The harm in "Hey Girl, how much weight do you want to lose"

You could be reaching out to women in the DM’s trying to grow your business. Praying on those of us with a body that doesn’t look like what diet culture has made to be healthy, but you could be doing more harm than good with those Hey Girl magic weight-loss messages. First I truly believe you will be more successful if you build relationships or at least have a conversation with the person before asking them to buy from you. For me I buy from the person, not for the product results.

I too have fallen in this path and will be the first to admit in my deep dark days of dieting for weight-loss I was slinging shakes, skinny coffee, and magic pills. I was in other women’s inboxes asking them if they wanted to try these products. Not knowing the harm I was doing. For those, who were like me, those messages came with a sting. When you are already shaming your body and eating habits, hearing wants to try my weight-loss product makes you feel even more inadequate. Worse if you were in the early stage of an eating disorder would be like giving a drink to someone recovering from alcohol, or having a recovering drug addict hold your drugs for you. You just wouldn’t do that.

So why is this becoming the norm in my INBOX? My profile is all about health at EVERY SIZE, yet I’m still getting the HEY GIRL messages about weight-loss. If you don’t do anything else, at least open the person profile before sending your message. At a time in my life, when I was deep in weight shame this could have put me in a spiral. I already wondered why I got to wake up every day, why this worthless overweight, unloved body deserved to be on this planet, and your messages would have added to that deep shame I had about even living. Outwardly, I was happy bubbly and spunky but inside I was dying and wondered when it could be over. Even with all the anti-depressants, crazy diets, and therapy I was still struggling.  And I know I’m not the only one that ever felt that way.

Think about how that would feel if you were in that situation and someone reached out to you with a “Hey Girl, how much weight do you want to lose” message. That could be devastating. I’m all for you running your business, but don’t be SKEEZY about it. Get to know who you’re talking about and approach them with love and respect. People aren’t just your paycheck. Don’t play on their emotions, especially around body size. As in all honesty, you could be triggering something major.

If you need a FREE safe space to go on your self-love journey that is full of amazing women, massive support, and no judgment. Come join the Feed your Body with Love Community.  We are all about helping you find joy and love again and supporting you through the struggles. https://www.facebook.com/groups/feedyourbodywithlove/ 

If you are in need of going a little deeper, The SPRING FLING Starts March 5th. It's a 5-Week journey where you get to change your relationship with your body, your thoughts and learn to love ALL food again. It's a deep dive intensive where we get to meet in sisterhood circles and dive into where all these thoughts and feelings came from, then reprogram them into thoughts that allow you to live the life you dream of, enjoy food again, and love the body you have right now. For a limited time, the investment is only $47 (Orig $97) to learn more: https://jdragonette.com/spring2020/

The harm in "Hey Girl, how much weight do you want to lose"

You could be reaching out to women in the DM’s trying to grow your business. Praying on those of us with a body that doesn’t look like what diet culture has made to be healthy, but you could be doing more harm than good with those Hey Girl magic weight-loss messages. First I truly believe you will be more successful if you build relationships or at least have a conversation with the person before asking them to buy from you. For me I buy from the person, not for the product results.

I too have fallen in this path and will be the first to admit in my deep dark days of dieting for weight-loss I was slinging shakes, skinny coffee, and magic pills. I was in other women’s inboxes asking them if they wanted to try these products. Not knowing the harm I was doing. For those, who were like me, those messages came with a sting. When you are already shaming your body and eating habits, hearing wants to try my weight-loss product makes you feel even more inadequate. Worse if you were in the early stage of an eating disorder would be like giving a drink to someone recovering from alcohol, or having a recovering drug addict hold your drugs for you. You just wouldn’t do that.

So why is this becoming the norm in my INBOX? My profile is all about health at EVERY SIZE, yet I’m still getting the HEY GIRL messages about weight-loss. If you don’t do anything else, at least open the person profile before sending your message. At a time in my life, when I was deep in weight shame this could have put me in a spiral. I already wondered why I got to wake up every day, why this worthless overweight, unloved body deserved to be on this planet, and your messages would have added to that deep shame I had about even living. Outwardly, I was happy bubbly and spunky but inside I was dying and wondered when it could be over. Even with all the anti-depressants, crazy diets, and therapy I was still struggling.  And I know I’m not the only one that ever felt that way.

Think about how that would feel if you were in that situation and someone reached out to you with a “Hey Girl, how much weight do you want to lose” message. That could be devastating. I’m all for you running your business, but don’t be SKEEZY about it. Get to know who you’re talking about and approach them with love and respect. People aren’t just your paycheck. Don’t play on their emotions, especially around body size. As in all honesty, you could be triggering something major.

