Fiercely Human

Beth Clayton (your host) is a soul-based life and health coach and loves to help open-hearted people break free from their own self-sabotage, outdated thought patterns, and past pain so they can deepen their relationship with their own soul's intuition, speak their truth courageously and fulfill their most authentic desires. She is the creator of multiple group programs, retreats, and transformational workshops, leading hundreds of truth-seekers toward finding freedom and ease in their relationship with food, their bodies, their lives and ultimately, themselves. This week, we are diving into self-sabotage big time.

I speak about: ● The nature of human behavior and what we MUST know before we try to change our own. ● The lessons parenting has taught me about self-sabotage. ● The extreme similarities between small children and our inner-saboteurs. ● Why attempting to dominate or telling your inner saboteur to shut up will actually increase their power and create exhausting power struggles. ● The important lesson I learned when hijacked by self-sabotage that actually led to the creation of the podcast. ● The parallels between conscious parenting and dealing with our own saboteurs.

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE. Check out and apply for Beth's virtual group coaching program at www.soulbodylife.com/virtualprogram

For decades as a CPA, Jodi Carter watched hundreds of individuals, couples, and families from all different financial levels and circumstances make thousands of good and bad choices and saw how their decisions impacted the arch of their finances over time. She now works with people to course correct and live their best lives through gaining empowerment with money. After years of teaching groups live in-person, she created her signature program, FInancial Insight Training to make her process and experience accessible for everyone who wants to embrace living confidently with choices tailored to fit their financial life.

We jive about: ● How money actually CAN bring happiness (when it is aligned with our values). ● How EVERY choice is a financial choice. ● How intimate our own relationship with money truly is and how that impacts our choices every day. ● The crucial importance of understanding your partner's financial philosophy and relationship with money. ● How our unconscious BELIEFS and FEELINGS about money can predict our ability to interact with it powerfully. ● The insidious nature of the "starving artist" mentality. ● The core fears that keep people removed from their own power with money. ● Why it is important NOT to automate your budgeting & the power in daily financial "flossing." ● Why it is important to explore finances in a place of objectivity and compassion (no shame allowed).

You can find Beth at: Check out Beth's virtual group coaching program, Soul Body Breakthrough at www.soulbodylife.com/virtualprogram Come to Beth's FREE workshop, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" on Sept 15th. Sign up at markfisherfitness.com/beth

You can find Jodi at: www.financialinsighttraining.com

Claire Byrne is a heartbreak coach. After hitting rock bottom after a toxic relationship between herself and the person she thought she would be with forever, Claire set out to heal herself through yoga and self-care, but it wasn't until she did the deep transformational work that she realized her self-responsibility in the relationships she continued to find herself in. She came out the other side stronger and more empowered than ever, becoming the person for herself that she was searching for in a partner. Her pain became her purpose (as it tends to do) and she now helps people to move through their heartache, fall in love with themselves and create powerfully in attracting their ideal partner and in their lives. She's badass. Beth Clayton (your host) is a soul-based health & life coach and loves to help open-hearted people break free from their own self-sabotage, outdated thought patterns, and past pain so they can deepen their relationship with their own soul's intuition, speak their truth courageously and fulfill their most authentic desires. She is the creator of multiple group programs, retreats, and transformational workshops, leading hundreds of truth-seekers toward finding freedom and ease in their relationship with food, their bodies, their lives and ultimately, themselves.

In this episode, I jive with Claire about: The difference between clean pain and dirty pain Why thoughts, not circumstances, create suffering How we "hustle for worthiness" in romantic (and other) relationships The importance of grieving what was so you can be present with what is The transformational nature of "letting go" of needing relationships The beautiful duality of shame and desire to be fully seen How establishing our boundaries will piss people off and why that is okay How to tell when you are in a relationship with a narcissistic sociopath Claire journey from rock bottom in a toxic relationship to helping others heal their hearts, minds, and relationships with themselves

You can find Claire at: How to Stop Wanting Him Back (podcast) Claire Byrne Coaching Instagram @cleairetheheartbreakcoach

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Beth Clayton (your host) is a soul-based life and health coach and loves to help open-hearted people break free from their own self-sabotage, outdated thought patterns, and past pain so they can deepen their relationship with their own soul's intuition, speak their truth courageously and fulfill their most authentic desires. She is the creator of multiple group programs, retreats, and transformational workshops, leading hundreds of truth seekers toward finding freedom and ease in their relationship with food, their bodies, their lives and ultimately, themselves. Today, I'm going to go into a SUPER important topic, and one that often gets overlooked in the change process, the MISSING LINK when we are trying to create change. Once you can truly understand the importance of this step, suddenly so much more becomes possible in what we are creating but we are creating from a NEW level of awareness. So, please, remember this step next time you are in a place of contraction and shame and trying to force yourself to take action. I promise it will be a game-changer. I dive into: ● Why pain, shame & contraction can be powerful catalysts to create change in our lives. ● The step we MUST take in between our pain and shame and actual action that allows us to create much more intentionally and powerfully. ● Why awareness is the greatest agent for change. ● Why it is SO important to take as much responsibility for our circumstances as possible. ● How self-responsibility is different than self-judgment. ● Why humans default to blaming external circumstances or defaulting to stories about themselves. ● The three step process necessary to understand the full scope of the "problem" we are seeing in front of us.

