In this insightful episode, Judy Tsuei sits down with Jocelyn Auyeung, an inspiring leader and mom, to explore a question many of us face but rarely ask: When is enough, enough? Jocelyn’s journey as a former educator, coach, and founder of Nurture ED Solutions offers a fresh perspective on how perfectionism and societal expectations shape us — especially as Asian American women balancing leadership, motherhood, and personal growth.

Jocelyn shares her personal experiences with burnout in education, what led her to create a revolutionary approach to building sustainable school cultures of care, and how she’s redefining success by embracing curiosity, compassion, and intentional effort. We talk about the importance of allowing space for failure, recognizing natural stopping points, and learning to celebrate progress—even when it doesn’t look like perfection.

This episode is packed with thought-provoking conversations on:

• How cultural expectations fuel perfectionism in leadership and parenting.
• The power of curiosity in developing resilience and fostering growth.
• Navigating the grief that comes with unmet expectations and finding grace in the process.
• Modeling healthy approaches to failure for the next generation.

Whether you’re an educator, a working mom, or simply someone striving to lead a more intentional life, this episode will leave you feeling seen, inspired, and ready to redefine what “enough” means for you.

Connect with Jocelyn Auyeung:

•LinkedIn: Jocelyn Auyeung

•Podcast: Empowered Working Mom Revolution

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In this heart-opening episode, Judy Tsuei dives deep into the journey of embracing her neurodivergence, parenting with purpose, and breaking free from the perfection-driven mindset ingrained in many Asian American households. 

From learning to celebrate milestones (big and small) to redefining success beyond traditional metrics like grades and degrees, Judy shares powerful insights on raising a resourceful, self-aware child while healing her inner world.

Listen in as Judy reflects on:

• Her late diagnosis of ADHD and how it shifted her perspective on personal success.
• Why traditional education often prioritizes obedience over creativity — and how she’s encouraging her daughter to think differently.
• The emotional toll of chasing perfectionism and how embracing imperfection can lead to genuine fulfillment.
• A touching story of connection with her daughter during a vulnerable moment, and how it led to creating their family’s core values.
• How NLP, Huna healing, and personal coaching have transformed her life — and her clients’ lives.

If you’ve ever felt trapped by expectations (be it cultural, familial, or societal) this episode will inspire you to create your own path to success. Need additional support? Check out the NLP meditations on JudyTsuei.com.

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In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I sit down with Le Anne Harper, co-founder of Unlock, a company dedicated to expanding human potential through connection. Leanne shares her incredible journey as the eldest of five adopted children in a multiracial family, navigating identity, overcoming intergenerational trauma, and embracing life on her own terms.

From her childhood as a transracial adoptee to her transformative experiences—like swimming with sharks and solo travel—Leanne reflects on the challenges and lessons that have shaped her path. Together, we discuss breaking free from societal expectations, the power of setting boundaries, and the courage it takes to unravel unhealthy patterns.

Leanne’s story is a testament to resilience, curiosity, and compassion, offering inspiration for anyone striving to live authentically. We also touch on how embracing vulnerability and fear can lead to a life of bold, fearless choices.

Plus, I share an exciting update on the success of my Kickstarter project, How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide, and how it’s amplifying mental and emotional health for Asian Americans and voices of color.

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In this episode of the F*ck Saving Face podcast, Judy Tsuei dives into the courage it takes to rewrite your own life script. Sharing her personal journey, she opens up about breaking societal and cultural norms, navigating divorce, and redefining what success in relationships truly means. Judy reflects on the challenges of unconventional choices, from getting pregnant before marriage to living in a camper van, and the lessons she’s learned about self-love, authenticity, and emotional growth.

Whether you’re navigating cultural expectations or making tough decisions, this episode will inspire you to trust your intuition, embrace your unique path, and remember that you are enough just as you are.

Resources Mentioned:

• Emotional Guidance Scale by Abraham Hicks
• The Secret

If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it or email Judy at [email protected]. Keep living authentically and boldly!

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In this candid and eye-opening episode of F*ck Saving Face, Judy Tsuei sits down with Asian matchmaker Cassindy Chao to explore the complexities of love, relationships, and intimacy within the Asian American community. Cassindy shares her journey from a high-powered career in finance to a purpose-driven path as a matchmaker, helping people unlearn cultural conditioning and find authentic love.
 
They discuss the blind spots many Asian clients face, from people-pleasing tendencies to stereotypes around desirability, and dive into the importance of boundaries, self-discovery, and vulnerability in relationships. This episode isn't just about matchmaking—it's about breaking free from the performance-based expectations that keep us from experiencing true connection. Tune in for raw, honest insights, a bit of humor, and a whole lot of heart.