If you need a FREE safe space to go on your self-love journey that is full of amazing women, massive support, and no judgment. Come join the Feed your Body with Love Community.  We are all about helping you find joy and love again and supporting you through the struggles. https://www.facebook.com/groups/feedyourbodywithlove/ 

If you are in need of going a little deeper, The SPRING FLING Starts March 5th. It's a 5-Week journey where you get to change your relationship with your body, your thoughts and learn to love ALL food again. It's a deep dive intensive where we get to meet in sisterhood circles and dive into where all these thoughts and feelings came from, then reprogram them into thoughts that allow you to live the life you dream of, enjoy food again, and love the body you have right now. For a limited time, the investment is only $47 (Orig $97) to learn more: https://jdragonette.com/spring2020/

Tapping has been a huge part of my journey and is an amazing tool. I hope you enjoy this session on money worries. More tapping coming soon. If you have something you are struggling with. Reach out. I can add new ones as request. 

This topic was requested by two of my listeners. So enjoy. More on body love, releasing diets, and self-love coming soon!

Need help with locating the tapping points. Grab the how-to guide! https://jdragonette.com/tapping-guide/

Want to join the Spring Fling, where you get to be your own fling. Say goodbye to crazy diets and body/food shaming and hello to loving yourself unconditionally. We start on March 16, 2020. Check out all the details at http://jdragonette.com/spring2020

Tapping has been a huge part of my journey and is an amazing tool. I hope you enjoy this session on money worries. More tapping coming soon. If you have something you are struggling with. Reach out. I can add new ones as request. 

This topic was requested by two of my listeners. So enjoy. More on body love, releasing diets, and self-love coming soon!

Need help with locating the tapping points. Grab the how-to guide! https://jdragonette.com/tapping-guide/

Want to join the Spring Fling, where you get to be your own fling. Say goodbye to crazy diets and body/food shaming and hello to loving yourself unconditionally. We start on March 16, 2020. Check out all the details at http://jdragonette.com/spring2020

Vanessa Marie Dewsbury is a Reiki Master, Life, and Business Coach and bestselling author. She calls herself, The Magical Coach. She helps women build a fulfilling business by connecting to their energy, intuition, and authenticity. Vanessa loves helping people tap into their own magic and using it to create and manifest a life they love.

She believes your success is only as big as your love for self. The more you nourish and take care of your mind, body, and soul, the greater success you will achieve. Also speaking on the importance of self-love and setting healthy boundaries in life and in business. She teaches her clients how to set those boundaries.

She started her journey when she had a medical diagnosis that she wanted to heal and found her way to Reiki. She then realized that when she didn't take care of herself, things and people around her were affected. Especially when she was deeply affected. She had to go through her own journey of recognizing and realizing her own self-worth in order for me to actually start taking care of my own needs. Now she is empowering others to do the same and to create MAGIC in their life!

You can find Vanessa 

Hanging out on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/womenmanifestingmagic/

Hanging out on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/vanessamdewsbury/

http://www.vanessamariedewsbury.com/

Vanessa Marie Dewsbury is a Reiki Master, Life, and Business Coach and bestselling author. She calls herself, The Magical Coach.

She believes your success is only as big as your love for self. The more you nourish and take care of your mind, body, and soul, the greater success you will achieve.

She started her journey when she had a medical diagnosis that she wanted to heal and found her way to Reiki. She then realized that when she didn't take care of herself, things and people around her were affected. Especially when she was deeply affected.

You can find Vanessa 

Hanging out on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/womenmanifestingmagic/

Hanging out on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/vanessamdewsbury/

http://www.vanessamariedewsbury.com/

Lakshmi Dev went through hell with her body and decided to create my own heaven on earth through healing. After her parents divorced at 5 years old, she started being sexually abused by the family who helped her mom take care of her for years. By the time she was a teenager, EVERYTHING was about her body & how horrible it was, or so she thought. She became anorexic, then bulimic, and then a drug addict...all to stay skinny. Finally, when she found yoga, her journey began to shift and her old stories and body dysmorphia started to dissolve. She realized that not only was her journey to heal for herself but also show other women that you can create a life that's fulfilling from a place of inner peace.

Lakshmi Dev Bowen is a soul fulfillment mentor for women secretly struggling with emotional pain who are exhausted from seeking outside approval & being self-critical. She helps them discover an inner peace they didn't know was possible & believe in themselves to create the life they truly desire. She has been studying and practicing yoga and spiritual healing for over twenty years and is dedicated to uplifting the planet by positively impacting others through teaching, coaching, writing and speaking.

