🎙️ The OG IVF Baby

In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, this episode of Fertile-ish is one we’ll never forget. 💛 We’re joined by Elizabeth Carr — the first IVF baby in the United States — and her story is equal parts mind-blowing, emotional, and deeply hopeful.

Elizabeth takes us back to the very beginning of IVF in the U.S., when the technology was brand new, experimental, and honestly… a total leap of faith. Her parents' fertility doctors went through 42 failed attempts before her success, her parents traveled across state lines just to access care, and navigated a process with no roadmap, no support groups, and no guarantees. IVF as we know it today? It exists because of stories like hers.

We talk about what it’s like to grow up as “the first,” from childhood curiosity to national headlines, and the pressure of representing an entire community of families built through IVF. Elizabeth shares how she’s turned that pressure into purpose, becoming a fierce advocate for patients and access to care — and why she feels protective of every IVF baby that’s come after her.

This episode also puts into perspective just how far IVF has come. From two retrieved eggs and no embryo freezing… to today’s advanced technology, genetic testing, and improved success rates — the evolution is unreal. And yet, the emotional experience? Still very real, still very raw, and still something so many people are navigating every day.

We also get into the power of community. 🤍 The friendships, the support systems, and the reminder that even when this journey feels isolating… you are not alone. Elizabeth shares a message that hit us hard: if you reach out your hand, someone will grab it.

And as if we couldn’t love her more, she shares her newest project — a children’s book called Petri Dish Princess 👑 — helping the next generation understand their origin stories in a way that feels empowering and seen.

This episode is about more than just where IVF started. It’s about how far we’ve come, the people who made it possible, and the hope that still exists for anyone in the middle of their journey. ✨

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🎙️ The Comparison Trap No One Talks About in Infertility

Infertility has a way of turning comparison into a constant background noise… and before you even realize it, it’s stealing your joy 💔 This episode dives into the very real, very human tendency to measure your journey against someone else’s—and why that can feel so overwhelming when you’re already carrying so much.

We talk openly about the thoughts so many people have but don’t always say out loud… Why did it work for her and not me? Why am I on my fourth cycle when someone else got pregnant on their first? Why does their life seem easier, faster, or more supported? The truth is, even when two stories look similar on the surface, there are countless factors behind the scenes that make every fertility journey completely unique.

This episode also breaks down the reality of IVF expectations vs. what actually happens. From attrition rates to multiple transfers, we get honest about the fact that IVF is not a guarantee—and why so many people are shocked when it doesn’t work the first time. That disconnect can make comparison even louder, especially when social media is filled with highlight reels and positive tests without the full story. 📱✨

We also share personal moments of navigating jealousy, grief, and the complicated emotions that come up when someone close to you has a different (or seemingly “easier”) outcome. Because here’s the truth: someone else’s success doesn’t invalidate your pain—and your pain doesn’t diminish theirs. Both can exist at the same time. 🤍

You’ll hear real talk about online support groups, unsolicited advice, and how easy it is to spiral when you’re deep in Reddit threads or Facebook groups. We talk about setting boundaries, protecting your mental space, and giving yourself permission to step back when it becomes too much. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is mute, unfollow, and refocus inward. 🧠✨

Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that there is no “right” timeline, no perfect protocol, and no universal path to building a family. Your story is yours—and it’s still unfolding. Even in the moments where it feels uncertain, heavy, or never-ending… you are not behind, and you are not alone. 💫

If this episode resonated with you, we’re always here for support, conversation, and community. 🤍

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🎙️ Adenomyosis: The Uterine Condition You've Probably Never Heard Of

Adenomyosis is one of those conditions that so many people have… but so few have actually heard about until they’re deep in their fertility journey. In this episode of Fertile-ish, we’re breaking down what adenomyosis really is, why it’s often overlooked, and how it can impact your body, your cycles, and your path to pregnancy. 🤍

We talk about how adenomyosis occurs when endometrial tissue grows into the muscular wall of the uterus, and why that can lead to symptoms like painful periods, heavy bleeding, pelvic pain, or sometimes… no symptoms at all. It’s often confused with endometriosis or fibroids, which makes diagnosis tricky and sometimes delayed. We also get into why MRI is considered the gold standard for diagnosis and why many people don’t find out they have it until much later in life.

