Fantasy in films and books is promoted and sold as a socially acceptable coping mechanism, and yet for those of us in difficult and painful situations it can develop into a self-destructive crutch. Joining us today to unpack the topic of fantasy addiction is Lacy Bentley, an award winning author, women's mentor and coach, and founder of Women United Recovery Coalition.  In her warm, engaging, and compassionate way, Lacy takes us by the hand and leads us through this tender topic,  and gives us a practical roadmap out of the shadows and into the light. If you are feeling a little apprehensive about this topic, fear not, there is no blaming or guilting in this episode just an inspiring call to step up, face the truth, heal your wounds, learn to love yourself, and move forward. 

In this hope filled and inspiring conversation with Dr Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, we delve deep into the mystery and majesty of the purpose of  sexuality as per God's design.  Her most recent book Rethinking Sexuality is a resource like no other, brilliantly fleshing out exactly what we are fighting for when we Fight For Love in our relationships.  Also don't forget to check out her podcast Java with Juli.

If you are seeking affordable, easily-accessible community and support for betrayal trauma here's another terrific option for you! Melissa Ruff is the director for Live Free Wives, a long-time group leader for betrayed women,  and is studying to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. She lives with her husband of 13 years and their three wonderful children. 

Melissa has walked the long road of healing from betrayal and knows the difficulties that betrayed spouses face. When she was in the thick of it, there was no community for her to join, and no one that felt safe enough to walk this journey with. That is why Melissa is incredibly passionate about Live Free Wives and cannot wait for you to join the Live Free Wives community!

This is the second part of my highly informative conversation with Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast.

In this episode we tackle:

• How to build up digital trust with our kids
• What to do if they have been exposed to pornography
• Signs that they might be addicted to pornography
• What to do if you suspect that they are addicted
• How to manage playdates and those awkward conversations with other parents

Joining us to talk about strategies and tools to help us protect our kids from pornography are passionate pioneers Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast. In the first of this two part conversation we are introduced to the wealth of resources freely available to help us tackle this difficult challenge and calm our fears. 

Topics covered today include: 

• Dealing with distance learning
• Anime 
• Why we need to talk about healthy sexuality
• How to start conversation about porn when your kids are different ages,
• Where to start with technological solutions
   

Continuation of frank discussion with Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about going through 90 days of celibacy, relapses in recovery, action steps to rebuild trust , sharing triggers, temptation to lust at the beach, helping a wife's triggers, and how their life and their view of their spouse has changed in recovery. 

Here to answer the questions that you really wanted answering are three of our husbands, Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about: what prompted them to get into recovery: how they felt about doing a full disclosure and joining a group; and what helped them learn how to be intimate and empathetic with us.  

Why is having a partner addicted to porn so traumatic? How does trauma affect the body? Why is getting to the truth so important? Is your behavior controlling or are you just seeking safety? What can you do if your partner won't tell you the whole truth, or if they refuse to get into recovery? What can you do if you get triggered when you are with your partner? And why is it so important to deal with present betrayal trauma first before diving into past trauma work. 

Sometimes the truth is easier to hear from somebody else. Someone who's been there, and isn't there any more. If you have a spouse who doesn't see why they should get into recovery, or even why you see it as such a problem here's an episode for you to share with them.