Anna grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family as part of the Quiverfull movement. She and her six siblings were not allowed to attend school and were very isolated from the outside world. Everything about her childhood was strictly controlled, from the clothes she wore to the media she had access to. She was expected to teach herself from primarily religious texts as well as teaching and caring for the younger children. Her future was laid out for her as a submissive wife and mother to many children.
She left at 19 with help from family, starting life in a very unfamiliar world with little education was daunting but also thrilling. Seven years later she's still sifting through memories. She makes videos on TikTok recounting her experiences, and has found that many other folks grew up in similar circumstances. Many kids are undoubtedly still in that situation and Anna hopes she can raise awareness and play a part in helping others.

Coalition for Responsible Home Education - recommended resource
https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/

TikToks

Homeschooling
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7025738255169604870?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/6991106244157132038?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

Growing Up in a Cult
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/6985522389207567622?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7003110109895347461?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7010967459436023045?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7013846570139405574?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

Being Fabulous
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7027553385402436869?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070

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We all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painful and difficult. In this episode I share something that has helped me to better keep my balance and move more gracefully through these times in my own life.

Finding OK has a Patreon! Join for access to exclusive posts, pics, clips, and even the occasional video episode! Listener contributions are what keep Finding OK alive <3
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This is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and one "Yes" is still "No".  If you have a similar story, you are not alone and it wasn't your fault. It was rape. Your trauma is valid.

Episode Notes:

Consent:
https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent

Guest Interview with BardicSway on Twitch for RAINN Fundraiser - LIMITED TIME ONLY
This is me! Talking! with my FACE! Join Twitch to join me for livestreams! @Hecate_FindingOK
Part 1
https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1124490772?filter=archives&sort=time

Part 2
https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1124542439?filter=archives&sort=time

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Join me for a beautiful talk with Sandra Cooze. Sandra is an intuitive mentor and coach, spiritual advisor, advanced soul realignment practitioner, jewelry designer, loving wife and mother, and the author of, “Journey to Your Self, How to Heal from Trauma, Written by Someone Who Did”. We discuss her book, her healing journey, her coaching practice, crystal healing, reiki, TIR trigger release, ancestral healing, and the Akashic records.

I forgot to mention it in the episode but Finding OK is 2 years old today!! Is it a Podcast birthday or anniversary? Either way - YAY and thank you for listening!! 

Sandra's Website
https://riseaboveyourstory.com/

Sandra's Book
https://riseaboveyourstory.com/product/journey-to-your-self-signed-copy/

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/journey-to-your-self-how-to-heal-from-trauma-sandra-cooze/1138885647?ean=9781950895793&fbclid=IwAR2c8GYZiVdyhX8hTRdUwNBgToB6NCKnbx0XTM1AlkKNvHyFRNmiHqdSgqc

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1950895793?pf_rd_r=40J98K6817315670Q3T5&pf_rd_p=6fc81c8c-2a38-41c6-a68a-f78c79e7253f&pd_rd_r=e0315329-3bba-479d-a17c-b1804413aebb&pd_rd_w=m8v4G&pd_rd_wg=awupD&ref_=pd_gw_unk

Sandra's Jewelry
https://riseaboveyourstory.com/ethereal-soul-jewelry/

TIR
https://www.tira.org/

Reiki
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/308772#where-can-I-get-reiki

Crystal Vaults
https://www.crystalvaults.com/

Crystals mentioned in the episode:

Larimar
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Larimar

https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/larimar/

Black Tourmaline
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/black-tourmaline/

Selenite
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/selenite/

Obsidian (black and snowflake were mentioned)
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/obsidian/

Citrine
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/citrine/

Quartz (clear)
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/quartz/

Amethyst
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/amethyst/

Moldavite (use with care)
https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/moldavite/

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Sage rejoins me for this episode as we laugh and cover some pretty intense subjects. We discuss post-trauma kink shaming, sex, sexuality, and physical responses. We are sexual beings and trauma can affect us all in very different ways! You are valid and however you get down is valid as long as you're not harming others without their consent!

Episode Note:

Bailey Sarian - who we mentioned in the episode
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtNdVINwfYFTQEEZgMiQ8FA

Teeth (2008) - TW for movie and article
https://www.vice.com/en/article/j5x957/teeth-is-the-feminist-horror-classic-that-men-tried-to-sabotage

TOS does not allow me to share links to the various sites or toy producers that Sage recommends. These can be found in a post via my BuyMeACoffee site where you can become a member and support the podcast.

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Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of the deepest honors of my life to hold this space. I want to find more ways to help facilitate healing, to help survivors find their strength, and to help them feel connected, seen, and held. Letters for the fire feels like a part of that and if it feels right for you I hope you’ll entrust me with your letter.

Include instructions in the subject of your email
- "Read in episode", I will read your letter aloud in an episode of the podcast.
- "Read and burn", I will read your letter to myself and burn it.
- "Burn unread", I will burn your letter without reading it.

