What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Zia discovering burlesque and being captivated by its freedom and openness

- Struggling with embracing sensuality, sexuality, and femininity

- Therapy, self-work, and self-love to deconstruct upbringing in a religion

- Her journey defining success based on personal truth and self-acceptance

- Societal expectations and the patriarchy's influence on women's self-worth

- Stripping industry stigma and mistreatment, advocating for better protection and acceptance

- Zia's admiration for strippers' sales skills and work ethic

- Prioritizing performance over seeking male attention

- Embracing and appreciating sensuality and beauty through burlesque

- The importance of self-love, sensuality, and personal exploration

Key quotes:

"In the process of pursuing what I love, it brings a satisfaction and joy of life that I never thought I could have." — Zia Sandía

“When you start learning how to trust yourself, you can take another person’s point of view and think about it, but not let it hurt you." — Zia Sandía

"It sounds like as a woman, it can be incredibly empowering to feel your beauty, your sensuality, instead of feeling that there's something wrong with it. That is an issue for women today…they find their power in their work and their corporate jobs and in all these other things, and they lose sight of who they are as women." — Lisa Shield

"To excite the audience, to pull out sensuality and lure them in on a mass scale was something that was such a challenge to me, like something I didn't ever think I could do." — Zia Sandía

"You have to find the sensuality and the beauty within yourself in order to invoke that to others." — Zia Sandía

"It would be nice if [sex work] were more accepted and if it were more protected... the women could be more protected." — Lisa Shield

'We are taught as women that we are a threat and we need to stay in line. And if we are going to be seen as worth it or worthy to a man, we better learn our place. And that teaches women that they need to offer something more than what they just are to be good enough.'" — Zia Sandía

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Exploring the idea that men enjoy the chase in relationships

- Examination of why nice men may not pursue women they perceive as difficult or complicated

- Addressing the misconception that men are mind-readers and the importance of clear communication

- Recognizing that men, like women, have different personalities and preferences

- Discussion of a woman's miscommunication with a man and his slower approach

- Acknowledging that some men may be introverted or uncertain about signals

- Recognizing the cryptic and tentative signals often sent by women

- Highlighting the need for effective communication and understanding between men and women

- Critique of the concept of men chasing women and its promotion of game playing and manipulation

- Cautionary note about men using deceptive tactics and the need for personal reflection

- Importance of taking responsibility for one's actions in attracting and understanding men

- Emphasis on the gradual development of relationships and the importance of authenticity

Key quotes:

"One reason why this whole idea that men should chase women is wrong is because just the very sound of it promotes game playing. The idea that a man should chase a woman can encourage manipulative behavior like playing hard to get." — Lisa Shield

"Great guys who are building fabulous careers and have money want women who are easy to get along with, women who are transparent, women who are upfront, who know how to talk to a man." — Lisa Shield 

"And all of our clients who have found the Guardians of Their Souls will say, ‘This is not the kind of guy I thought I would be with. It started off very slow and it just kept progressing and getting better and better and better as we got to know each other.’" — Lisa Shield

"You may think you're being very clear about how you feel, you may think you're being obvious. But some women, most women, can be extremely cryptic in the way that they send signals to men." — Lisa Shield

"The idea that men like to chase women sets up a cat and mouse game, and that is not a good basis for the beginning of a relationship or a good way to gain male attention and interest." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Fear of vulnerability and its impact on connection

- The need to let your guard down and show your true self to attract emotionally available partners

- Unrealistic expectations in searching for a partner

- The tendency to look for stereotypes rather than real, authentic individuals

- The drawbacks of finding a partner who fits stereotypes and lacks authenticity

- The glorification of busyness and its impact on making time for a relationship

- Overanalyzing and creating unnecessary problems

- Magnifying small issues and creating unnecessary hurdles in the relationship

- Avoiding conflict and the consequences

- The fear of conflict and the reluctance to address important questions or conversations

- The impact of suppressing feelings and avoiding crucial discussions on building closeness

Key quotes:

"A lot of women aren’t looking for a real man. They’re looking for a stereotype or an archetype that doesn't really exist." — Lisa Shield 

