“Meeting your own goals is self-care. Dopamine is healing.”

Topics Discussed

“Suppression might be more dangerous than alcohol, because you carry it 24/7.”

Show Notes Summary

Hello Beautiful, Monica here, and today we’re going there. Deep. Raw. No fluff. Tania the Herbalist joins me for a truth-bomb-packed convo that will stop you in your tracks (and maybe call you out gently while doing it).

We talk about why so many women with autoimmune issues are stuck in survival mode, chasing healing from every angle, supplements, diets, protocols, but still not getting better. Tanya opens up about puking from anxiety every morning, insomnia that felt like a life sentence, and the moment she realized her body was begging her to stop suppressing. Not fixing, feeling.

This isn’t about another green smoothie or fertility-friendly tea. It’s about emotional constipation. About how not speaking your truth, staying in the wrong relationships, and never making real progress for you, not your kids, your boss, or your to-do list, is silently wrecking your immune system.

We’re unpacking what it really means to live in survival mode while chasing fertility goals, snapping at your partner, catching every cold, ruminating over laundry like it's life or death. It’s not just stress. It’s your soul suffocating under default energy loops and outdated purpose narratives.

We’re not here to slap another “modality” on the wound. We’re here to ask: What stories are you playing on repeat while folding your laundry? What do you believe about success, and does it actually excite you? This convo will challenge you, shake you up, and (lovingly) drag your nervous system out of its emotional junk drawer.

So hit play and let’s dive into what’s really keeping your body in a holding pattern, and how to finally shift it.

“Healing happens when you stop externalizing the problem and remember who the f*ck you are.”

Timestamps

01:44 Understanding why a significant number of women suffer from autoimmune illnesses.

03:50 Tanya’s rock-bottom moment with anxiety, insomnia & burnout and her journey into herbalism.

07:09 The toxicity of unspoken relationships and how suppression breaks you.

10:23 The power of mirror works in helping you face your inner demons and find healing.

15:20 The everyday energy that shapes your life and why joylessness and stagnation are the real fertility killers.

20:11 What success actually looks like and how to reverse engineer it.

21:35 Understanding that kids don’t fix you - they show you where you’re broken.

23:19 Postpartum crashes & the cost of not healing before motherhood.

“The body will scream until you listen. The signs are everywhere; you just keep overriding them.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/part-one-with-tania-khazaal 

Connect with Tania Khazaal

https://www.instagram.com/taniatheherbalist/

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"Transformation does not happen through information, it happens through integration."

Topics Discussed:

Fertility + Gut Health: Why your future child deserves a body not riddled with food sensitivities, gut issues, and autoimmune risk

IVF or Medical Trauma: Breaking the cycle of overdoing and Type A-ing your way through fertility

Emotional and Mindset Healing: Moving through miscarriage grief with grace and surrender

Subconscious Blocks and Energy Work: Dismantling trauma patterns disguised as ambition

Frequency, Coherence, Embodiment, Cellular Health: Creating inner safety through embodied action and slowing down

"Rushing is often a trauma response dressed up as ambition."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...This episode is either going to feel like a deep, gentle hug for your soul or a slap across the face with radical truth. Maybe both. Either way, it’s what you need to hear if you’ve ever thought, “I’m doing everything right, so why am I still stuck?”

We’re done collecting more knowledge. This is about living the work. Feeling it. Embodying it. And practicing it in the boring, everyday moments where transformation actually happens. You’ll hear why slowing down isn’t laziness, it’s sacred. Why the “hustle harder” mentality is just dressed-up fear. And why stillness is your most potent medicine if you let it sink in long enough to actually do its thing.

So if you’re exhausted from research, burnout, and trying to hyper-control your way into pregnancy, this episode is your permission slip to get radically honest, wildly self-aware, and finally… peaceful. Because this work doesn’t just change your fertility, it changes who you are as a mother, a partner, and a soul.

"You know it’s working when you don’t spiral during the two-week wait or another pregnancy announcement."

Timestamps

00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol

"Stillness is medicine, but only if you stay long enough to receive it."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-still-feel-stuck-on-in-infertility-hell-even-after-doing-everything-right

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Your nervous system needs to feel safe by not doing anything.

