What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- About Lisa Y, a divorced mom and lawyer who is used to taking care of her kids and had rarely invested in herself before Lisa Shield’s program.

- About her desire for change and not wanting to have regrets in the future

- How she prioritized coaching calls in a commitment to invest time, finances, hopes and dreams into the program

- How she met Steve, what she found in him, and what he found in her 

- Her moments of feeling discouraged but encouraged by Steve to keep going

- Her acknowledging the challenges of the journey and the importance of support

- Her learning to value personal relationships and experiences over work accomplishments

- Her exploring the lessons learned from recommended readings and the Four Agreements

- Her recognizing patterns in dating and relationships 

Key quotes:

• "I recognized myself. I recognized other people. I recognized how I date, but I also recognized my other relationships... That book was really life changing." — Lisa Y.
• "For these set of weeks, I am committed to that, and work will always be there... But I needed to invest in myself, and you really did impress that upon me." — Lisa Y.
• "The idea of slowing down and enjoying who you're with in that moment, that rings true in all aspects of my life, because I don't want everything to be said and done. And the only thing I had to show for it was work. That's not good. That's not where I want to be." — Lisa Y.
• “This is hard to keep up. And I can see why people throw in the towel. But you encouraged me keep going, keep going and keep doing the work. And it made all the difference because I want this guy to travel with and to cut the birthday cake with." — Lisa Y.
• ​​”No relationship lasted longer than three months. It seems like that was a magic point where the real truth comes out and breaks loose. I was trying to slow things down and really make sure I was picking the right person to begin with and giving that more thought than just falling into things, trying to be more deliberate." — Steve
• "Drama in relationships, where someone instigates conflicts for the thrill of breaking up and making up, is sheer madness. Personally, I've been in such situations before, and I can't tolerate it. Genuine disagreement is one thing, but intentionally causing drama for emotional rollercoasters is something I refuse to engage in." — Steve
• "Two people can be passionately in love and not fight." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Discussion of attachment theory and its influence on partner choice

- Highlighting the volatility and toxicity of relationships with anxious-avoidant attachments

- Realization that chemical attraction isn't the best foundation for a relationship

- Understanding the need to find different ways to connect with potential partners

- Exploration of managing one's own anxiety and building secure attachments

- Importance of taking time to get to know each other in building a strong relationship

- Emphasizing the need to observe how a person responds in difficult situations

- Encouraging enjoyment of the dating journey and taking the time to get to know each other

- Importance of finding a partner who respects boundaries and desires for a slower pace

- Identification of avoidant behaviors early on, particularly in men

- Differentiation between confident pacing and overwhelming love bombing

- Desire for calm and peace in relationships, especially in the early stages

Key quotes:

• "When I finally started to unravel this in my late 30s, early forties, and I started to look at all of the bad relationships I'd had, it made me start to realize that chemical attraction wasn't really a good thing." — Lisa Shield 
• "What's really hard for many people to wrap their brains around is the idea of a relationship that doesn't have those extreme highs and those extreme lows, but still is connected." — Lisa Shield
• "It doesn't matter how beautiful you are or how educated or successful or whatever, your anxiety will sabotage everything." — Lisa Shield 
• "One of the things that I started to do was instead of just jumping in and fixating on one guy I liked, I realized that it would be much healthier for me to date several men at once." — Lisa Shield
• "Relationships take time...You have to sit back and wait and watch and listen and learn before you just give your heart to anybody." — Lisa Shield 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Challenging Beauty Standards: Lisa shares her experiences and observations in the fashion industry and how beauty can be both a blessing and a curse.
• The Importance of Personality: Benjamin and Lisa empahsize the significance of developing one's personality and engaging with others in a healthy way, rather than relying solely on physical appearance.
• Beyond Superficiality: The episode delves into the belief that true beauty and meaningful relationships go beyond superficial appearances.
• Lisa’s Relationship Journey: The podcast host reflects on her own personal journey in finding and maintaining a fulfilling relationship, highlighting the importance of teamwork and emotional vulnerability.
• The Role of Kindness and Emotional Availability: The speakers discuss the qualities that make someone attractive to them, including kindness, emotional availability, and consistency between words and actions.
• True Attraction: The episode concludes with the idea that while beauty may attract attention, real and lasting love requires something deeper than just physical appearance - it requires a genuine connection and compatibility.

