manage their emotions, connect with Jesus, and feel seen.

Here are timestamps for each of the topics. 

(00:52) Introduction to the Summer Series

(1:41) Recap of upcoming FAH happenings 

(3:31) The state of mental health in kids 

(8:55) What are the pillars for kids to build emotional resilience? 

(10:43) Pillar #1: Emotional Safety

(18:10) Pillar #2: Learning What the Bible Says

(20:29) Pillar #3: Focus on Who You're Becoming

(25:45) Pillar #4: Find What Helps Your Kids Feel Seen

Show Notes: 

Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. 
https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.
http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! Click here. 
https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

Get a copy of the Famous at Home book. Click here.
https://amzn.to/3yHJheS

Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here. 
https://youtu.be/-JlA3HlWWhs

What if we stop focusing on problems and cultivated the solution? That’s the question driving a major shift happening with Famous at Home. 

Josh + Christi are together this week for a behind-the-scenes look at the last few months—the prayer, the wrestle, and the surrender.  

In this episode, Josh + Christi talk about the “why” behind the shift, the new offerings coming out as a result, the summer podcast series’, and a new rebrand unveiling this fall!

Here’s a timestamp for each of the various topics:  

(3:45) The philosophical shift and blueprint of Famous at Home from solving problems by being the solution.


(7:20) How the first launch of Tender & Fierce is going and what’s coming up for it this summer.  

(11:55) The shift of Famous at Home and how Tender & Fierce is the tip of the spear leading the way both online and in-person.

(16:04) The background story of how we surrendered Famous at Home and the upcoming rebrand and mission.  

(23:57) Josh shares where his heart is and what he’s been working on behind the scenes for husbands and fathers.  

(29:07) What we learned through years of coaching and how we’re shifting to a new way of serving families for greater impact and momentum.

(36:36) Josh revisits what he’s working on for men and why transformation happens not through content but through relationship.

(39:30) What’s coming up this summer for the Famous at Home podcast. Three mini-series’ with downloadable PDF’s for your small groups, family, or personal development:  The series’ will be on the following topics:

Series 1: On Becoming Great Parents
Series 2: Cultivating an Emotional Healthy Marriage
Series 3: Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment for Your Home 

(43:43) What the NEW Famous at Home podcast will look like beginning this fall! (45:53) A brief but thrilling MyKidsEQ update.

(48:11) Why there might be a new outro to the podcast and how that outro fits the new shift.  

Show Notes: 
Sign up for next Tender & Fierce by clicking here:
https://www.famousathome.com/offers/w9RKKZyb

Interested in the men's discipleship community with Josh? Click here: 
https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

What would happen if we could walk into any room bringing our identity, rather than getting our identity from it?   

Following up our episode on giving kids joy permission comes an episode on how to experience joy as a byproduct of walking daily with Jesus in our true identity. When we’re not walking in our true identity, we’ll get it from one of three places:

• what we have
• what we do
• or how we think other people see us.   

In this episode, Steve Petermeyer, a coach with Identity Exchange, joins us to talk about how we can know our true identity, identify when we’re believing a lie about who we are, and how to invite Jesus into telling us the truth.  

Steve also walks through questions we can ask in our faith communities to get us beyond small talk, go below the surface, and live out our unique identity. For example, what are you doing that God never asked you to do? Are there any lies that you’re believing? What is one fear you currently have?

If, as Steve says, “More is caught than taught,” when it comes to raising our children, imagine the implications of living out of our true identity as fathers and mothers.  

In this episode, Steve discusses:

• Why all external conflict is the result of internal conflict
• The two worldviews that influence our identity and how we relate to the world around us
• The two ways we act when we’re walking in our false self
• Four ways to walk with God more intimately, discover your identity, and live in your true self
• What it looks like to “remember” our identity as we walk with and pray to Him each day
• How to recognize an emotion, confess it to God, and ask Him what the truth about that emotion really is
• How we can disciple our children on how to hear from God

Show Notes:  
Check out Living Fearless by Jamie Winship. 
Click here.
https://amzn.to/3UhGyjC 

Listen to Jamie Winship talk about abundance versus scarcity worldviews.
Click here.
https://youtu.be/2s3KWZFCH0A?si=YNR6bAF7ZW8xsZq_ 

To learn more about Identity Exchange, click here. 
https://www.identityexchange.com/coaching

There are so many parenting debates happening right now in the culture at large. Screentime. Discipline. Anxiety.  

But what if we’re focused on the wrong things?  

Instead of trying to fix and manage the problems, what if we cultivated the solution?  

What if the environment we cultivate is the very thing our children need?  

In this episode, Josh talks about their current parenting journey, the two competing worldviews that influence how kids experience joy, and how we can give our kids joy permission.  