Topics Discussed

You're not relinquishing control, you're gaining real power.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is for every woman who’s ever clenched her jaw trying to "do it right" and still felt completely lost. If you're crushing the diet, the supplements, the yoga, and yet still find yourself spiraling with anxiety and doubt, this is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. We’re going beyond the to-do list and deep into the intuitive zone, where the real shifts happen, not through hustle, but through hearing.

You’ll meet Katie, a medical intuitive who unapologetically invites you to drop the productivity addiction and sit with yourself for five freaking minutes. We unpack the radical idea that connecting with your spirit baby, your body, or your guides isn't woo: it’s wise. And it’s exactly what your burnout brain has been begging for.

The truth? Your obsession with control might be the block. And the magic? It lives in the messy middle, where you breathe, listen, and get honest. Press play if you're ready to stop.

Control is a survival mechanism, but it doesn’t always serve us.

Timestamps

02:15 A writing technique to calm your nervous system and access intuition and the lessons you’ll learn.

05:45 Why most women struggle to sit with themselves and listen to their intuition.

06:29 How to let your inner guidance team actually help you to feel safe doing “nothing”.

09:07 How to handle scary truths that surface during intuitive work.

12:02 Understanding that radical changes often come from discomfort until you pay attention.

16:58 Why you need to prioritize your child over societal or familial expectations.

19:44 The importance of intentional change to avoid the same stress patterns carrying into pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting.

The more you get what you need from your inner source, the less external noise matters.

Connect with Katie Beecher

www.katiebeecher.com  

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/katie-beecher-medical-intuitive-part-two 

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“Are you willing to look somewhere else—or are you just hoping the same path magically works?”

Topics Discussed

“Spirit babies are advanced souls, and some are just waiting for you to get your act together.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

If you've ever sat with the gut-wrenching thought, “I’ve done everything, why am I still not pregnant?”—this episode is the mic-drop truth-teller you didn’t know you needed. I'm joined by the incredible Katie, a medical and spiritual intuitive who doesn't sugarcoat or sidestep the real sh*t—she dives straight into soul contracts, energetic blocks, and the hidden pain your doctor isn’t trained to look for.

Together, we unpack the layers most fertility journeys never touch—from repressed grief and subconscious guilt to childhood trauma and that secret fear you’ll become your mother. Katie explains how spiritual blueprints and unresolved emotional patterns show up in the womb space—and how the body holds onto trauma like it’s a family heirloom. Spoiler alert: IVF can’t fix that.

This episode isn’t here to coddle you. It’s here to wake you up with love. It’s a call to radical responsibility—because sometimes the thing keeping you from your baby isn’t a protocol, it’s a soul-level pattern ready to be rewritten.

So if you’re ready to move beyond the Pinterest-perfect fertility checklist and into true transformation...

“Some women are being called to heal generations of trauma—before they even conceive.”

Timestamps

02:30 Understanding why fertility isn’t always a physical issue but a soul contract thing.

04:00 Illnesses that block pregnancy, why they should be addressed, and how intuition reveals them

09:09 Why spiritually evolved women face deeper fertility journeys.

12:58 Understanding the concept of spirit babies and why it is more than just a "woo".

16:31 A wild story: channeling a grandmother to open a blocked fertility path.

19:44 Why intuition matters more than any expert you work with in your journey.

27:25 Why your unmet expectations are prolonging the wait.

“This isn’t just about getting pregnant. It’s about becoming the version of you your child deserves.”

Connect with Katie Beecher:

www.katiebeecher.com 

Full Transcript on the Blog: The Soul Contracts That Could Be Blocking Your Pregnancy with Katie Becher

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You don’t have to hold on to what’s not yours. Let the earth take it.

Topics Discussed:

You are not meant to carry it all. You’re meant to clear, to ground, to connect.

Let’s get real: if you’re exhausted from trying everything and still feeling like your body’s working against you, this episode is for you. I’m guiding you through the exact energy-clearing meditation that’s helped me show up with way more peace, trust, and emotional bandwidth—even on the wildest days. No white-knuckling. No fake zen. Just real, grounded energy work that clears out the crap clogging your system.

