Today in the second part of our divorce panel, we get down to brass tacks and discuss what the process of getting divorced looked like for Ruth, Tami and Jen. We talk about finding the right legal help, other forms of support, timelines, and knowing best when to try and negotiate things on your own. Using their hard won wisdom, the panel share all the things that they wished someone had told them before they started travelling this path, and also what they have learnt about themselves and their relationship with God through this process.

Returning to the show to help unpack one of the most common questions we receive here at Fight For Love are Ruth, Jen and Tami. Deciding whether to hang in there for a bit longer or to call it quits is one of the most difficult decisions a betrayed partner can face. There are no easy answers, every situation is unique. However, there are common threads that can bring validation and clarity to those in the painful and confusing fog. Today our panelists take us through the emotional, mental and spiritual journey of deciding to get divorced, sharing all the things they learnt along the way with honesty and compassion. And for those of you desperate for a glimmer of hope, curl up somewhere cozy and listen in to these precious ladies describing what their life is like now compared to how it was before. 

Next time you get overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy because you think you can't compete with the women in pornography, take 10 for yourself and listen to this.   

• Put a post it on your mirror that reminds you to look up every time you look in. The relief you seek from a broken covenant can never be found in your reflection, only in Christ.
• Take heart, God is using this deep pain of comparison to draw you into a deeper level of intimacy with Him. He is inviting you to bravely open that pressure valve, to look inside yourself, locate the pieces of your broken heart and hand them over.
• Remember, you don’t need to try harder to fix your outside, what you need is divine intervention to heal and restore your inside.
• Take a listen to Oxygen Mask #1 - When you don't feel Strong Enough 
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For those of you who have struggled with pornography yourself, or have ever felt pressured by your partner to watch it with him or create images of yourself, this episode is for you.

Jessica Harris is a leading voice and trail-blazer on the topic of female porn usage who shares with a level of honesty and insight that is literally shifting attitudes around the world. Jessica joins me today to talk about her own struggle with pornography and the invitation to grace that she found in the midst of her secret shame. And even if this isn't your own personal struggle, do take a listen as she gives ESSENTIAL guidance on how to help those you know who are dealing with this.

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If you need a shot in the arm of positivity and encouragement, this is the episode for you. Jennifer Hand is the equivalent of a storm chaser. Where others might pick up the phone and text in a donation, Jenn will pick up the phone and literally book a flight. In the aftermath of terrible tragedies Jenn can be found ministering on the ground, and equipping others to do the same. Wonderfully relatable, delightfully uncoordinated, and infectiously joyful, Jenn inspires and equips us to face the challenges of the season that we find ourselves in by reminding us of just who our God is. 

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Empathy by the recovering addict for their betrayed partner is essential component of reconnecting and healing, but learning how to become empathetic takes work and practice. Joining me today to talk about her powerful Early Recovery Couples work is the wise and wonderful Carol Juergensen Sheets. With it's focus on developing those all important empathy skills, Carol's workbook Help Her Heal not only helps addicts understand what their betrayed partner is feeling but also lays out a roadmap for rebuilding lost trust and intimacy. Grab a cuppa, and get comfy for this hope filled conversation! 

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We are know there is no silver bullet when it comes to preventing our loved ones from accessing porn, however today we introduce you to man whose company's mission is to get as close as possible. Using technology developed in Israel to scan for nudity in real time, Canopy offers a level of protection and range of features not yet seen in the US market.  Sean Clifford, CEO of Canopy invites Fight For Love listeners to be part of the next generation of this software, using our feedback to help thousands of other couples world wide! 

BREAKING OFFER: To sign up use the promo code FIGHTFORLOVE at www.canopy.us for a free month and 20% off subscription (This is hot off the press so if the code doesn't work yet try again in a few days and it will be working.)

Also make sure you are signed up at our newsletter at www.fightforloveministries.org so we can contact you with details of how to give feedback to Sean.

Lastly, this is the last in the current season of Fight For Love. We are all taking a little break for a couple of months, but do not panic we have not gone anywhere and will be back with season 4 shortly. Use this time to get caught up on past episodes! 

Today we come alongside those of you who are feeling tempted to seek, or have already sought, comfort outside of your marriage to cope with the pain of being neglected and/or betrayed by your spouse . Christy Neal is an advocate for women who feel tainted and cast out after adultery. As the author of Don't Ever Tell and the podcast host of Everyone Has a Voice she is the catalyst for hope and healing she desperately needed but never found a decade ago after her own affair. 

If you feel crushed and broken by your partner's persistent emotional distance and neglect, this is the episode for you. Today we are so blessed to have Karen Rellos, Certified APSAT coach, Certified AASAT Intimacy Anorexia Coach and founder of Restored Hope Coaching &  Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry, with us to share her incredible story of finding her voice and restoring her marriage after years of soul-crushing emotional neglect and abuse. Grab a fluffy blanket, a cup of tea, a box of tissues and join us for this validating, honest and inspiring conversation. 

If you have ever felt invalidated, confused and manipulated,  found yourself second guessing your instincts, or had trouble making decisions, this episode is for you. Living with someone who is intentionally, or even unintentionally gaslighting, is a confusing, painful and lonely prison. Eroding your ability to connect with your authentic self, gaslighting steadily robs you of your self-worth and true power. Sarah Morales, relationship coach, host of Deconstructing Gaslighting™ podcast and speaker, joins me today to help you understand and identify gaslighting in your life and relationships.