This episode dives into the “why” behind adenomyosis, including theories around uterine trauma, prior pregnancies or procedures, and even potential genetic links. We unpack how inflammation plays a major role and what that might mean for implantation, uterine receptivity, and overall fertility outcomes. If you’ve ever been told “everything looks normal” but still feel like something is off, this conversation will hit home. 💭

We also walk through treatment approaches, including when hormonal suppression might be helpful, why surgery is rarely recommended for those trying to conceive, and how individualized fertility care really is. Not everyone with adenomyosis will struggle to get pregnant, but for those who do, understanding the full picture can make all the difference. This is one of those episodes that empowers you to ask better questions, advocate for yourself, and feel a little less in the dark. ✨

And because we’re always keeping it real… we also talk about how under-discussed this condition is, why awareness matters, and how even in 2026 there’s still so much we’re learning. If you’ve never heard of adenomyosis before, or if you’ve been quietly wondering if it could be part of your story, you are absolutely not alone. 🤍

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🎙️ The Partner Perspective: The Feelings No One Talks About

Infertility is so often centered around the person undergoing treatment… the injections, the appointments, the procedures, the losses. But behind every one of those moments is someone else sitting beside them… holding their hand, showing up, trying to stay strong while watching someone they love go through something incredibly hard. 🤍

In this episode of Fertile-ish, we’re shifting the focus to the partner perspective… the feelings that don’t always get said out loud. The quiet grief. The helplessness. The pressure to be the strong one while carrying emotions of your own. Because even if the roles look different, both partners are experiencing this journey in very real ways.

We talk about what it’s like to love someone through infertility while not being able to fix it. That instinct to solve, to make it better, paired with the reality that you can’t. The emotional weight of watching your partner go through injections, procedures, and loss… and the guilt that can come with not being able to take that burden from them.

In this episode, Laura shares something incredibly personal… a letter written by her husband from his perspective of infertility. It’s raw, honest, and gives voice to emotions that so many partners feel but don’t always express. From feelings of inadequacy and anger to love, resilience, and unwavering support, his words are a powerful reminder that this journey is deeply felt on both sides.

We also get into how infertility can impact identity and self-worth, especially when stigma enters the conversation. Whether it’s male factor infertility, unexplained diagnoses, or failed cycles, there can be this internal narrative of blame, inadequacy, and “why us?” that both partners carry in different ways.

We talk about communication… how it can break down, how it can grow, and how important it is to say the things that feel hard. The difference between fixing and listening. The importance of checking in with your partner, creating space outside of fertility, and holding onto the “why” that brought you together in the first place. 💛

This episode is a reminder that infertility is not “you vs. me”… it’s “us vs. this.” That resentment, silence, and isolation can quietly build if we’re not careful… but so can connection, understanding, and strength when we choose to face it together.

If you’re in this season, we see you. If you’re the partner trying to hold it all together, we see you too. 🤍

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🎙️ Birth Control Breakup: When to Make the Call

Thinking about coming off birth control and not sure when to do it? This episode is your no-BS, actually helpful guide to breaking up with birth control the right way. 💊➡️👋🏼

Laura and Brandis dive into one of the most common questions they hear from patients, DMs, and consult calls: “When should I stop birth control if I want to get pregnant?” And spoiler… it’s not always as simple as “just stop and try.” 👀

In this episode, we break down how different types of birth control actually work in your body 🧠🧬 and why that matters when you’re planning your timeline to conceive. From the pill to hormonal IUDs to Depo-Provera, not all methods are created equal when it comes to how quickly your body rebounds—and some require a lot more planning than people realize. ⏳

We’re also clearing up some of the biggest myths floating around social media 🚫 There is no such thing as a “birth control cleanse,” and your body does NOT need detox teas, supplements, or some dramatic reset to “wake back up.” Most methods leave your system quickly, and what happens after stopping is often just your body returning to its natural baseline—not something birth control caused. 💥

This episode also gets into the importance of actually knowing your cycle before trying to conceive 📅 Learning what’s normal for you can help identify potential issues early, saving you months (or years) of frustration. Preventative fertility awareness? We’re here for it. 👏🏼

