Fight For Love

Are you struggling to understand your husband's behavior and suspect that he may have a mood or personality disorder? In this episode, Rosie is joined by Julie St.Onge, an expert on mental health and addiction, to dive into the importance of mental health screenings and how they can impact the journey of recovery from addiction. Julie discusses the different types of mood and personality disorders, including sociopathy, histrionic behavior, narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and ADD, and also explains how these disorders can affect behavior, emotions, and attachment styles. Listening to this episode will provide you with valuable insights and a deeper understanding of the potential underlying issues that may be contributing to your husband's actions. Julie offers practical advice on navigating these complex challenges, including the need for long-term therapy and the importance of comprehensive evaluations, such as psych evaluations and MMPI tests.  Today's episode is all about giving you the clarity and tools you need to support your husband and make informed decisions about your future. 

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Today, Tim Muehlhoff, author, speaker and professor of communication at Biola University, joins Rosie on the show to delve into the fascinating topic of Spiritual Warfare in marriage, especially in marriages struggling because of a pornography addiction. In this episode they discuss the tactics of Satan and look at all the ways he attempts to discourage and divide us. Praying warfare prayers does have to be complicated or scary, it's all a matter of understanding your authority, or rather whose authority you represent.  Grab your sword, and your coffee, and take a listen! 

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For those of you who grew up in purity culture but have never connected the dots to your current situation, this is going to be a powerful and potentially emotional listen. Back on the show by popular demand is Sheila Wray Gregoire to discuss the harmful teachings of purity culture and the impact it has had on women. In her new book She Deserves Better, Sheila explores the damaging messages around modesty, consent, and respect, highlighting how these teachings have led to blame and shame for women, many of whom are now in abusive or traumatic relationships. In this conversation we touch upon problematic resources within Christian literature, such as "Secret Keeper Girl," and discuss the concerning messages it sends to young girls, and how it's legacy is still permeating into children's and youth ministry today.  Share this episode with all your mamma friends! 

Joining Rosie today to tackle the bewildering and overwhelming topic of having your husband arrested for illegal sexual acting out are Jen, Rebecca and Lynn.

In this extended episode we cover how to:

• Cope in the early days following a shocking, and often public, discovery,
• Make the decision whether to stay in the relationship,
• Deal with people talking about you and giving unwanted advice. 
• Manage day to day when your husband is not around,
• Best help your children.
• Create a recovery plan after release. 

And even though it is hard to listen to the pain and devastation that this addiction causes, the hope and faith that these ladies share towards the end of the episode is truly redemptive and beautiful.

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If you feel like your sexual identity has been shattered following betrayal, it's hard to imagine ever feeling positive towards sex again. Here to help us tackle this sensitive and painful topic is author/coach/founder of StrongWives,  and co-host of the popular Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast,  Bonny Burns.  In today's conversation we look at how betrayal ruptures our sexual identity and the steps you can take to reclaim it. 

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When you are dating someone who is struggling with pornography evaluating whether you have a long term future together is complex and tricky. 

To help us tackle this difficult decision we have broken it down into 3 parts:

Step 1 - Evaluating your own Struggle with Singledom

Step 2: Understanding the reality of marrying a porn addict 

Step 3 - Assessing the strength of your partner's recovery and long term likelihood of sobriety. 

Joining Rosie on the show today to explore step 1 is the founder and director of SheRecovery.com, Crystal Renaud Day who has written the immensely helpful guide to singleness and dating Dating Done Right. Written as the guide she had always searched for as a single Christian living in the aftermath of the purity culture, Crystal shares the value of pursuing contentment right where you are, which will in turn give you the best chance of discerning exactly who the right husband is for you.

If you would like to be considered to be part of the next podcast panel sharing your experience of dating a porn addict,  whether you decided to go ahead and get engaged/married or not, we would love to hear from you. Email [email protected] and leave a brief voice mail telling her what you think women in this situation need to hear. 

If you have ever felt deep in your bones that there is something dreadfully wrong with the way the world AND the church think about sex, then this episode is a MUST LISTEN. Returning to the show is clinical psychologist and founder of Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery, to talk about her mind-blowing and paradigm-shifting new book ‘God Sex and Your Marriage.’ Juli brings a much needed perspective, reframing our painful sex lives and helping us understand how the pursuit of true sexual intimacy begins not in the bedroom but in the throne room. Eminently relatable and practical, Juli’s words of wisdom are just the tonic for anyone who feels stuck and demoralized about their sex life.

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Today in the second part of our divorce panel, we get down to brass tacks and discuss what the process of getting divorced looked like for Ruth, Tami and Jen. We talk about finding the right legal help, other forms of support, timelines, and knowing best when to try and negotiate things on your own. Using their hard won wisdom, the panel share all the things that they wished someone had told them before they started travelling this path, and also what they have learnt about themselves and their relationship with God through this process.

Returning to the show to help unpack one of the most common questions we receive here at Fight For Love are Ruth, Jen and Tami. Deciding whether to hang in there for a bit longer or to call it quits is one of the most difficult decisions a betrayed partner can face. There are no easy answers, every situation is unique. However, there are common threads that can bring validation and clarity to those in the painful and confusing fog. Today our panelists take us through the emotional, mental and spiritual journey of deciding to get divorced, sharing all the things they learnt along the way with honesty and compassion. And for those of you desperate for a glimmer of hope, curl up somewhere cozy and listen in to these precious ladies describing what their life is like now compared to how it was before. 

Next time you get overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy because you think you can't compete with the women in pornography, take 10 for yourself and listen to this.   

• Put a post it on your mirror that reminds you to look up every time you look in. The relief you seek from a broken covenant can never be found in your reflection, only in Christ.
• Take heart, God is using this deep pain of comparison to draw you into a deeper level of intimacy with Him. He is inviting you to bravely open that pressure valve, to look inside yourself, locate the pieces of your broken heart and hand them over.
• Remember, you don’t need to try harder to fix your outside, what you need is divine intervention to heal and restore your inside.
• Take a listen to Oxygen Mask #1 - When you don't feel Strong Enough 
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