Key quotes:

• "Beauty will always attract attention, but to have true and lasting love, a woman has to offer something more." — Lisa Shield 
• "When a woman has confidence in herself, her confidence can overshadow her appearance and make a woman shine. That is incredibly attractive." — Benjamin Shield 
• "The difference between being rich and being wealthy is being rich means having a lot of money, but being wealthy means being happy with what you have." — Benjamin Shield 
• "If I'm sitting across from this gorgeous woman who's not emotionally vulnerable, it's like being in a museum. You could appreciate the beauty, but there's no real connection. And with you, I knew that our connection would grow because of the emotional vulnerability. The availability that you had brought up mine." — Benjamin Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• How men are not mind readers, and communication is key.
• Why women should express their needs and desires to their partners, despite conflicting messages
• The importance of expressing appreciation and guiding each other to be a partners in each others’ life
• How to let a partner know their importance and suggest ways they can contribute
• Personal experiences and the importance of expressing needs for a fulfilling partnership
• The importance of balancing positive and negative feedback in relationships:
• Gottman's research, and the 5:1 ratio rule

Key quotes:

• “Having this conversation in the right way and at the right time is an invitation to deeper intimacy. It is an invitation for a man to come closer to you." — Lisa Shield
• “One of the issues of asking for what a person needs is to be able to have that conversation that either moves the relationship forward or she has to know that this isn't working for her for what she ultimately wants." — Benjamin Shield 
• “Women need to ask for what they want in a loving, kind, compassionate, non-shaming, non-emasculating way; in a way that is positive and inviting and allows the right men to come closer to her." — Lisa Shield 
• “If he has this discussion just before in his bedtime, he's going to be up, he's going to be ruminating." — Benjamin Shield 
• "The single most important thing we can do with our time is be looking for love." — Lisa Shield 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• AI technology is revolutionizing online dating by enhancing user safety and security, detecting fraudulent profiles, and improving overall user experience.
• The rise of AI-generated fake profiles and content highlights the importance of AI technology in helping users identify and avoid scams online.
• Advancements in AI technology on dating sites, such as chatbots and voice assistants, will facilitate seamless communication and language translation, catering to diverse user needs.
• Data privacy concerns regarding the collection and ethical use of user data for AI algorithms need to be addressed by dating apps to ensure user trust and protection.
• AI features like personalized prompts and icebreakers simplify and enhance the conversation and connection process for users, reducing swipe burnout.

Key quotes:

• "We really encourage all of our clients to do a background check on anyone they're dating, no matter how legitimate they think that person is, because you'd be surprised what you can uncover." — Lisa Shield
• "AI technology can also provide a more seamless and convenient user experience on dating sites, including chatbots, chat bots, voice assistance, and language translation services." — Lisa Shield
• "You can actually feed the AI past email responses to similar kinds of questions, and the AI will learn your tone, how you would respond, and then do in a matter of minutes what it would take you hours to do or take an assistant hours to do for you." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What does it really mean to be “emotionally naked”?
• In the same way we get physically naked, we don’t get emotionally naked at all once. It should come off slowly, and piece by piece.
• Being fearlessly authentic doesn’t mean dumping on the person, nor does it mean too much too soon.
• Fearlessly authentic means being fearless and not oversharing.
• There’s a sense of responsibility and emotional maturity that goes along with being fearlessly authentic.
• Why it’s important to let someone know what your boundaries are, and why it can be cruel not to.
• Lisa and Benjamin model an example of fearless authenticity on a date.
• What things foster vs. kill communication?
• It’s also not just the words we say, but the way we say those words.
• Your needs and boundaries may change from moment to moment, and that’s okay.
• Words can bring us closer together, or words can be a weapon. And, it’s also the way we say those words that matter.

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Quotes:

• Words can bring us closer together, or words can be a weapon.”  - Benjamin
• “I think it’s the willingness to share all of us, but perhaps not all at once.” Benjamin
• “With any great communication, you have to take into account the person sitting across from you and be conscious of their bandwidth.” - Lisa
• “Fearless authenticity means being fearless and not oversharing. There’s a sense of responsibility and emotional maturity that goes along with it.” - Lisa
• “Being emotionally naked just doesn’t mean being emotional.” - Benjamin
• “It’s the presence of two people sitting there where nothing else exists.” - Benjamin
• “It’s not just the words, it’s the way people say the words.” - Lisa

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Men are just as sensitive as women and have needs like women. 
• The more we can understand each other, the better our relationships will be. 
• Would a man rather feel alone and unloved or respected? The answer may surprise you. 
• Most men equate respect with love, so when they feel disrespected, they feel unloved. 
• Respect is the single most important thing a woman can give a man. 
• Are you creating a safe, loving, and respectful space for a man to open up to you? 
• A man will not open up to you if you are exuding masculine energy. 
• What do women say or do that make men feel disrespected? 
• How can you tell that a man feels disrespected? 
• Ways you can demonstrate respect for men in your life. 
• You do not have to agree with a man to treat them with respect. 
• Examples of how you can communicate with a man respectfully. 
• Great men will share their hearts with you, and you will have your choice of extraordinary men. 