Visit the podcast website to contact me.
https://www.finding-ok.com/

There are now membership options via BuyMeACoffee! By becoming a member you help support the podcast and gain access to exclusive behind the scenes extras!
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/FindingOK

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Cara Elizabeth is the creator of the Animal Pharmacy Deck. Cara is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and when she couldn't find the healing tools that worked for her she created her own.
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Cara Elizabeth is an artist who resides in Brooklyn. She received her Bachelor's degree from Massachusetts College of Art and Design with a focus in Painting and her MFA in Experimental Animation from CalArts. She is a Baháʼí and grew up in a Baháʼí family, which fostered her search to independently investigate all spiritual teachings and the science of reality. 
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Cara Elizabeth credits her decades of complex PTSD, due to childhood sexual trauma, as not only her greatest asset but what led to her creation of Animal Pharmacy. After very little success with healing from both western and alternative medical practices, Cara finally chose to no longer look outside of herself to fix what was broken, but, instead to go within and heal herself. This is how Animal Pharmacy was born.

Animal Pharmacy Website
https://www.animalpharmacycards.com/

Scripting
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QODevecChWs

TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@animalpharmacy?lang=en

Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/animalpharmacy/?hl=en

Andrea Gibson - I Sing the Body Electric, Especially When My Power's Out
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAySTOeC2NY

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NJ Lechnir joins me to discuss his book, "Addiction, Loss and Recovery: How to Deeply Understand the Mindset of Addictive Behavior and Win the Battle".  NJ shares the difficulties of growing up with an alcoholic father, his struggles with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts, and how he has transformed former areas of insecurity into strengths that he shares with others.

 NJ is the author of two self-published books titled, Addiction Loss and Recovery: How to Deeply Understand the Mindset of Addictive Behavior and Win the Battle and, Leapfrogging Success: 5 Simple Steps to Powerful Presentations and Public Speaking for Nerds, Techies and Introverts. Having struggled with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts all his life, and always struggling with intense anxiety of public speaking, he decided to break out of his shell and change all of that. In his books, NJ goes deep into his past and describes events that shape who he is today. Working as a successful Learning and Development professional, he is also founder of a revolutionary platform called The LEAPS Method, a 5 step framework that he developed and teaches in learning courses, workshops, books, articles, videos, and personalized coaching to help anxious analytical introverts like himself become powerful speakers and presenters. NJ loves reading, running, and photography. He is a loving husband and father of six children.

Episode Notes:

Website
https://leapfroggingsuccess.com/

Books
https://leapfroggingsuccess.com/download-resources/

https://www.amazon.com/Leapfrogging-Success-Powerful-Presentations-Introverts-ebook/dp/B071FL81DC

Medium
https://medium.com/@njlechnir

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Welcome to Season 3! In today's episode I thank everyone who has made Finding OK possible, I share what I got up to on my break, and let you know about some changes with the podcast moving forward. I'm back!

Ramshackle Glory
https://ramshackleglory.bandcamp.com/

Talk Shit With P - guest episodes
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6RkdAR4VdWydlhdSU5yBEx

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6RkdAR4VdWydlhdSU5yBEx

BishPuddin666 on Twitch
https://www.twitch.tv/bishpuddin666

Sway_ASMR on Twitch
https://www.twitch.tv/sway_asmr

Play FM - Best Sexual Assault Podcasts of 2021
https://player.fm/podcasts/Sexual-Assault

NCC
https://www.notcoolclub.co.uk/
https://www.facebook.com/notcoolucl/

The Every Voice Coalition
https://www.everyvoicecoalition.org/

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Jackie Roby shares her healing journey and the work she does in the world with healing and wellness travel. Jackie and I discuss the importance of asking for help, showing up authentically in personal and professional spaces, secret keeping and communication in families, healing from childhood sexual abuse, diversity, and anti-racism work. She shares how healing and wellness travel has transformed her life and helped her heal and release shame.
Jackie is a speaker, podcaster, writer, solution strategist, social media amplifier, yoga lover, travel addict, fierce foodie, empath to the core, wife, mother, and the CEO of Inspired Journey Consulting. 

Jackie's Website
https://inspiredjourneyconsulting.com/

Jackie's Blog - Through Inspired Eyes
https://inspiredjourneyconsulting.com/blog/

Jackie's Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/through-inspired-eyes-travel-can-heal/id1544605633

Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/inspiredjourneyconsulting/?hl=en

Books recommended by Jackie
https://bookshop.org/books/excuse-me-your-life-is-waiting-the-astonishing-power-of-feelings/9781571747358

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/129603.You_Can_Heal_Your_Life

https://bookshop.org/books/big-magic-creative-living-beyond-fear/9781594634727

Jackie and I both love this meditation app!
https://insighttimer.com/meditation-app

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.spotlightsix.zentimerlite2&hl=en_US&gl=US

Marco Polo App
https://www.marcopolo.me/

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co.happybits.marcopolo

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