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I hit record again after a long silence, and I’m not going to pretend it was a neat, linear break. It felt more like not texting a friend back for so long that responding starts to feel awkward, so you avoid it even more. That’s what happened with the podcast and I’m finally naming it, laughing at it, and moving forward anyway.

A lot changed behind the scenes. I went from being a solo private practice therapist to building a full group therapy practice with multiple clinicians, a bigger office suite, and a dedicated podcast studio I designed to make guest conversations possible. With growth came the unglamorous reality: hiring, HR, marketing, referrals, scheduling, admin, SEO, tech, and clinical supervision, while still seeing clients. When other people rely on you for their livelihood, leadership hits different.

This restart is also shaped by my adult ADHD diagnosis and how I have realized the impact it has had on my executive functioning, time management, motivation, memory, and emotion regulation. We talk about what ADHD can look like in adult women, including procrastination, impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, and the pressure to “push through” that eventually stops working. I’m also honest about the role energy and possible hormonal shifts can play when you’re trying to do a lot and still be a whole human.

Going forward, Feel and Find Out expands beyond emotion talk into deeper conversations about the mind, brain and body, attachment, generational cycles, neurodivergence, OCD, trauma therapy, couples therapy, and the books that change how we see ourselves. If you want real talk over therapist speak, pull up a chair. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s restarting something, and leave a review so more people can find us. What topic do you want me to cover next?

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

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Welcome to Episode 3 of my Book Series on "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For" by Dr. Richard Schwartz.

Make sure to catch up on episodes 1 & 2 first!

This is Part 1 of Chapter 3- Courageous Love & Doomed Relationships.

In this episode I cover:

What are Neo-exiles?

Identifying parts of us that become exiled because they are not acceptable to our partner;

Reflecting on how we have done the same to our partners 

The consequences of neo-exiles in relationships 

The role of abandonment anxiety

The 2 roles you may take on when experiencing anxiety in a relationship:

1- over-controlling, criticizing, hyperawareness, demanding closeness 

2-becoming the one who is least-invested: hyper-independence, avoiding closeness, seeking distance 

Actual examples from the book and couples therapy 

Reflection Questions:

What parts have been exiled because they are not accepted by my partner

What parts of my partner have they exiled because I find them unnacceptable

Which role do I take on in the relationship (as stated above)

What cycles do my partner and I get into because of neo-exiles 

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[Raquel is an IFS level 1 trained therapist but is not affiliated directly with this book, or the IFS institute. This book review series is purely for educational purposes based on her experience as a couples and IFS therapist and her personal joy of reading] 

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Welcome to Episode 2 of my book review series! (originally recorded in July)

Today I review Chapter 2 of You Are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz: The Development and Power of Exiles. There is SO much depth in this chapter. Join me as I dive in to explain exiles with examples from the book as well as real life.

Grab a pen and paper because there is a LOT of powerful info in this episode!

This episode describes how our exiled parts can be activated within our intimate relationships and how they develop. 

A little about exiles:

Exiles are our most vulnerable and sensitive parts. They are created when we learn that being vulnerable isn't safe-  these childlike parts get locked away inside and they become exiles of our psyche. This is based on how caretakers and later, peers, respond to our sensitivity

Exiled parts are burdened by beliefs and emotions, such as “I’m not good enough, I’m worthless, I’m unloveable.” Protector parts want to keep these locked away so we don’t become overwhelmed by this pain.

Buried beneath our visible (protective) behavior in relationships such as how we respond to or start conflict, is an exiled part.

Questions to consider:

1-How did your family of origin / caretakers react to your vulnerability or sensitivity; AND how did their reactions affect the way you learned to relate to those parts of you?

2-Apply this same question to PEERS or PARTNERs

Get this book: available on Kindle, Audible and Paperback

https://a.co/d/8It64Xd

[Raquel is an IFS level 1 trained therapist but is not affiliated directly with this book, or the IFS institute. This book review series is purely for educational purposes based on her experience as a couples and IFS therapist and her personal joy of reading] 

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation schedule below!

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Welcome to the first episode of book review series! (recorded in July)

This first week I am reviewing the Introduction & Chapter 1 of You are the One You've been Waiting For by Dr. Richard Schwartz. This book will change everything you thought you new about romantic relationships!

In this episode I cover:

Brief overview of the concepts in Internal Family Systems (IFS)

-protectors, exiles & Self

The 3 projects we take in on in intimate relatioships

The importance of the Self

Cultural & Gender implications that impact parts and expectations of intimate relationships

Reflection Questions:

1- What parts of me show up most in my intimate relationship?- do protectors like criticism, withdrawal, caretaking, people pleasing or control show up?