Her passion came from healing her own childhood trauma and body hatred issues initiating her to become a Yoga Instructor, now with over 10,000 hours of teaching experience, then becoming a healer, life coach, speaker, and author. Lakshmi Dev, believes in a world where women who’ve been through hell and back create their own heaven on earth for a fulfilled & elevated life of inner peace. She is an international empowerment & transformational retreat host bringing women together for memorable and fulfilling experiences of self-nourishment, is a married mom of three living in gorgeous Tucson, Arizona & also loves to spend time immersed in the magic of Costa Rica.

https://www.facebook.com/DivineLakshmiDev/www.divinelakshmidev.comwww.instagram.com/divinelakshmidev

Lakshmi Dev went through hell with her body and decided to create my own heaven on earth through healing. After her parents divorced at 5 years old, she started being sexually abused by the family who helped her mom take care of her for years. By the time she was a teenager, EVERYTHING was about her body & how horrible it was, or so she thought. She became anorexic, then bulimic, and then a drug addict...all to stay skinny. Finally, when she found yoga, her journey began to shift and her old stories and body dysmorphia started to dissolve. She realized that not only was her journey to heal for herself but also show other women that you can create a life that's fulfilling from a place of inner peace.

Lakshmi Dev Bowen is a soul fulfillment mentor for women secretly struggling with emotional pain who are exhausted from seeking outside approval & being self-critical. She helps them discover an inner peace they didn't know was possible & believe in themselves to create the life they truly desire. She has been studying and practicing yoga and spiritual healing for over twenty years and is dedicated to uplifting the planet by positively impacting others through teaching, coaching, writing and speaking.

Her passion came from healing her own childhood trauma and body hatred issues initiating her to become a Yoga Instructor, now with over 10,000 hours of teaching experience, then becoming a healer, life coach, speaker, and author. Lakshmi Dev, believes in a world where women who’ve been through hell and back create their own heaven on earth for a fulfilled & elevated life of inner peace. She is an international empowerment & transformational retreat host bringing women together for memorable and fulfilling experiences of self-nourishment, is a married mom of three living in gorgeous Tucson, Arizona & also loves to spend time immersed in the magic of Costa Rica.

https://www.facebook.com/DivineLakshmiDev/

Jordyn Marcum is a wife, boss, and a momma of 2 beautiful little girls. She has always struggled with self-confidence and is just now, after having 2 children, learning to feel secure within my own skin.

 She is still learning new things about herself every day and is am passionate about lighting the way for other men and women who are struggling through the difficult days.

She eats tacos on Tuesday and loves Pizza. Her story starts in her childhood and hit rock bottom, the first time when she was stealing weight-loss pills to keep herself slim. Outwardly she looked happy and healthy but inside she was miserable.

When she got pregnant with her first daughter she was angry about what pregnancy was doing to her body and the first years of her daughter’s life she really struggled. At the time she didn’t realize that it was part of post-partum depression. Flash forward to her second daughter’s birth she now appreciates her body and what is was able to create. She is not constantly waiting for her next cheat meal and she made peace with food.

She now has true happiness in her life and is loving every part of her life and her body.

She knows she is enough at size 20 or a size 2. She eats well and exercises because she wants to, and will have her fried cheese, burgers, tacos and pizza when she feels like it. Without shame and resentment when she eats it. She is at peace and loves everything! She is grateful for her life and her body. For the first time, she sees how amazing her body is.

She is helping others learn to feel amazing in their bodies.

“Self-Love is everything and the foundation for how we live our everyday life and how we interact with others” Jordyn

You can connect with Jordyn at

https://www.facebook.com/jordyn.brodeur

Learn more about her business at

https://www.farmasius.com/JordynMarcum/default

Jordyn Marcum is a wife, boss, and a momma of 2 beautiful little girls. She has always struggled with self-confidence and is just now, after having 2 children, learning to feel secure within my own skin.

She eats tacos on Tuesday and loves Pizza. Her story starts in her childhood and hit rock bottom, the first time when she was stealing weight-loss pills to keep herself slim. Outwardly she looked happy and healthy but inside she was miserable.

When she got pregnant with her first daughter she was angry about what pregnancy was doing to her body and the first years of her daughter’s life she really struggled. At the time she didn’t realize that it was part of post-partum depression. Flash forward to her second daughter’s birth she now appreciates her body and what is was able to create. She is not constantly waiting for her next cheat meal and she made peace with food.

She now has true happiness in her life and is loving every part of her life and her body.

She knows she is enough at size 20 or a size 2. She eats well and exercises because she wants to, and will have her fried cheese, burgers, tacos and pizza when she feels like it. Without shame and resentment when she eats it. She is at peace and loves everything! She is grateful for her life and her body. For the first time, she sees how amazing her body is.

She is helping others learn to feel amazing in their bodies.

“Self-Love is everything and the foundation for how we live our everyday life and how we interact with others” Jordyn

You can connect with Jordyn at

https://www.facebook.com/jordyn.brodeur

Learn more about her business at

https://www.farmasius.com/JordynMarcum/default