"Being busy is not necessarily a good thing. If your calendar is so packed that you don't have time for a relationship, then you're not going to be able to make room for a man in your life." — Lisa Shield 

"I see this so often with our clients. We literally beg them to have conversations with the men that they're seeing she they can get clear on where the relationship is going.  Unfortunately, because the guy is continuing to make dates with them, they wind up going along with the guys and wasting precious time because they don't want to rock the boat." — Lisa Shield 

"Playfulness is a form of vulnerability. To be playful, you cannot be self-conscious and second-guessing yourself. You need to be in the moment and at ease." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- About Aaron’s areas of expertise, including divorce, custody, child support, and pre- and postnuptial agreements

- The importance of setting clear financial terms during engagement reduces marital issues

- Fairer prenups lead to happier marriages

- Discussing what couples want to achieve with the agreement instead of using the term "prenup"

- Addressing the negative connotations and stereotypes associated with prenuptial agreements

- Meeting legal requirements such as signing the prenup at least a week ahead and having an opportunity to meet with an attorney

- Using prenuptial agreements to achieve transparency in relationships

-- Negative consequences of financial surprises during a relationship, such as hidden debt

- Regular meetings to discuss finances, similar to shareholders' meetings

- Communal assets and their potential complications in divorce, such as owning a house or making mortgage payments before marriage

- The potential loss of pre-marital assets in divorce settlements

- The benefits of having joint and separate accounts or an allowance system

- The tendency for people to be more comfortable being physically naked than financially open

- Lack of transparency in finances negatively affecting other areas of a relationship

- Being open about finances showing vulnerability and strengthening the overall relationship

- Not all family law attorneys are knowledgeable about prenuptial or postnuptial agreements

- The trade-offs involved in prenuptial agreements and the importance of making an intentional choice

Key quotes:

"My wife and I have regular checkpoints, whether it's annually or quarterly or even monthly, for us to sit down and talk about the finances." — Aaron Thomas

"A couple can be married for 10, 15, 20 years, and then a divorce happens and all of a sudden the wife is like, ‘What do you mean he wants half of the house that I paid for for 20 years? What do you mean he wants half of my retirement when he sat on the couch when I was out there busting my rear end to earn this money?’ She didn’t realize that when she got married, the default rule is that everything the couple earned over the course of the marriage is considered marital property." — Aaron Thomas

"Setting clear financial terms during engagement reduces marital issues, and fair prenups lead to happier marriages." — Lisa Shield

"Without a prenup, a lot of people lose what they built up even before the marriage." — Aaron Thomas

"Most couples find it best to have, like I said, three buckets, a joint bucket and then two separate buckets so you still have autonomy over the money in your separate funds." — Aaron Thomas

"It's one of the biggest issues about relationships in general…people fall in love and they're under the illusion that whatever they're feeling in the initial stages is going to go on for the rest of the relationship." — Lisa Shield

"People today...have an easier time getting physically naked than they do getting fiscally naked." — Aaron Thomas

"What you are saying is that having a prenup isn’t just about preparing for what will happen in the case of a divorce. When you write a prenup, you're also looking at how you're going to handle your finances throughout the marriage. That's a very important distinction that you're making there." — Lisa Shield

"And I would actually say that one of the sexiest things my husband ever did was on our fifth date, he sat down and he literally said, these are my finances. He told me. And for me, I felt so taken care of because he was being completely transparent.  It spoke volumes about who he is, who he would be as a partner, and what our future would look like together. A lot of couples are afraid to talk about those things, but for me, it was sexy." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Fears of engulfment and abandonment

- Concerns about compromising and sacrificing in a relationship

- Influences from personal preferences, societal pressure, and family/friends' expectations

- Exploring men's fears in relationships

- Women's desire for traditional dynamics despite independence

- Importance of being whole and complete before entering a relationship

- Avoiding agendas and milestones in relationships

- Potential mismatches and challenges in relationships

- Fully committing to a soulful relationship

- Honoring and seeing the goodness in each other

- Supporting each other's soul's journey

Key quotes:

• "To be in a Guardian of Your Soul relationship, you can't have an agenda…You have to be whole and complete in yourself so you can drop your agenda." — Lisa Shield
• "Some women really find themselves quickly at the finish line, and they're waiting for their partner to catch up." — Benjamin Shield
• "I think that one of a man's fears is that [by] getting into a relationship, a committed relationship, like engagement, marriage, his life is going to be smaller." — Benjamin Shield
• "I don't think two people should get married unless they're fully committed to what we call a Guardian of Your Soul relationship, where both people so honor each other and see the goodness.'" — Benjamin Shield
• "If you want to find the Guardian of Your Soul, they are out there." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• The concept of being "insulated" from one's body and its impact on connecting with others
• Embracing the senses and the enjoyment of being alive
• The importance of being present in one's senses
• Femininity and the power of sensual expression
• The importance of women exploring the world with all five senses
• Finding a partner who lives life fully in their senses
• Daily routine involving touch and physical contact
• A client story highlighting non-sexual emotional intimacy
• Women embracing their bodies and finding their natural frequency
• Creating memorable dates through connection and playfulness
• The concept of bell jarring and its impact on memory
• Challenging societal pressures on women's physical appearance, & what truly attracts a good partner
• Sensuality and connection as core elements of romance

Key quotes:

• "A sensual woman experiences the world with her senses, but she also has a certain confidence of being who she is. She is in her natural frequency and not trying to be someone else." — Benjamin Shield
• "We see how our clients come alive, and it's the grace, it's their inner beauty that emerges as they become more sensual, more comfortable in their bodies." — Lisa Shield
• "When a woman is in her senses and she's savoring her food, she's enjoying the sense of nature or the food she’s eating... It both mesmerizes and magnetizes a man, because women offer something that men don't have." — Benjamin Shield
• “True love is absolute emotional nakedness. It’s not hiding anything from each other or feeling that there's anything to hide. That's just so beautiful. I don't know how many people actually get to this level of emotional nakedness. I think it's what everybody wants. But you have to first find the right partner to do this with." — Lisa Shield
• “There's a difference between deep sensuality and overt sexuality. They’re very different. When a woman is in her sensuality, a man sees her as being whole and complete." — Benjamin Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk"

- Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner

- Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions

- Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings

- Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection

- Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on

- Recognizing signs of a potential mismatch in commitment levels

- Importance of addressing concerns and desires to avoid future hurt and disappointment

- Men also need space for personal growth and processing, similar to women

- Seriousness for men may involve consistency and integrating each other into daily routines, not necessarily long-term plans

- Differences in views on moving in together

- Importance of open communication and taking time to be sure before making such big decisions

- Highlighting the need for communication and understanding differing perspectives in a relationship

Key quotes:

• "When most women tell a man they want to ‘take it slowly,’ they are saying they want to build a strong emotional foundation before having sex. They want deep meaningful conversations and to build the emotional intimacy first. For men, taking it slowly often means NOT having intimate talks that go too deep." – Lisa Shield
• “When a woman hears the phrase 'I need some space,' it can trigger catastrophic thinking and tap into her insecurities, causing her to question the stability of the relationship. On the other hand, for some men, being in a serious relationship may simply mean integrating each other into their daily routines and getting to know each other better, without necessarily signaling long-term plans or commitments." — Lisa Shield
• “It is good to have a conversation to clarify what you mean by certain phrases. You can say, ‘Hey, ________, I know that we said we're in a committed relationship, and I also know that being in a committed relationship, that word can have different meanings for different people. I would love to hear what it means for you.’” — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Dr. Fan's background, experiences, and achievements in the field of plastic surgery.