2-When do I feel most connected to my Self:

(calm, curious, connected, compassion, clarity, courage, confidence, creativity)

3- Do I carry the expectation that my parter or future partner will "fix, compete or rescue me."

4-What does it feel like to imagine that my core Self is always present even if hidden?

Get this book: available on Kindle, Audible and Paperback

https://a.co/d/8It64Xd

[Raquel is an IFS level 1 trained therapist but is not affiliated directly with this book, or the IFS institute. This book review series is purely for educational purposes based on her experience as a couples and IFS therapist and her personal joy of reading] 

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation schedule below!

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On this episode I share updates about NEW premium content as well as practice updates and things to come!

Option 1

30 day Summer Reading Challenge

Join me from July 16- August 13  in reading "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For" By Dr Richard Schwartz- applying Internal Family Systems (IFS) to intimate relationships

What you get:

• 30 day outlined reading schedule
• Weekly zoom meetings to reflect and connect over the reading First is July 16th 11 am AZ time!
• Access to private podcast with weekly reviews of the reading
• Connection and Community with other bookworms or lovers of self development
• Investment: $49

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**Due to confidentiality this is not open to previous or current therapy clients

Option 2:

Premium subscription to The Bookish Therapist - 

• Receive access to the recordings of each weeks reading review 
• *Does not include schedule, meetings or access to me
• Available for those not able to join the book club/meeting aspect but want a guided reading companion!
• Open to all
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How do the wounds from our past shape our present relationships? In this compelling conversation with Elaine Evans, EMDR-certified therapist and owner of Third Place Therapy, we explore the invisible threads connecting childhood experiences to adult relationship patterns.

Elaine masterfully breaks down how trauma lives in our bodies long after the original experiences have passed. She explains trauma as "anything that is too much too soon, too much for too long, or too little for too long" – a definition that honors the unique way each person's nervous system responds to life events. Through vivid examples and compassionate insights, she illuminates how these early wounds create the lens through which we view our partners' actions today.

The discussion takes a fascinating turn as we explore attachment styles and the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant types – that classic dynamic portrayed in countless romantic movies. Elaine challenges the stigma around "emotionally unavailable" partners, reframing avoidant attachment as a brilliant survival strategy rather than a character flaw. This perspective shift alone could transform how many listeners understand their relationship challenges.

What truly sets this conversation apart is Elaine's emphasis that healing doesn't mean "fixing" ourselves. "Often the belief that I'm broken and need fixing is the problem," she explains. Her approach invites us to see that while our situations may have been broken, we remained whole at our core – worthy of love and connection.

Whether you're struggling to understand persistent relationship patterns, curious about how your past influences your present, or simply wanting deeper connection with yourself and others, this episode offers practical wisdom and healing perspectives. 

Ready to transform your relationship with yourself and others? This conversation is your starting point!

Connect with Elaine:

Third Place Therapy Website

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Self Paced Course: Heal Your Trauma to Improve Your Relationships

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

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This episode has the MOST downloads of any episode so far. 

Emotional maturity isn’t about having your emotions all figured out—it’s about understanding them and choosing how to respond, instead of just reacting. In this episode, we’re digging into what emotional maturity actually means, why it’s so important for your relationships, and how to start showing up as a more emotionally mature version of yourself. From recognizing emotional triggers to handling tough conversations, this one’s all about giving you the tools to feel and respond in ways that actually move you forward.

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

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Today I chat about the 4 basic things that impact our emotional capacity, and one may surprise you!

Don't forget to get your podcast companion PDF to dive a little deeper into reflection based on this episode! Linked below

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

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Welcome! In this episode I chat about the 3 most difficult conversations to have with your partner. Can you guess?

1- How you feel

2-Finances

3- Sex

Which topic do you struggle talking about with your partner?

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation schedule below!

Schedule with a Therapist

Check out my private practice, InnerBloom Therapy Services in Phoenix

Let's connect on Instagram

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This podcast is produced by Luke G Media


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The last 2 days I was in an incredible live business event. I noticed things about myself in that event that I have not EVER felt before. Today I share about what those feelings were and the impact of the vibrations from your environment and your community can have on your mental/emotional health. 

Support the show

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling. 

If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation schedule below!

Schedule with a Therapist

Check out my private practice, InnerBloom Therapy Services in Phoenix

Let's connect on Instagram

InnerBloom Therapy Services on Instagram

This podcast is produced by Luke G Media


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