What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Impact of Lisa’s father's absence and behavior on personal relationships

- Her realization about the impact of blaming parents for relationship struggles

- Deciding to transform and not be defined by the past

- Transitioning from blaming to taking responsibility for one’s own happiness

- Lisa’s experience of rejection and fear originating from the father-daughter relationship

- Her decision to seek and attract qualities in a partner that were lacking in the father

- Meeting the right partner after personal growth and emotional healing

- Letting go of past baggage and emotional wounds from previous relationships

Key quotes:

"I’d meet somebody and tell them my story. Then I meet someone else, and I tell them my story. Eventually, I started to see how inane and boring it is to keep retelling your story as if that's who you are." — Lisa Shield

“It hit me that carrying all of this blame and this old story that it was my father's fault that I couldn't have a healthy relationship with a man was getting in my way." — Lisa Shield

"I decided that if I couldn't heal my relationship with my own father, that I could still heal my relationships with men." — Lisa Shield

"I went on 96 1st dates. The 96th date was my husband Benjamin. The whole time I was putting myself out there, as I was sitting across from a man on a date, I often felt like being rejected by my father all over again. Those fears would come up, and I would have to deal with them. I would sit with my feelings, I would love myself, and I would talk myself off the ledge." — Lisa Shield

"Instead of using my relationship with my father as an excuse for why I couldn't have the kind of relationship I wanted, I used it as the reason why I had to go out and find the kind of guy I wanted…I knew I had the power to walk forward, to acknowledge that my relationship with my father was never going to be what I wanted, but that I could get out there and do the work and face my fears and learn how to separate the good men from the not so good men and find a Guardian of My Soul." — Lisa Shield

"I had to learn how to love myself. No matter what was going on around me, no matter whether a guy wrote back to me or asked me on a second date or not, I knew that I had to keep moving forward, healing my heart, and loving myself." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Caroline's past concern for approval and fear of abandonment

- Her decision to take a dating course to improve her approach to relationships

- Matt’s frustration with the non-committal nature of dating apps

- Valuing communication and shared values in relationships

- The two meeting through Tinder and developing a strong connection

- Matt's appreciation for Caroline's directness and clarity

- Caroline and Matt's decision to consider premarital counseling

- Caroline's focus on career and personal growth before seeking a partner

- Both guests highlighting communication as a key element in their relationship

- How Lisa’s course facilitated their mutual understanding

- The importance of making lifelong connections and identifying relationship needs

- Learning to be emotionally vulnerable and its impact on relationships

Key quotes:

"I realized that I needed some help, some different type of help that I wasn't getting anywhere else in the dating world." — Caroline 

"I would have rather been liked for something I wasn't than disliked for something I was. I was just more concerned with the approval." — Caroline

“So it took just enough heartbreaks for me, honestly, to realize that, yes, I was doing like reading books on dating and love and how to improve myself, and I was going to therapy on and off, but it still was not producing anything different. I wasn't doing enough differently, so I had to do something." — Caroline 

"But the older I've gotten, I've learned a lot through [past] relationships of really what I want and being able to communicate with somebody on a totally different level. [...] It's really refreshing, I guess you could say, to find somebody that you can really just talk to and not really be judged or anything like that." — Matt

"I wouldn't have met Matt if I waited, because there was just a type of guy I was going for. I had this image of what I wanted him to look like, what kind of work I wanted him to do, where I wanted him to live. I had this whole image of what I thought I wanted. And after taking your course, I was like, dude…What are the five qualities I need, absolutely need, in somebody that I could not live without? And those five qualities are beyond a job title. They are beyond what city a person lives in. They're beyond somebody's height." — Caroline

"We have values that we share together as far as being truthful and speaking our mind with each other. We're very direct with each other…sometimes one of us might have our feelings hurt for a little bit when we are direct that way, but I think it's for the best because if you don't have these tough conversations, then you're going to be at this level but never achieve something greater." — Matt 

“The lifelong friendships and connections I've made in your program, like the quality of the other women, the quality of you, Lisa–I have a lifetime connection with all of you. I'd say that's one thing that you do…Just having such good quality people I respect and I admire and I look up to and I learn from in my corner." — Caroline