- Factors to consider when deciding to undergo a procedure, such as personal concerns and desires

- The importance of safety and understanding potential risks associated with surgery, especially for older individuals

- Recovery process and common side effects of procedures

- The significance of realistic expectations and maturity when considering cosmetic surgery, especially for young individuals

- The importance of discussing motivations with parents and potentially seeking psychological evaluation

- Encouragement for individuals to wait until they are older and more confident before making decisions about procedures

- The limits and effectiveness of non-surgical treatments like Botox and fillers

- The belief in the importance of inner beauty and improving overall well-being in addition to outer appearance

- Lisa’s work on helping women find love and partnership and the transformative effects on their appearance through the Finding the Guardian of Your Soul program

Key quotes:

• "And I encourage people to wait until they're old enough, mature enough, to really know, to have their own identity, to know what's important to themselves, so that when they're making any choices, it is from a place of empowerment, a place of certainty, a place of confidence, a place of making a long term decision." — Dr. Larry Fan
• "Even in an era where we are so modernized and women have so many opportunities, the emphasis on looks is awful for so many of us." — Lisa Shield
• "What I tell people is, number one, if you have a problem that you're not happy with and it bothers you enough to be willing to get help, that's probably an appropriate time to get help, provided you understand, okay, what does the help involve and what kind of results can be expected?" — Dr. Larry Fan
• The best results are cases where people clearly look much, much better, but they also look very natural and very appealing, where there isn't any obvious sign it doesn't look like they've had surgery. That's the highest level of surgery when people look better, but it's actually undetectable." — Dr. Larry Fan
• "And I call my course my work the world's Cheapest facelift because these women start blossoming and coming back to life and this dark cloud of being single and feeling stigmatized and finally finding their power with men. And they literally look ten to 15 years younger at the end of twelve weeks." — Lisa Shield
• "I think there's a very big opportunity to not just improve our outer appearance, what I call our outer beauty, but also to improve our inner beauty." — Dr. Larry Fan

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- The symbiotic relationship between masculinity and femininity, and how they bring out the best in each other

- The misconception that simply dressing up and waiting for the "right guy" is enough to feel feminine

- Learning how to make a man's world bigger by supporting his dreams and aspirations

- The tendency to build walls and become less open with age and negative experiences

- The shifting of focus from masculine or feminine behavior to attractive behavior

- The dangers of relying on seducers and players to bring out femininity

- The need for self-reflection and understanding one's role in attracting certain types of individuals

- The importance of both partners doing their part in maintaining a healthy relationship

Key quotes:

• "Because I had these thick walls up and I was so afraid of being vulnerable and feminine I never could find a man who treated me the way I wanted to be treated. Most men didn't feel like there was an opportunity for them to do that with me." — Lisa Shield
• "One way of making a man's world bigger is listening to, asking about, and supporting his dreams." — Lisa Shield
• "If you want to have a healthy relationship and you want to have a really beautiful, masculine, feminine dynamic, then it starts with learning about masculinity. Not just learning how you can become more feminine, but learning what draws out a man's masculine side. So you need to do your part just as much as he needs to do his part." — Lisa Shield
• "And it's not just about sitting and waiting for a man to bring your femininity out, but it's also about you knowing how to draw out his masculinity. And as you do that, your femininity will start to emerge in the process." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- The use of AI in online dating and its impact on profile verification and safety measures

- The need for background checks and spotting inconsistencies in online profiles

- The excitement and fear surrounding the use of AI in dating

- Difficulty in distinguishing between AI-generated and human-created content

- The prevalence and dangers of scammers using AI to create fake profiles

- Possibility of AI relationship coaching and virtual chat rooms for communication

- Concerns about deep fakes and the difficulty in verifying authenticity in online interactions

- Recommendations for prioritizing in-person meetings and avoiding long-distance relationships

Key quotes:

• "There is, on one hand, all the wonderful things that AI is going to do, and then on the other hand, there is a tremendous amount of fear around who's going to be using the AI and will it bring the end of mankind.'" — Lisa Shield
• “You can have your own AI-powered chat bot filter out unsuitable matches and communicate on your behalf. It's like having a personal assistant for your love life!" — Lisa Shield
• “AI-powered applications could offer personalized coaching relationships...there's no reason in the world you shouldn't have dating coaches that are AI powered.” — Lisa Shield
• "If you really want to verify and authenticate if somebody is real, one step in that process is to get off the platform and get on to Zoom or do it on FaceTime on your phone... Scammers can now do what are called deep fakes where they can take a few seconds of you talking and then replicate your voice from it." — Lisa Shield
• "Do a background check on anybody and everybody you're dating. Look for inconsistencies. If the profile is too perfect, something could be wrong." — Lisa Shield

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