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Matt Wilson is a true Renaissance man; a performance scholar, clown, unicycling EMT, an Emmy Award-winning tv host, medical clown and now TED Resident (and has his own ted talk coming out super soon). His eclectic career has taken him around the globe, with exploits ranging from the intimate to the epic: street performing in traffic with a youth circus in Capetown, South Africa; the PBS Kids TV favorite 'Cyberchase: For Real'; the West Coast Premiere of the Tony Award-winning Broadway musical 'The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee'; and the amphitheater spectacle 'Circus' starring Britney Spears. As a supervising clown doctor at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City, he witnessed the capacity of the expressive arts to humanize experiences of care within vulnerable communities. arts in public health is a growing global movement, and he's developing a project for investigating and deploying performance in non-traditional spaces The like hospitals, long-term care facilities, schools, and detention centers. He also helped disrupt the group fitness experience as Chief Ridiculous Officer at the cheeky NYC fitness start-up Mark Fisher Fitness.

In this episode, we dive into: ● Matt's journey from army brat, to an aspiring pediatrician, to EMT, to clown doctor, circus performer, performance scholar, to the chief ridiculous officer at Mark Fisher Fitness, and now, Ted resident and speaker. ● What exactly a clown doctor DOES and what it is really like to be in hospital rooms in dire situations as a medical clown. ● Performance as a transformational, transcendent and spiritual experience. ● How we find our purpose ONLY in concert with other human beings. ● The importance of play (both as children and adults) in teaching us boundaries, vulnerability, and trust (without even pointing it out). ● The importance of "embracing the flop" and getting comfortable with "not knowing" or having answers. ● Why our emotional health and happiness is largely related to the people we surround ourselves with. ● How the idea of vulnerability has become commodified and misused tool for performance on social media & what it REALLY entails. ● The crucial importance of establishing trust and choosing who you are vulnerable with intentionally.

Resources/People Mentioned: Brene Brown: A Call to Courage on Netflix Worthy Stokes on Fiercely Human podcast Elizabeth Swedos Elizabeth Gilbert Mark Fisher Fitness

You can find Matt at: @Iknowmattwilson on IG beepbeepboing.com

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Beth Clayton (your host) is a soul-based life and health coach and loves to help open-hearted people break free from their own self-sabotage, outdated thought patterns, and past pain so they can deepen their relationship with their own soul's intuition, speak their truth courageously and fulfill their most authentic desires. She is the creator of multiple group programs, retreats, and transformational workshops, leading hundreds of truth seekers toward finding freedom and ease in their relationship with food, their bodies, their lives and ultimately, themselves. In this episode, I'm going to be pretty bold and declare something that might sound strange. Your emotional eating (or replace with any other numbing agent) is actually a gift in some strange wrapping paper, and may actually be a catalyst for a deeper transformation that creates more abundance and possibility in your life. I will jive about: Why our issues with food have almost nothing to do with food. How emotional eating patterns develop & what they tell us about what we are trying not to feel. Why the most painful cost associated with emotional eating has nothing to do with gaining weight. The big realizations I have had in moments of mindless and compulsive eating that catapulted my life forward. How emotional eating is never really "cured" and how that can actually help us. What becomes possible when you gain awareness of your patterns with food.

You can find Beth at:

@bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Shirin is a life coach, public speaker, and writer who specializes in mindfulness and mindset work. She has been a featured wellness expert on the Today Show and Cosmopolitan Magazine. Certified by the International Coach Federation, her holistic approach to transformation is influenced by her background in guided meditation, spirituality, and the arts. Prior to building her successful coaching business, she was an award-winning opera singer, performing at Carnegie Hall and The Metropolitan Opera. She is the co-founder of Brown Girl Brunch and has been a featured speaker at ALT Summit, Well Summit, the Assemblage, and Soho House. We go deep in this episode (as we do in most episodes). We unpack: ● The value of coaching is (why bother getting a coach?) ● The tension between making it more accessible for people & still requiring they get "big skin" in the coaching game ● What it means to live whole-heartedly ● Letting go of the "if only's" ● The harm of white wellness bubbles & how to get better as white people ● What courage looks like to each of us in OUR lives ● The myths around the fulfillment of "goals" making us happy (and this is coming from a opera singer who performed in Carmen at the Met)