Here are some highlights:  

• How two competing worldviews influence the amount of joy in our home
• Why we need joy permission
• Why resourcefulness is a cheat code for helping kids live joyful lives
• The one way to step into joy this week as a family, no matter how difficult the season you find yourself in right now

Show Notes:  
Focus on the Family Broadcast: Click here to listen to Encouraging Your Kids to Discuss Their Feelings
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/encouraging-your-kids-to-discuss-their-feelings/ 

Listen to Jamie Winship talk about abundance versus scarcity worldviews.
Click here.https://youtu.be/2s3KWZFCH0A?si=YNR6bAF7ZW8xsZq_ 

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt.
Click here.https://amzn.to/3vWdgie 

One of our closest friends, Luke Smallbone, who is also one-half of the four-time Grammy award-winning duo For King & Country, joins Josh in the cabin to share stories from his own childhood, which are depicted in a brand new movie hitting theaters everywhere, called Unsung Hero.

Unsung Hero is a true story about his family's adventure of coming to the States from Austrailia, and the ups and downs they experience along the way. In this epsiode, Luke shares how some of these heartfelt moments of prayer, faith, and miracles shaped who his family is today. 

Luke and Josh share plenty of laughs as Luke takes us behind-the-scenes of the making of the film, and how lessons from his own upbringing have influenced who he is today as a father. 

In this episode, Luke shares:

• A behind-the-scenes look at how the song Unsung Hero came about, and how it was then turned into a film.

• What it was like producing a movie about his own childhood.

• His most heartfelt, memorable moments as a boy from scenes in the film.

• Practical lessons he implements as a father today about faith, prayer, and miracles from his own childhood.

Show Notes:
Watch the trailer for Unsung Hero.
https://unsunghero.movie/

Get tickets to the theater to see Unsung Hero, which hits theaters April 26!
https://unsunghero.movie/

Pastor Max Lucado joins us to talk about his new children’s book Just in Case You Ever Feel Alone. Josh’s 9-year-old daughter, Kennedy, joins the show this week to interview Pastor Lucado. 

In this episode, Pastor Lucado describes the consequences of anyone’s given worldview, and how the framework we give to our children influences how they view God and consequently sets them up to handle loneliness.

Pastor Lucado discusses: 

• A framework for helping our children and grandchildren develop a biblical worldview.
• How screens are contributing to the epidemic levels of loneliness of children and teens.
• Why it’s important to take initiative to start conversations.
• An assignment we can all do to establish a culture that combats loneliness. 

Show Notes:  
Get a copy of Just in Case You Ever Feel Alone by Pastor Max Lucado.
https://amzn.to/4ctKDtj 

Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 4, 2024:
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce 

Get a copy of the 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week.
https://amzn.to/3IDTmLI

Christi joins us this week to walk through insights she's gaining from Isaiah 61. In doing so, she shares more about her heart behind and the process of Tender & Fierce.

In Isaiah 61, Isaiah prophecies Jesus as the One to come and bind up all the broken pieces of our heart so that we can heal and live wholeheartedly. What does it mean to experience and walk in that freedom?

In this episode Christi discusses with Josh:

• What it means to live freely, and the one way to know when we’re not walking in our freedom.
• The real reason Jesus wants to set us free and live out His identity for us.
• Why living with global high activation can be deceiving.
• A paradoxical definition of what it means to “run.”

Show Notes:

Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

Get a copy of the 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week. https://amzn.to/3IDTmLI

Should we argue with our kids? How do we set boundaries with them? What kind of parent does it take to raise a strong and loving child?

The President of Love & Logic Institute, Dr. Charles Fay joins us to talk about his new book, with colleague Dr. Daniel Amen, Raising Mentally Strong Kids.

This might be one of the most light-hearted conversations we’ve ever had around what is arguably the most shaming role on the planet—parenting.

Dr. Fay provides super practical insights on raising strong and loving kids.

Here are some key quotes from this episode:

On the goal of parenting: “We bond with people who are strong and loving. We don’t bond with people who are strong but they’re cold. And we don’t bond with people who are loving but they’re permissive and wishy washy. We want to, in the best way we can, emulate God. We want to be strong, and we want to be loving.”

On cultural busyness: “Families don’t go off the rails because they do too many bad things; it’s because they do too many good things.”

On sibling rivalry: “When it comes to sibling rivalry, who owns the relationship problem? When we jump in all of the time and become the hero, it makes it worse.”

Dr. Fay helps us understand:

• What mental hygiene looks like for our kids.
• Why kids are going to fight the boundaries they know they need the most.
• The two ways to not get pulled into arguing with your kids and why they are so important.
• How to set boundaries with kids.
• What to do with phones and technology.
• How to manage sibling rivalry in innovative ways that help them own the relationship problem.

Show Notes:

Grab a copy of Raising Mentally Strong Kids by Dr. Daniel Amen and Dr. Charles Fay.
https://amzn.to/48QldTx

Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 4, 2024:
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

Grab a copy of Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Putting Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and Identity.
https://amzn.to/438Crdt

As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called “parenting?”

And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how I’m engaging the task of “parenting?”

In this episode, I (Josh) talk about what I'm learning from my own spiritual journey right now. From this, I propose a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy).

I have seen these three stages of spiritual development come to light through my own spiritual growth in the past few years and would love to share them with you to see if, and how, you might resonate with them. They are:

Becoming (internal healing and growth).
Present (external presence where others feel seen).
In community (inviting others into our journey).

Show Notes:
Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

Grab a copy of Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Putting Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and Identity: https://amzn.to/438Crdt