Kids are vulnerable, and vulnerability longs for safety. Perhaps it’s no wonder Jesus tells us to become like little children. Over time, our hearts grow hardened.

In this episode, Josh describes what children need, and talks about the “why” behind the new KidsRQ (Relational Intelligence) curriculum. 

*Note: This is a continuation from last week's episode Cultivating Relational Intelligence in Kids
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:20 The vulnerability and dependence of a child
9:40 The presence of Jesus in our healing journey
f11:50 KidsRQ curriculum layout and experiential exercises
16:35 Get in with a free trial of KidsRQ 

Show Notes:
Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com

Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

We all want to raise emotionally intelligent kids. Even more, we want them to be spiritually alive. For us, that’s what relational intelligence is all about. An overflow of experiencing the relational gospel of Jesus.

As we begin season 6, we’re covering relational intelligence in kids. In this episode, we start by introducing a brand new initiative called KidsRQ!

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
3:00 The shift from emotional to relational intelligence
7:56 Kevin Wallace joins the show to talk about the creative journey
14:30 What is KidsRQ?
19:06 Emotion regulation and increasing rates of anxiety and depression in kids
23:18 The key components of KidsRQ

Show Notes:
Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com 

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Christi and Josh talk about the nervous system, childhood wounds, and why the motivation behind our spouse’s anger or criticism is deeper than we often give them credit for.

If you’re looking to have an understanding of your pain cycle and how to cultivate a deeper sense of emotional safety in your marriage, this episode is for you.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:15 Christi and Josh update on life this summer
6:15 Josh shares what’s coming for season 6
7:50 Introduction to the emotionally safe marriage
10:40 Your spouse’s motivation in the pain cycle
18:30 The nervous system, childhood wounds, and your pain cycle
29:17 A practice for interrupting your pain cycle and seeing your spouse
32:25 Learning what feels “safe” for you

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

The Tender & Fierce cohort is coming up again this fall! As we find ourselves sitting in between seasons on the Famous at Home podcast, we are replaying an interview with Christi about what it means to awaken the tender & fierce parts of your heart.

In this interview, Christi talks about how Tender & Fierce got started and answers questions about the Tender & Fierce cohort. She also shares how to awaken the tender and fierce part of who you are, why it begins with curiosity, and how it is enhanced through community.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
4:50 The genesis of and meaning behind Tender & Fierce 
10:46 What you can expect from Tender & Fierce
17:24 Who is Tender & Fierce for?
19:10 Why a Tender & Fierce retreat?
22:05 How to awaken your heart to be tender & fierce

Show Notes: 
Sign up for the Fall 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.
https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

For more information about the Tender & Fierce Cohort, click here. 
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

If you’re interested in a marriage coaching cohort or intensive, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Think about the deep neurobiological connection happening in your brain as you walk into a room and encounter someone who lights up at your presence, and the fulfilling sensation of knowing that person is beaming from the inside out with only one message, “I am so glad to be with YOU!”
 
Without relational joy, there is no relational intelligence. Instead, relational joy is the antidote to the numbing out of our hurried lives because you walk around with a sense of knowing you are seen and loved.

As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, Josh provides what he calls the “JOY STARTS framework”—four principles and corresponding practices spelling the word JOYS to jumpstart relational joy in your life and in the lives of those around you. 

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction & Review of Season 5
4:54 Moving from self-protection to experience life-giving relationships
6:27 How our senses are tied to relational joy
11:38 What relational joy feels like
13:11 Introduction to the JOYS STARTS Framework
13:50 Joy is found in the face - practices that increase facial delight
21:40 Our brains are built for connection - practices for sharing joyful moments
25:02 You return to joy, not just peace - practices for redeemed conflict resolution and resilience
30:51 Set rhythms of joy - practices for daily joy rituals
33:32 Practices for building relational joy in a screen-saturated world

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sam Jolman says, “Talking to your children about sex should be likened to having 100 one-minute conversations.”
 
As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us once again, this time to talk about how to help our kids script a narrative of romance.
 
In this episode, Sam shares profound insights on age-specific ways to talk to your kids about their body, why it’s important to follow their questions, and how to cultivate a value-based, not a fear-based conversation. In the end, the goal is to help our kids experience awe, not live in shame.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:19 Sam Jolman joins the show!
3:10 Talking to kids ages 0 to 6
6:40 A profound insight on shame and glory
12:09 Talking to kids ages 7 to 12
20:50 Moving from fear-based to values-base conversation with your kids
24:40 Talking to teens
30:10 The difference between arousal and lust 
33:20 Preparing our kids for marriage
40:02 Innocence, not naivety

Show Notes:
Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got.
https://amzn.to/4kflULX
 
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout
 
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sam Jolman says, “The realm of evil hates your sexuality… [and] tries to, as quickly and as early as possible, join shame to your sexual story.”

As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us to talk about sex in marriage. Shame wreaks havoc on intimacy and relational connection, keeping us isolated and feeling alone.

It was never intended to be this way. Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam offers a refreshing, pure, and healing perspective on how to discuss, heal, and redeem intimacy with your spouse.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
2:39 Sam Jolman joins the show
6:04 Shame and the assault on sex
13:09 The human body created for pleasure
19:54 Song of Songs and the deep “knowing” that is the bedrock for intimacy
24:17 How to have the conversation of sex with your spouse
32:33 The role of kindness and compassion in the healing of your story
37:51 Talking about playfulness, safety, and sex with your spouse

Show Notes:
Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got: https://amzn.to/4kflULX

If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?

As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?”
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
3:20 How do you relate with your screen?
8:57 Screens and the nervous system
12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums
19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement
27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows
32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screens

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout
 
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.

As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters
3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness
7:50 The people we have to forgive
10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness
17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage
21:30 The grace of our own forgiveness

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout
 
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Why do we self-protect in relationships? Especially if it hurts our deepest levels of intimacy with those we love?
 
Though we’re hurt in relationships, we’re also healed in relationships. As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the ways we self-protect, why self-protection is a form of artificial intelligence, and how to break free. Our hope for this episode is to give you hope that you can surrender self-protection and discover deeper relational connection with those you love.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
4:00 The ripple effect of relational intelligence
5:00 Self-protection as a form of artificial intelligence
8:12 The ways we self-protect
18:38 Ways to surrender our self-protection
24:06 Christi shares what she’s learning in her own journey of self-protection
31:43 Self-protection, overcoming fear, and the softening of your heart toward others
38:22 Disconfirming experiences, holding hope, and healing your heart 

Show Notes:
If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage

Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome