F*ck Saving Face

As a culture, we need to redefine what a “successful relationship” is — sometimes, that includes leaving. In this episode, you’ll hear about how deeply the belief “staying together, especially for your child” is the right thing to do in my Chinese upbringing was. You’ll also hear a snippet of my internal conflict, and how I had to battle what I thought was “wrong” to do what is truly right for myself and my daughter.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-37

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How do you get clear about what it is that you're feeling? How do you embrace who you are to clearly express that to the world? Today's mindfulness practice is focused on allowing all of who you are to shine through.

It’s Pride Month and I've always held so much respect for people who come out. I believe that to do so, you have to commit to living authentically. It takes bravery and courage to express who you are out into the world, especially when the world is not always receptive to that kind of authenticity and transparency. It can be deeply vulnerable to share who you are with someone else.

I hope today's mindfulness practice supports your personal journey, wherever you currently find yourself. <3

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-36

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It's Pride Month, so I'm excited to share an interview with Ayoto Ataraxia, an artist who has worked as a director, writer, performing artist, producer, poet and musician — in this episode, we speak about:

• Sex positivity/sex negativity
• Exploring sexual identity, homophobia and being queer
• Figuring out “Asian-ness" and being scared to go into the hard topics
• Shamanic practices & psilocybin
• Being an Asian male and what's in a name
• How to communicate – or not – with your Asian parents 

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-35

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It's Pride Month and in this episode, you'll hear about how I had a huge crush on my gay director at Neutrogena, when my daughter realized that her ayis were married to one another, and why I honor and celebrate anyone who's come out, because I believe the journey to embracing yourself and how you identify – regardless of what the world tells you is right or wrong – is a brave and courageous act.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-34

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There's a close person in my life who has spent two decades working with special needs kids in education and has shared with me, "We're all a little bit on the spectrum." I believe that. Yes, we're all special in our own ways, but it's a matter of how we integrate our quirks and differences into our lives – regardless of what anyone else thinks – that can impact our levels of contentment and satisfaction. If you're struggling with insecurities or something you're feeling super self-conscious about, a trait of yours you haven't been able to get over, here's a mindfulness practice to help you embrace the idea that you are "perfectly imperfect."

Let's learn to love ourselves a little more.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-33

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While our episode began as a chat about guilt and shame around finances, because Anna Yen is a CFA with nearly 2 decades of experience spanning financial markets, cryptocurrencies, and digital marketing – and she's an investor and financial wellness expert at FamilyFI, working to empower families with financial literacy – we really dove into what it meant to battle guilt and shame from outside influences when she discovered that her second daughter would be born with Down Syndrome.

Her bilingual podcast Chinese Star Tales features storytelling and songs told with her kindergartener daughter, which my daughter and I love listening to!

Anna actively supports the special needs community, and has the pleasure of having a daughter with Down Syndrome.  She’s worked in 5 countries and visited 57.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-32

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This week's theme covers two main emotions that Asian Americans grapple with – shame & guilt – but, these feelings will be explored in unconventional ways. We'll explore how to move into a growth mindset around money, especially if you were raised with immigrant parents who had high amounts of debt, as well as what to do when your collectivist culture believes that having a child with special needs isn't an option.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-31

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If you're used to be being accommodating, people-pleasing, or saving face rather than saying what you really want or feel, it's helpful to practice different ways of finding your voice. And, rather than approaching it from a headspace, but rather from a heart space with the techniques shared in this episode (journaling, breathing, mantras, and singing), you can start to find more confidence in speaking up, listening, and being your authentic self.

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/mindfulness-voice

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According to my interview with therapist Sharon Kwon, the biggest emotions Asian Americans deal with is guilt and shame — can this play into your medical care, as well? Today, you’ll meet Mary Dee, who discovered she had stage 2 breast cancer and wanted to treat it holistically. She's now the Chair of the Board for TheBreasties.org.

Mary needed to advocate for her care when she challenged doctors realizing that nobody looked like her, not from an age standpoint or from an ethnicity standpoint. They were selling her traditional courses of treatment, and she wanted statistics about survival rates for the drugs they were offering. She also shares how her Thai heritage played into her ability to challenge authority, the racist comments she experienced growing up, and why it’s so essential to find joy, whatever you’re going through. 
 
Lastly, you'll hear how she fought guilt and shame when her successful business faced a lawsuit, and how she worked to find joy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes from the interview: 

For more show notes and links to the things we mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/mary-dee

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Growing up in an Asian household, we weren’t taught to have privacy — in fact, privacy was seen as shameful. My parents fought in front of us and never kept any sort of healthy boundaries. They also continually made us defer to authority, to elders, to anyone in a position of power. It makes sense then, that into adulthood, I would never know when to advocate for myself. I didn’t know that I was worthy of fighting for. 

In today’s episode, we hear about different instances in which I trusted the medical establishment and it violated boundaries that I didn’t know I had a right to uphold. How do you learn to stand up for yourself and your body?

For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit the blog: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/protect-your-body

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