People & Resources mentioned: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford Allison Tenney Ignited Womxn Summit Chrissy King's Diversity & Inclusion 101 Eckhart Tolle Jess Lively Mark Fisher Fitness Brene Brown

You can find Shirin at: @wholeheartedcoaching on Instagram & Facebook www.wholehearted-coaching.com

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Today, I'm exploring a topic that often comes up in my coaching programs. As they start to put down the baggage that has held them back and start to accelerate the momentum in their life, there comes a point when they start to ponder what could have been (had they made more empowered choices in their past). They may even start to fear that they will never fulfill their ultimate potential because they spent so much time seemingly idle; there's no way to catch up. There are actually really important reasons we need to grieve and let go of "what could have been" so we can create powerfully in the present. I know I have had to grieve what I call "my ghost ship." So, today, we are going to talk about: ● The common self-sabotaging "coulda woulda shoulda" that come up as someone actually starts to feel new levels of empowerment in their lives. ● Why "regret" is actually a POWERFUL teacher in our lives if we explore it intentionally and from a place of self-compassion. ● How our past can be a tool used to destroy or a tool used to build our futures. ● The questions to ask yourself when you are pondering "what could have been" to intentionally build your future.

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Rachel Black Graves is an ex-corporate warrior turned community builder, boundary expert, mindest, and fitness professional. She is a trainer, coach and owns her own gym in the greater Hartford area. She is passionate about helping womxn realize their health and fitness goals without becoming a slave to the via intense, efficient workouts, sustainable nutrition, accountability, and empathy. She helps folks shed the old stories of shame and tap into inner strength they didn't know they had. In an industry asking womxn to shrink down, she asks them to stand up. In a culture that tells them to be smaller, she wants to help them get stronger. In a time when womxn are told to stay quiet, she wants to help them find their unique voice. In a world that engrains self-loathing in womxn from the time They can speak, she wants to teach self-love and self-care as a way of BECOMING exactly who they are supposed to be in this world. In this episode, we dive into: ● How a near-heart attack in Rachel's early twenties (from stress) created a cataclysmic shift in her life plan. ● How important it is to honor the "heart invitations" even when they are scary and/or inconvenient. ● How focusing on SERVING instead of GETTING has created a community that is incredibly loyal to Rachel's gym and community. ● The responsibilities we have as humans and wellness leaders to unpack our unconscious biases and conditioning around body size, race, gender, and sexuality and sex-workers. ● As a health and wellness leader, the importance of doing your homework on someone else's cultural identity (it is as important as understanding their health). ● What is beautiful in other cultures is not necessarily what is considered beautiful in OUR conditioning. How it tears someone's sense of self and pride away from them. Projection. ● What true inclusivity means: It is not just talking, but walking the walk (including race, body size, gender identity, economic status, and even sex positivity). ● How complete self-acceptance in our CURRENT body leads to faster inner and outer transformation at an accelerated pace, while bringing more peace.

You can find Rachel at: Rachel Black Graves on IG & Facebook Fit Body Bloomfield on IG & Facebook

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.

Beth Clayton (your host) is a soul-based life and health coach and loves to help open-hearted people break free from their own self-sabotage, outdated thought patterns, and past pain so they can deepen their relationship with their own soul's intuition, speak their truth courageously and fulfill their most authentic desires. She is the creator of multiple group programs, retreats, and transformational workshops, leading hundreds of truth seekers toward finding freedom and ease in their relationship with food, their bodies, their lives and ultimately, themselves. Today, I'm diving into what to do when you don't know what you want, when you are feeling stuck and when you are confused about your next steps. We will go much deeper into why the following is really important. If you don't know what to do next, stop moving, stop pushing, stop searching for the answer. Wait for wisdom. You're not supposed to know yet. It will find you. We will cover: What the "fertile void" or winter season of growth is and why it is CRUCIAL for creating powerfully. The pitfalls of the "fertile void" and how it is rife for fear, anxiety, numbing behavior, perfectionism, and self-doubt. The most powerful perspectives and actions we can take to set the conditions for clarity and deeper understanding. Why slowing down, creating white space and focusing on self-care are the most important alignment tools during this time.

You can find Beth at: @bethclaytoncoach on Instagram www.soulbodylife.com Grab your free e-book, "The Secrets in Your Sabotage" at www.soulbodylife.com/free-stuff Beth's TedX RIGHT HERE.