Because here’s the deal: when you’re on the fertility rollercoaster, your nervous system doesn’t lie. You can drink the green juice, pop the supplements, and track your cycle till you’re blue in the face—but if you’re energetically clogged, you’re not going to hear your intuition. This practice helps you drop in fast, clear emotional junk drawers, and open up that divine two-way convo between your womb and the universe.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up for your energy like it actually matters. Press play, drop in, and let’s start clearing what was never yours to carry.

Timestamps

This is one of the best ways to feel the energetic shift you’ve been longing for.

Full Transcript on the Blog: Grounding & Clearing Energy Activation Meditation for IVF & Infertility 

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Monica

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Stillness isn’t stagnation. It’s integration.

Topics Discussed

The chaos addiction blocking your fertility

You can chase in chaos, but you can’t receive in chaos.

Show Notes Summary

Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here...

This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn’t care. But because I’m practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm.

This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it’s actually the very frequency that’s keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it’s unfamiliar. But that’s exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive.

I get into how these patterns don’t magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift.

Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward?

You’re not falling behind. You’re finally tuning in.

Timestamps

00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm

Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey

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"You do not need another plan, you need presence."

Topics Discussed:

How scattered priorities sabotage fertility healing

Rewiring subconscious patterns with consistency

Understanding fear-based supplement routines

The emotional cost of over-functioning and perfectionism

Embodying the energy you want your baby to be raised in

Recognizing when ‘calm’ is just another performance

How to shift from chasing to receiving

Truth # 9 Scattered Priorities During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-9-scattered-priorities-during-infertility-ivf

"Your baby is not waiting for you to be perfect, your baby is waiting for you to stop abandoning yourself."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...

Today’s episode is not for the faint of heart, but for the brave souls ready to ditch the invisible hustle and finally get real about where their energy is leaking. If you think slowing down means you're not hustling anymore, think again. Inside, you might still be sprinting like you are training for the Fertility Olympics. In this episode, we call out the sneaky ways perfectionism, fear-based habits, and shiny new supplement plans are secretly sabotaging your journey — and we bring it all back to radical honesty, radical presence, and radical self-love.

We even tap into the deeper truth that sometimes, the stillness you are craving feels terrifying because your nervous system only knows chaos. Spoiler alert: you cannot out-supplement, out-research, or out-strategize your way into coherence. You have to live it. Piece by piece, moment by moment, tree nap by tree nap. If you are ready to stop proving, stop chasing, and start receiving, this episode is your wake-up call.

Timestamps

"Your dreams are not far away, they are already here — you just have to meet them in your now."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-break-free-from-overthinking-and-hustle-energy-during-ivf-infertility

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“Your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn’t believe it’s safe.”

• The gut-brain-womb connection

“The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge—it’s in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

Today’s episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In fact, the exact thing you’re resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for.

We’re diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn’t buy another supplement. She didn’t add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence.

You’ll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don’t feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once.

Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving.

“You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.”

00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol

“Trust doesn’t live in your brain—it lives in your body.”

Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility

Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything

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This Active Meditation Helps You Hear the Fertility Answers Already Inside You 

"Your intuition isn’t missing, it’s just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs."

Topics Discussed:

Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility

"Intuition isn’t a magical skill you need to learn, it’s a power you need to stop ignoring."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...

You’ve done it all. You’ve tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it’s not your uterus, it’s not your protocol, it’s not even the moon phase. It’s that you’ve been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it’s time to come back home to yourself.

Mabel’s journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We’re talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them.

Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that’s been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play.

"I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it."

Timestamps:

"Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility

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How self-sabotage shows up in fertility journeys

The connection between fear of judgment and subconscious patterns

Why we suppress our truth without realizing it

How childhood experiences program our nervous system to stay “safe”

Fertility success as a byproduct of aligning with your authentic self

The importance of subconscious empowerment and emotional processing

How to break through ingrained patterns using Fertile Mind & DREAMS

Affirmations to rewire fear-based beliefs

Monica’s personal story of transformation from insecure to empowered

Fertility not being something you fix—because you're not broken

Motherhood as the ultimate mirror

Why radical responsibility & inner work are non-negotiables for conscious motherhood

Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown.

In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.”

We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is.

So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way.

00:00 Welcome & intro

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility

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