We also talk about why birth control is often prescribed in the first place (hint: it’s not random), how it can actually be fertility-supportive in some cases, and why understanding the “why” behind your medications is one of the most powerful things you can do for your health. 💛

If you’re thinking about trying to conceive soon—or even someday—this episode will help you map out your timeline, avoid unnecessary stress, and make informed decisions that actually support your goals. ✨

Because this isn’t just about stopping birth control… it’s about setting yourself up for what comes next. 🫶🏼

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🎙️✨ One Negative Test. The Next 24 Hours. 🤍🧬

The morning after a negative pregnancy test can be one of the quietest and heaviest moments in the fertility journey. The world outside keeps moving exactly the same, but inside, everything can feel different. In this episode of Fertile-ish, Laura and Brandis walk through the emotional timeline of the first 24 hours after a negative pregnancy test, offering compassion, perspective, and support for one of the hardest moments in infertility. 🤍🌧️

Instead of trying to rush past the disappointment, this episode slows things down and breaks the day into smaller pieces—because sometimes the only way forward is minute by minute, hour by hour. ⏳ From the initial shock of seeing a negative test to the emotional spiral that can follow later in the day, the conversation blends patient experience with clinical perspective. 💬🩺Laura and Brandis talk about the instinct many people have to search for answers immediately—replaying every detail of the cycle, questioning every decision, or blaming themselves for something small. 🧠💭 The truth is that most outcomes are outside of our control, but the mind naturally looks for reasons in an attempt to regain certainty. 🔍The focus of this episode is regulation and self-compassion. The hours immediately after a negative test are about stabilizing emotionally and physically—taking a breath, sitting with the disappointment, eating something small, hydrating, and allowing yourself to feel whatever emotions come up without judgment. 🌬️🫶 Grief, anger, numbness, embarrassment, and exhaustion are all normal responses when a hoped-for future suddenly disappears. 💔The hosts also discuss the mental “spiral window”—when the brain wants to compare pregnancy tests online, scroll through support groups, or overhaul an entire treatment plan. 📱 During this time, it can help to pause instead: step outside, get fresh air, move your body gently, and give your nervous system time to settle. 🌿☀️🚶‍♀️Another powerful moment in the episode focuses on grieving the imagined future that briefly felt real during the two-week wait—the baby names, the imagined announcement, the moment you pictured hearing “you’re pregnant.” 🍼✨ Losing that vision can be deeply painful, and acknowledging that grief is part of healing. 💛As the day turns to night, Laura and Brandis talk about protecting your mental space. 🌙 Avoid pregnancy content, step away from comparison, and remember: today is not a decision day. Big choices about treatment plans, clinics, or next steps can wait until emotions settle.The message at the heart of this episode is simple:
A negative test does not define your strength, your body, or your future. 🤍 It reflects only one cycle in a much bigger story. And if today is a survival day, that’s enough. Getting through today counts. 💪🫶

If you’re listening on one of those heavy mornings, this conversation is meant to remind you that you’re not alone. 🌎 The fertility journey can feel isolating, but there is an entire community walking through it together. 🤝💛

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🎙️ Your Cycle Decoded: Why One Week You’re a Goddess and the Next You’re Crying in Target

Ever notice how one week you feel unstoppable, glowing, and ready to conquer the world… and the next week you’re crying in the Target parking lot because they’re out of your favorite snack? You’re not imagining things — your menstrual cycle plays a huge role in your mood, energy, appetite, and overall vibe throughout the month.

In this episode of Fertile-ish, Laura and Brandis break down the menstrual cycle in a way that actually makes sense — no confusing high-school health class diagrams required. From hormones to ovulation to why your body sometimes feels like it has multiple personalities in a single month, we’re decoding what’s really happening behind the scenes of your cycle. 🧬

Your menstrual cycle is much more than the few days you spend on your period. It’s a continuous hormonal rhythm that your body moves through every single month. The cycle begins on the first day of full menstrual flow, which is considered cycle day one, and continues until the next period begins.

Throughout that cycle, your body moves through several phases — each driven by different hormones that influence everything from your mood and libido to your productivity and energy levels.

During the follicular phase, your brain sends signals to the ovaries to begin developing follicles that contain eggs. Estrogen begins to rise, your uterine lining starts building again, and many people notice higher energy, clearer thinking, and increased motivation. This is often the phase where you feel like your most confident self — the “goddess era.” ✨

Next comes ovulation, when a surge of luteinizing hormone (LH) triggers the ovary to release an egg. The egg only survives for about 24 hours, but sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for up to five days, which is why the fertile window is typically the five days leading up to ovulation and the day of ovulation itself.

After ovulation, the cycle shifts into the luteal phase, when progesterone rises to prepare the body for a possible pregnancy. If fertilization does not occur, progesterone levels drop and the uterine lining sheds, beginning a new cycle.

This hormonal shift is also why many people experience PMS symptoms like bloating, fatigue, mood swings, irritability, and increased hunger. One week you’re thriving and feeling amazing… the next week you’re crying in the candle aisle at Target wondering what just happened. Totally normal. 🕯️😭

Understanding your cycle isn’t just helpful when trying to conceive — it’s an important part of understanding your overall health. Your menstrual cycle is often considered a vital sign, and changes in cycle length, bleeding patterns, or severe symptoms can sometimes indicate underlying conditions like hormonal imbalances, ovulation disorders, thyroid issues, endometriosis, or adenomyosis.

Tracking your cycle can help you learn what’s normal for your body and identify patterns over time. Whether you’re trying to conceive, preserving fertility, learning about your hormones, or supporting someone on a fertility journey, understanding the menstrual cycle is the foundation for it all.

Because when you understand your hormones, the monthly emotional rollercoaster starts to make a lot more sense. 💛

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🎙️ Unexplained Fertility: When All the Tests Are “Fine”

Sometimes the hardest diagnosis to receive is… no diagnosis at all.

In this episode of Fertile-ish, we dive into one of the most frustrating, confusing, and emotionally exhausting realities in fertility care: unexplained infertility. When your labs are “normal,” your cycles look textbook, your partner’s analysis checks out, your tubes are open… and yet, you’re still not pregnant.

If you’ve ever been told “everything looks fine” while your heart is breaking month after month, this episode is for you 🤍

What We Cover:

🧬 We break down what “unexplained infertility” actually means. It’s not that nothing is wrong. It means our current testing hasn’t identified the cause. Fertility is complex, and sometimes the issue lives in microscopic details we simply cannot measure yet.

📊 We talk about why “normal” doesn’t always equal optimal. Hormone levels can fall within normal ranges but still not function optimally for conception. Timing, egg quality, sperm function, and implantation dynamics all play a role, and basic labs do not tell the entire story.

🔬 We explore the limitations of fertility testing. Even with advanced diagnostics, we cannot directly measure egg quality, embryo chromosomal status without IVF and genetic testing, subtle sperm functional issues, or the intricate cellular process of implantation. There are still pieces of reproduction that medicine cannot fully see.

💔 We address the emotional toll of having no clear answer. Unexplained infertility often brings a unique type of grief — self-doubt, frustration, feeling dismissed, and the mental exhaustion of constantly wondering what to try next. Hearing “at least nothing’s wrong” can feel anything but comforting.

✨ We discuss treatment paths forward. Even without a defined cause, there are proactive options including ovulation support, IUI to improve sperm delivery, IVF to maximize egg and embryo potential, and genetic testing when appropriate. In many cases, treatment becomes both diagnostic and therapeutic.

🗣️ We talk about advocacy and mindset. Asking thoughtful questions, seeking clarity from your provider, and remembering that unexplained does not mean hopeless. It simply means medicine has limits — not that your body has failed.

Key Takeaway: 💛

🤍 Unexplained fertility is not a dismissal. It is a category that acknowledges the complexity of reproduction. You deserve thoughtful care, a provider who listens, and a plan that feels proactive instead of passive.

If you’re in the “everything is fine but nothing is working” phase, you are deeply seen here.