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In this powerful episode of F*ck Saving Face, Judy Tsuei dives deep into Step 5 of her upcoming book, How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide. This chapter challenges cultural taboos around sexuality, self-care, and pleasure, offering a raw, vulnerable exploration of how these topics intersect with personal identity and family dynamics. Judy opens up about her own experiences, reflecting on how intergenerational trauma shapes our understanding of self-worth and pleasure.

A heartfelt thank you to the 144 backers who helped Judy surpass her Kickstarter campaign goal, raising over $10,000 to bring this book to life. She shares how women of color, especially, are often conditioned to overperform and avoid celebrating their successes. 

In this episode, Judy invites listeners to reconsider their relationship with pleasure, advocating for the right to feel good without guilt. She reflects on how shifting her own parenting approach has empowered her daughter to embrace body autonomy and privacy. This episode is a must-listen for those seeking to heal generational wounds and live authentically, unapologetically, and shamelessly.

Resources:

• Order a copy of your book via Kickstarter for How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide
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Get In Touch:

• Website: JudyTsuei.com
• Instagram: @judytsuei

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In this episode of the F*ck Saving Face podcast, Judy Tsuei speaks with Dr. Nina Kaiser, a licensed psychologist and founder of Practice San Francisco. They discuss the importance of mental health for marginalized communities, the stigma surrounding mental health treatment, and the need for early intervention. 

Dr. Kaiser emphasizes the significance of community support and the role of parents in fostering their children's emotional well-being. The conversation also touches on coping with collective grief, the challenges of parenting, and the power of mindfulness and presence in navigating life's difficulties.

More about Dr. Nina Kaiser: 

Dr. Nina Kaiser is a licensed psychologist (CA PSY 22555), mom to two boys, and founder of Practice San Francisco, a multi-location Bay Area mental health and wellness center providing evidence-based intervention and educational prevention services to kids, families, schools, and corporations.  Dr. Kaiser has twenty years of experience in mental health across university, medical, and outpatient settings, and has been featured as an expert mental health source in the New York Times, National Geographic, Real Simple, and Parents Magazine, among others. She has years of personal experience juggling motherhood and entrepreneurship, and is an experienced and dynamic speaker on all things related to child and parent mental health, parenthood, motherhood, and entrepreneurship.

Sound Bites

• "The earlier we can reach families, the better."
• "It's collective grief, collective trauma."
• "You're not alone in an experience."
• "Don't freak out. It's okay to underreact."
• "Life is already a lot."
• "The power of the pause is so important."
• "It's all about community support."

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In this episode, Judy shares her deeply personal journey through the challenges of mental health and the transformative power of therapy. Tackling taboo topics within Asian American and communities of color, she unpacks her experiences with eating disorders and the ways therapy helped her uncover the root causes, find healing, and advocate for mental health.

Key Moments:

• The Start of the Journey: Judy reflects on the beginnings of her eating disorder, her struggles to find help, and how cultural norms made it hard to seek support.
• The Importance of Finding the Right Therapist: Judy highlights the impact of finding a therapist who resonates culturally and emotionally, especially for marginalized communities.
• The Power of Advocacy and Self-Care: Judy shares how difficult it was to access affordable care and the steps she took to get the help she needed, inspiring listeners to advocate for their mental health.
• Why This Podcast Exists: This episode emphasizes Judy’s mission to empower people of color to reclaim their stories and prioritize mental health.

Support the Movement: Judy’s Kickstarter for her book How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps: A Modern Asian American Guide is ending soon! With just a few days left, she invites listeners to support, share, and back the project, helping make mental health resources more accessible.

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Thank you for listening and supporting the journey towards breaking cultural taboos around mental health.

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In this episode of the F*ck Saving Face podcast, Judy Tsuei interviews authenticity life coach Betty Chan, exploring themes of mental health, cultural identity, and the impact of authoritarian parenting. They discuss the concept of code switching, the importance of finding safety and authenticity, and the Japanese art of kintsugi as a metaphor for embracing imperfections. The conversation delves into managing emotions, particularly anger, and the coaching process as a journey of self-discovery. Ultimately, they emphasize the value of gentleness over toughness in personal growth and relationships.

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In this episode of the F*ck Saving Face podcast, Judy Tsuei discusses the importance of empowering mental and emotional health for Asian Americans and voices of color. She shares her journey of self-discovery and the significance of embracing individuality and neurodiversity. Through personal anecdotes and a heartfelt conversation with her daughter, Judy emphasizes the value of compassion, empathy, and supportive parenting in navigating life's challenges and disappointments.

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