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Quotes: 

• "Most men equate respect with love, so when they feel disrespected, they feel unloved." - Lisa 
• "Respect is the single most important thing a woman can give a man." - Lisa 
• "Are you creating a safe, loving, and respectful space for a man to open up to you?" - Lisa 
• "You do not have to agree with a man to treat them with respect." - Lisa 
• "Women require unconditional love in the same way that men require unconditional respect." - Lisa 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Building a lasting relationship requires establishing an authentic and emotional connection with a man.
• What happens when you rush in and push the love part without first establishing a deep friendship? 
• Great sex alone will not deepen the emotional connection with a man; it is the emotional bond that leads to better intimacy.
• Rushing into a physical relationship without a solid foundation of friendship leaves no basis for a lasting connection.
• How Lisa and Benjamin built a foundation of trust, compassion, and respect, allowing them to be the Guardians of Each Other's Souls. 
• It's crucial to prioritize emotional compatibility over immediate physical intimacy and invest time in discovering true emotional connection.
• Slowing down allows you to recognize the absence of an emotional connection and make informed decisions.
• Emphasizing the significance of taking time, building a genuine connection, and understanding intentions and compatibility before engaging in physical intimacy promotes self-discovery, boundary-setting, and the establishment of respect and admiration.
• Working with Lisa can help you understand what you really want and bring that to a beautiful relationship. 

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Quotes: 

•  "Sex won't lead to an emotional connection. The emotional connection may lead to better sex, but great sex will not lead to a deeper emotional connection with a man." - Lisa 
• When you become lovers before you're even friends, there's no foundation for lasting love." - Lisa 
• "If you really want to have a truly intimate, loving, lasting relationship, you're going to have to wade through those very uncomfortable dates." - Lisa 
• "It's about not having sex or jumping into bed, but really finding out if you are emotionally compatible first." - Lisa 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• The importance of being present and genuine on a date, especially the first one. 
• Men love when a woman can foster a lighthearted and playful atmosphere to create a comfortable space for both individuals.
• How to build trust and establish a sense of safety through humor and playfulness.
• Men look for the green flag of a woman who enhances and enriches a man's life.
• Men that are looking for a deep emotional connection find it a green flag when they can freely share their personal thoughts and feelings with a woman. 
• A man seeks validation of his masculinity from his partner, a unique quality that only a woman can provide.
• Embrace and practice unconditional acceptance of your partner.
• Avoid taking things too personally and be open to growth and healing from past relationships.
• How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you adopt these green flags and become the best version of yourself while finding a guardian of your soul relationship. 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Both men and women struggle to understand each other in the dating world, but integrating knowledge about male-female differences can hep you bring more compassion to your dates and make deeper emotional connections.
• Double Standards in breakups, appearance, and expectations regarding who pays for what. 
• Understanding why men are the way they are can be a game changer.
• The different reactions to setting boundaries. What can empower women can often come across as controlling for men.
• Men often feel confused and tentative now about making the first move.  
• The double standards that both Lisa and Rebecca have seen in their professional and personal experiences. 
• A listener question: is sharing the same interests in your relationship essential?
• The book Why Men Are The Way They Are was a game changer for Lisa. 

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Quotes: 

• "I think it becomes a beautiful dance when you're able to start meeting each other in the places and showing interest about who that person genuinely is." - Rebecca
• "It's hard for both sexes. It's really tough for both men and women to understand one another.n We all feel misunderstood by the opposite sex." - Lisa 
• "(The course) changed the way I showed up on dates. It also really was a place where I was able to soften. And in that softening, and really being open to understanding what it was like for men, it created a lot of connection." - Rebecca
• "When we see men having it easy and we make ourselves into victims, it's tough to open our hearts and be vulnerable to get emotionally naked and connect with men." - Lisa
• "Once you get past all of the stories we tell and all of the mythology that surrounds this, men are truly fascinating creatures." - Lisa 

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