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🎙️ Understanding OHSS: Ovaries in Overdrive 🥚⚡

If you’re preparing for an egg retrieval, you’ve probably heard about OHSS and maybe even a few scary stories. 😅 In this episode, we break down what it actually is, who’s at risk, how we prevent it, and why modern IVF has made it far less common than it used to be.

OHSS, or Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome, happens when the ovaries over-respond to stimulation medications. 💉 In a natural cycle, one egg grows, estrogen rises to a moderate level, and ovulation occurs. In IVF, many follicles grow at once and estrogen levels can rise much higher. 📈 That hormone surge can make blood vessels more permeable, allowing fluid to shift out of the bloodstream and into the abdomen and, in rare cases, the lungs. It’s this fluid shift, not simply “high estrogen,” that causes symptoms.

The reassuring part is that OHSS is uncommon. 🤍 It occurs in about 3 to 6 percent of cycles, and severe cases happen in less than 1 to 3 percent. With modern protocols and close monitoring, most patients will never experience it.

Symptoms can range from mild bloating and abdominal discomfort to nausea and fluid in the abdomen. Severe cases, which are rare, may include shortness of breath 😮‍💨, low blood pressure, thickened blood, electrolyte imbalances, or kidney concerns. Patients should contact their clinic if they experience rapid weight gain, severe pain, persistent vomiting, decreased urination, fever 🌡️, one-sided leg swelling, or shortness of breath. When in doubt, call. 📞 Reassurance is never a burden.

The trigger shot plays an important role in OHSS risk. 💉 An hCG trigger has a longer half-life and continues stimulating the ovaries, which can increase the risk of worsening symptoms, especially if pregnancy occurs.🤰 A Lupron trigger works at the level of the brain and has a shorter effect, lowering the risk of severe OHSS, although not everyone is a candidate. In some cases, a dual trigger is used. These decisions are thoughtful and individualized, not random.

If a patient is at higher risk, a provider may recommend freezing all embryos rather than doing a fresh transfer. ❄️ Pregnancy produces additional hCG, which can intensify OHSS. A freeze-all approach in this situation is about safety, not taking away an opportunity.

Modern IVF significantly reduces the risk of severe OHSS through careful medication dosing, close estrogen monitoring, thorough follicle measurements, coasting when necessary, using Lupron triggers when appropriate, and adjusting plans if safety requires it. Monitoring appointments are essential safety checkpoints and should never be skipped. 🗓️

If OHSS does develop, it is typically self-limiting and improves once hormone levels fall, usually 10 to 14 days after retrieval .⏳ Treatment is supportive and may include electrolyte fluids 🥤, medications such as cabergoline or letrozole, and close follow-up. In more serious cases, fluid drainage or IV support may be needed. Time and monitoring are key.

The bottom line is that OHSS is real but rare, and severe cases are even rarer. 💛 There are multiple safeguards in place to prevent it. Ask questions, understand your protocol, advocate for thorough monitoring, and communicate symptoms early. This episode is meant to empower you with knowledge so you can move forward confidently.🧠✨

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🎧 Embryo Banking: Delayed Gratification, Fertility Edition

In this episode of Fertile-ish, Laura and Brandis dive into a topic that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: embryo banking 🧊🧬—what it is, who it’s for, and why thinking long-term can make all the difference when it comes to building the family you’ve always envisioned.

While the goal often feels like “just get me pregnant now,” this conversation zooms out to look at fertility as a full family-planning strategy, not just a single cycle or transfer. From age and ovarian reserve to genetics, finances, insurance limitations, and emotional burnout—this episode breaks it all down in a way that’s honest, empowering, and judgment-free.

✨ In this episode, we cover:

• What embryo banking actually means (and how it’s different from egg freezing)

• Why banking embryos before transfer can protect future family-building goals

• How age impacts egg quality—but not the uterus 🕰️

• The role of PGT/PGD testing and how it changes success rates

• Real statistics on live birth rates with and without genetic testing

• How many embryos are typically recommended per child you hope to have

• Religious, ethical, and emotional concerns around embryo banking—and the options available

• What happens if you have embryos left after completing your family

• Compassionate transfers explained 🤍

• How insurance requirements can complicate embryo banking

• Financing options and how multiple retrievals can still be manageable