If you are curious about what really happens at a residential trauma intensive, take a listen to my conversation with Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery as he takes us behind the scenes at his 14-Day Intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. The program uses the TINSA® treatment model (Trauma Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy. Boulder Recovery is also the only Christian intensive in North America that includes support for partners impacted by the trauma of betrayal through online psychoeducation, care and interaction during the men’s intensive with a betrayal trauma specialist. 

In this episode you will learn:

• How an intensive experience differs from weekly individual therapy
• What different healing modalities are used to treat trauma
• What actually happens during the different stages of the intensive
• What support for partners is available
• What is the best time to attend an intensive 

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Dr Jake Porter, Licensed Professional Counselor, and founder and president of Daring Ventures, joins me today for a rich and deep dive into the brain of a betrayed partner. Drawing on his vast expertise in relational neurobiology and attachment theory, Jake compellingly explains the following:

• How betrayal trauma affects the brain
• Why triggers can feel overwhelming
• How you can begin to rebuild trust when your entire history feels like a lie.
• Why healing happens in relationships
• Why a full disclosure is essential
• What is couple-centered recovery
• How you and your partner can learn to co-regulate each other

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If you are struggling with feeling like you will never measure up in your husband's eyes, this is the episode for you. In this exploration of this dreadfully painful subject we shoot you straight with both the reality of the problem and the solution. Although some parts of our conversation may be hard to hear, dragging everything into the light is the only way forward. The biblical truths that Heather Creekmore, (author, speaker, and host of Compared To Who podcast ), shares today hold life and power to set you free from this debilitating and life-sucking issue. 

Connect with Heather at www.comparedtowho.me

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If you have ever felt that small but insistent internal nudging to start your own group this is a conversation you don't want to miss. Donna Meredith Dixon from A Door Of Hope shares with us so many precious insights and wisdom about facilitating groups for betrayed partners, and introduces us to her unique 12 week peer facilitator training program. Topics we talk about include:

• What makes a good peer facilitator? Is it a natural or a learned skill, an art or a discipline?
• How do you hold in tension the needs of a group and the needs of the individual as the same time? 
• What roles does a facilitator undertake at different stages of the groups development?
• How do  you become more comfortable with uncomfortable situations? 
• What do you need to be thinking about before you start your group, and as you end?
• Is compassion fatigue a real thing?

Find out more about A Door of Hope Facilitator Training at www.lifeisahead.com

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Learning how to emotionally regulate yourself when you get triggered is a really useful skill in recovery. Today, partner coach Shawna Meek teaches us how to listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us, and shares techniques to help us bring our brains back on line and settle ourselves.  From her own experience of being married to an intimacy avoidant spouse, Shawna also shares the best way to help someone who is acting in instead of acting out. 

The cry of every betrayed wife's heart is to be truly heard, seen and validated by their husband, but is it really possible?  Stacey Sadler, MA LPC CCPS, joins me today to share that yes, it really is! With her memorable step-by-step Victory through Validation program, anyone can develop or improve those all important empathy skills.

If pornography has hijacked your sex life and left you feeling traumatized, this episode is for you. With compassion and clarity, Dr Carol, (OB-Gyn physician, Doctor of Ministry, author, speaker, and personal coach,) jumps right into these murky waters to validate your experience, and to bring you the hope that things can be different, whether or not your husband is willing to get into recovery. 

If the impact of betrayal trauma has rocked the very foundation of your faith this is an episode you don't want to miss. Cat Etherington from Naked Truth Project and Lyschel Burket from Hope Redefined join me to discuss the deeply lonely and painful spiritual struggles that women commonly experience as the betrayed partner of a porn/sex addict. 

Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, Sheila Wray Gregoire's The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples. As a long overdue corrective to church culture, not to mention the typical advice given to wives in porn affected marriages, this book is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience the kind of intimacy and wholeness God intended. 
 

In this episode we celebrate the healing power of story with writer Jody who shares with us how she is now inspiring others to come out the shadows and embrace the restoration life that God has for them.