"We talked about some of our core values that we had as far as what we want in a partner and just the communication that we were able to have just in such a short period of time…" — Matt [00:17:25 → 00:17:39]

“She invested in herself to want something better in her life and to know exactly what she wants. And I very much respect it that she said, hey, look, this is a problem in my life…Let me figure this out. I'll do a program, and really figure it out and of what I really want." — Matt

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women

- The connection between a woman's openness and bringing out the best in men

- The story of Lisa’s initial reservations about her now-husband

- The positive outcomes of being receptive to someone who didn't meet her list of standards

- How continuous busyness and lack of time affect women's ability to be open to men

- The fear of vulnerability and admitting a need for partnership

- Men's experiences, fears, and sensitivities often neglected

- The influence of parental relationships on men's attitudes

- The necessity for kind, thoughtful communication that is free from shaming

- Identifying blind spots that might impede relationship progress

- Importance of effective communication through different life stages

- Examples of displaying openness and warmth on dates

- Encourages seeking help to recognize and overcome dating challenges

- Guidance on being emotionally naked, letting go of baggage for connection

- The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women

- Managing fear of rejection and learning from past relationships

Key quotes:

"Many of you pride yourself on going, doing, and keeping yourself busy every second of every day. And it's like a badge of honor for you to be incredibly busy. You don't know how to relax and stop running and rushing through life." — Lisa Shield

“He's not looking to just fit into your life. You both will have to fit into each other's lives and make room for each other. " — Lisa Shield

"So many of us have been burned by men, and when that happens, you don't just get over it. Even going to therapy and sitting and processing, it doesn't mean that when you're in the moment with a man that you really like, you're just able to push all of your hurts and all of your years of disappointment aside and suddenly open up to him. We carry those past experiences into each date." — Lisa Shield

"You're not going to attract the kind of man you truly want unless you can make space and room in your life and heart for him." — Lisa Shield

"You have the most beautiful hearts, and you're capable of loving in extraordinary ways, and you're longing to attract a Guardian of Your Soul. And the problem is that there's all these little blind spots that you don't even know you have." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

-Building a financially responsible partnership

- Combining finances and removing barriers

- Supporting partner during times of uncertainty and income loss

- Success in dating doesn't require external qualities or wealth

- Approaching relationships with spiritual principles

- Foundation of kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion, patience, and personal responsibility

- Acknowledging past anxiety rooted in fear

- Evaluating partner's principles, treatment of others, and level of consciousness

- Relationships guided by authenticity, not predetermined scripts

- Deciding to trust partner based on demonstrated qualities

- Sharing financial responsibilities as true partners

- Support during career transitions and financial assistance

- Partner's role in supporting and encouraging personal and professional growth 

- Sharing the financial burden and acting as a guardian of the partner’s soul

Key quotes:

• "Benjamin and I both contribute financially to this marriage, being true partners." — Lisa Shield
• "Benjamin doesn’t tell me how to run my business or make more money, but by believing in my power to do those things, to figure them out on my own and creating a container for me to do that." — Lisa Shield
• "In terms of finances, it wasn't about asking a series of questions. It was about looking at this man's principles and observing who he is how he moved through the world, and how he treated me." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Jessica’s experience utilizing tools and knowledge from coaching to navigate dating experiences

-Jessica’s experience with Lisa’s program as  particularly helpful 

- Using OkCupid and Bumble for dating

- Not taking things personally and avoiding overanalysis

- Empowering women to ask for what they want

- Jessica’s experience being a single mother and struggling during COVID

- Her desire for a partner and modeling healthy relationships for her child

- Tools and knowledge acquired for handling rejection and inappropriate behavior

- Creating a list of criteria for potential partners

Key quotes:

• "It was really important to me that I modeled [for my daughter] a healthy relationship and a healthy marriage for her so that hopefully she would have that when she's older." — Jessica
• "By not taking anything personally, it was just very freeing." — Jessica
• “If I had not worked with you and I met with challenges dating online,, I would have been so upset, I would have been freaked out. Like, screw men, screw dating, cancel all my accounts on the apps. Like, I'm done with this, right?" — Jessica
• "Our program works the way it's written, and people just have to follow the process if they're going to get the most out of it." — Lisa Shield
• "Thinking you know how wat you want and how to choose a healthy partner and and putting it into practice are very different things." — Lisa Shield
• "I've talked to some friends about your program and everything, and they're like, ‘Why would you spend that much money on that?’ And I said, ‘Well, look at what I've gotten for it. I met a great man that I wouldn't have known how to meet otherwise. Now I have a partner, now my daughter has a father figure.’" — Jessica

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Importance of making dating a priority 

- Toxic optimism and not acknowledging the challenges of conceiving after 35 

- Understanding the timeline and planning accordingly 

- Settling and rushing the process 

- Relying on chemistry as the main indicator of compatibility 

- Rushing into relationships due to anxiety about starting a family

- Neglecting personal growth and self-reflection 

- Recognizing past mistakes and learning from them 

- Seeking professional help to gain clarity and work through insecurities 

- Generic self-help methods vs. targeted advice on dating and relationships 

- Importance of learning about men and effective communication strategies

Key quotes:

"What can happen for many women who want kids is they don't make it a priority and they leave it to chance until they wake up and realize it’s too late." — Lisa Shield

"Neglecting your personal growth...is a terrible mistake." — Lisa Shield

"I thought I'd look needy or desperate or insecure if I was open to a man – if I was receptive, if I asked a man for what I wanted and needed." — Lisa Shield

"It's a three month course. That's all we need is three months of your time, and we will give you a PhD level education in getting this solved." — Lisa Shield

“We will show you how we can help you find the Guardian of Your Soul faster than you ever thought possible." — Lisa Shield 

"The only missing piece for so many of you is that guy. Let us show you how to find him." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Partners feeling uncomfortable when not in control and sabotaging relationships

- Self-reflection and confronting the darker side

- Dating as an opportunity to work through these behaviors

- Emotional availability vs. moving at a different pace

- The significance of the spiritual component in relationships

- Learning to give unconditional love to receive it

- Finding a partner to respect, admire, and accept

- Letting go of perfectionism and inner critic

- Creating a safe space for failure

Key quotes:

"Some women hold themselves to impossibly high standards. And then, when they get into relationships which are unpredictable and unknown territory, it triggers a lot of insecurities and brings certain unattractive behaviors to the surface.” – Lisa Shield

“Some women are not only hard on men when they don't get what they want, but they’re also hard on themselves when they have to look at their own dark side." — Lisa Shield

"I have seen women let their corporate, high-achiever mentality spill over into their love lives. This can be a turn-off for men who don't want that in their relationships with women." — Lisa Shield

"Some women take it personally when a man isn't moving at their pace and saying and doing the things they feel he should be by a certain time. Their arbitrary timelines can cause them to sabotage relationships with good men who just need time to catch up to them." — Lisa Shield

"One of the mistakes I see many people make with personal growth work is that they get it intellectually, they get it conceptually, but they don't out it into practice." — Lisa Shield

"We all have to look at how to accept ourselves. To do that, we have to accept that we’re human and fallible and learn to love ourselves even with all of our imperfections." — Lisa Shield

“To be a loving, emotionally intelligent adult in a relationship, starts with letting go of the need to be perfect." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Zia discovering burlesque and being captivated by its freedom and openness

- Struggling with embracing sensuality, sexuality, and femininity

- Therapy, self-work, and self-love to deconstruct upbringing in a religion

- Her journey defining success based on personal truth and self-acceptance

- Societal expectations and the patriarchy's influence on women's self-worth

- Stripping industry stigma and mistreatment, advocating for better protection and acceptance

- Zia's admiration for strippers' sales skills and work ethic

- Prioritizing performance over seeking male attention

- Embracing and appreciating sensuality and beauty through burlesque

- The importance of self-love, sensuality, and personal exploration

Key quotes:

"In the process of pursuing what I love, it brings a satisfaction and joy of life that I never thought I could have." — Zia Sandía

“When you start learning how to trust yourself, you can take another person’s point of view and think about it, but not let it hurt you." — Zia Sandía

"It sounds like as a woman, it can be incredibly empowering to feel your beauty, your sensuality, instead of feeling that there's something wrong with it. That is an issue for women today…they find their power in their work and their corporate jobs and in all these other things, and they lose sight of who they are as women." — Lisa Shield

"To excite the audience, to pull out sensuality and lure them in on a mass scale was something that was such a challenge to me, like something I didn't ever think I could do." — Zia Sandía

"You have to find the sensuality and the beauty within yourself in order to invoke that to others." — Zia Sandía

"It would be nice if [sex work] were more accepted and if it were more protected... the women could be more protected." — Lisa Shield

'We are taught as women that we are a threat and we need to stay in line. And if we are going to be seen as worth it or worthy to a man, we better learn our place. And that teaches women that they need to offer something more than what they just are to be good enough.'" — Zia Sandía

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Exploring the idea that men enjoy the chase in relationships

- Examination of why nice men may not pursue women they perceive as difficult or complicated

- Addressing the misconception that men are mind-readers and the importance of clear communication

- Recognizing that men, like women, have different personalities and preferences

- Discussion of a woman's miscommunication with a man and his slower approach

- Acknowledging that some men may be introverted or uncertain about signals

- Recognizing the cryptic and tentative signals often sent by women

- Highlighting the need for effective communication and understanding between men and women

- Critique of the concept of men chasing women and its promotion of game playing and manipulation

- Cautionary note about men using deceptive tactics and the need for personal reflection

- Importance of taking responsibility for one's actions in attracting and understanding men

- Emphasis on the gradual development of relationships and the importance of authenticity

Key quotes:

"One reason why this whole idea that men should chase women is wrong is because just the very sound of it promotes game playing. The idea that a man should chase a woman can encourage manipulative behavior like playing hard to get." — Lisa Shield

"Great guys who are building fabulous careers and have money want women who are easy to get along with, women who are transparent, women who are upfront, who know how to talk to a man." — Lisa Shield 

"And all of our clients who have found the Guardians of Their Souls will say, ‘This is not the kind of guy I thought I would be with. It started off very slow and it just kept progressing and getting better and better and better as we got to know each other.’" — Lisa Shield

"You may think you're being very clear about how you feel, you may think you're being obvious. But some women, most women, can be extremely cryptic in the way that they send signals to men." — Lisa Shield

"The idea that men like to chase women sets up a cat and mouse game, and that is not a good basis for the beginning of a relationship or a good way to gain male attention and interest." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Fear of vulnerability and its impact on connection

- The need to let your guard down and show your true self to attract emotionally available partners

- Unrealistic expectations in searching for a partner

- The tendency to look for stereotypes rather than real, authentic individuals

- The drawbacks of finding a partner who fits stereotypes and lacks authenticity

- The glorification of busyness and its impact on making time for a relationship

- Overanalyzing and creating unnecessary problems

- Magnifying small issues and creating unnecessary hurdles in the relationship

- Avoiding conflict and the consequences

- The fear of conflict and the reluctance to address important questions or conversations

- The impact of suppressing feelings and avoiding crucial discussions on building closeness

Key quotes:

"A lot of women aren’t looking for a real man. They’re looking for a stereotype or an archetype that doesn't really exist." — Lisa Shield 

"Being busy is not necessarily a good thing. If your calendar is so packed that you don't have time for a relationship, then you're not going to be able to make room for a man in your life." — Lisa Shield 

"I see this so often with our clients. We literally beg them to have conversations with the men that they're seeing she they can get clear on where the relationship is going.  Unfortunately, because the guy is continuing to make dates with them, they wind up going along with the guys and wasting precious time because they don't want to rock the boat." — Lisa Shield 

"Playfulness is a form of vulnerability. To be playful, you cannot be self-conscious and second-guessing yourself. You need to be in the moment and at ease." — Lisa Shield

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