What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Both men and women struggle to understand each other in the dating world, but integrating knowledge about male-female differences can hep you bring more compassion to your dates and make deeper emotional connections.
• Double Standards in breakups, appearance, and expectations regarding who pays for what. 
• Understanding why men are the way they are can be a game changer.
• The different reactions to setting boundaries. What can empower women can often come across as controlling for men.
• Men often feel confused and tentative now about making the first move.  
• The double standards that both Lisa and Rebecca have seen in their professional and personal experiences. 
• A listener question: is sharing the same interests in your relationship essential?
• The book Why Men Are The Way They Are was a game changer for Lisa. 

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Quotes: 

• "I think it becomes a beautiful dance when you're able to start meeting each other in the places and showing interest about who that person genuinely is." - Rebecca
• "It's hard for both sexes. It's really tough for both men and women to understand one another.n We all feel misunderstood by the opposite sex." - Lisa 
• "(The course) changed the way I showed up on dates. It also really was a place where I was able to soften. And in that softening, and really being open to understanding what it was like for men, it created a lot of connection." - Rebecca
• "When we see men having it easy and we make ourselves into victims, it's tough to open our hearts and be vulnerable to get emotionally naked and connect with men." - Lisa
• "Once you get past all of the stories we tell and all of the mythology that surrounds this, men are truly fascinating creatures." - Lisa 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

•  At 63, Meranda reminds us that age should never hinder a rewarding relationship.
• If a busy woman like Meranda can attend the discovery call on her birthday. You can find time too! 
• Meranda's advice for making the most significant investment in yourself and finally committing yourself without wavering back and forth. 
• What changed in dating once she began to work with Lisa? 
• How Meranda met her current partner, Eric, and the natural progression of them dating exclusively and now cohabitating. 
• Meranda took things slow and didn't rush with Eric, making their connection more natural. 
• Eric is a patient and steadfast man, as evidenced by his caring for and supporting her when she recently dealt with a severe illness. 
• Meranda's advice for women pushing off their love life. 
• The staggering statistics of loneliness and isolation. 
• Why should someone invest money just for dating? 

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Quotes: 

•  "I like to take chances. I'm a businesswoman. You gotta take the risk." - Meranda
• "If things don't go well, you have to stir the wave and keep it moving." - Meranda 
• "I know my mistakes, and I know what to give." - Meranda
• "It's never too old to start a relationship, as long as it's a rewarding relationship." - Meranda 
• "There's a lot of benefit to it, and my money is well spent." - Meranda 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What are the two main reasons that we tend to self-sabotage?
• Rejection is sometimes painful and scary, so how do we move forward and put ourselves out there?
• What about if you're scared to get what you want and that you'll mess it up? 
• What to do if the men you desire aren't attracted back to you, and that is a consistent pattern.  
• The importance of who you surround yourself with and not partaking in validating the nightmare dating stories out there. 
• Would you be ready for the man of your dreams? 
• There are quality men out there, and quality women attract quality men. 
• The mistakes women tend to make on dating apps and when setting up their profiles.
• The Final Five qualities that are important are different for every woman. What's right for you is not necessarily important to someone else.  

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Quotes: 

• "At the very core of the very essence of why we are afraid, it's like we are grabbing for love, and we're reaching for it with one hand and pushing it away with another." - Lisa
• "Surround yourself with people who are successful, supportive, optimistic, positive and will encourage you instead of discouraging you in this part of your life." - Lisa 
• "It's hard sometimes to be sitting face to face with a man that you think, wow, you know, this is a really great guy, this is the kind of guy I think I'm looking for, and to have that person turn around, and not feel that you're a match." - Lisa 
• "We're angry because men aren't doing these things for us, but we're not creating that space for them to do it." - Lisa 
• "You have to start to see those patterns, and then it is up to you to consciously break them and make new choices." - Lisa 
• "We fail many times before we succeed at something we're trying to learn or something new that we are learning. So it's essential not to beat yourself up, but to ask yourself how you can do it differently." - Lisa

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Avoid a checklist-like approach when observing a man's emotional availability. 
• Consider these questions as a loose guideline, rather than a mission to interview or interrogate the man. 
• Men sometimes need a little longer to think and process, so allow time for reflection when asking deeper questions.
• You can also tell by the quality of the answer if he's processing or deflecting. 
• When you share something vulnerable on your end, does he show empathy, and is he listening, or does he seem to brush off your emotions? 
• Consider using "think" instead of "feel" when discussing emotions with men.
• Inquire what he learned from past relationships, but respect if he doesn't want to go into full detail.  
• Shared core values and principles are important for a successful relationship. 
• If money wasn't a factor, what would be his dream job? Explore what he says; it can tell a lot about his values, goals, and dreams. 
• Benjamin shares why a guy would most likely love to be asked about a film that deeply affected him. 

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Quotes: 

•  "It's better to ask a man what he thinks about something rather than how he feels about it." - Lisa
• "Especially when you're asking a man deeper questions, you have to pause and give a man an opportunity to think." - Lisa  
• "We wouldn't have had the marriage we have had for these 20+ years if we hadn't had these difficult relationships. We learned from them, and we grew from them." - Benjamin 
• "For two people to have a successful relationship, they need to share their core values and core principles." - Benjamin

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

•  Remember, there's no right or wrong. There's just what feels good to you. 
• One big issue for men is the value they place on their independence and freedom. If a woman pays for everything and brags about her big, rich life, he may think he will be living her life. 
• Setting a precedent early on that you are willing to pay for everything will set the tone for the relationship moving forward. 
• Women feel more aligned and comfortable in their own skin when they come from that more feminine part of themselves. 
• What about when a man offers to pay for everything for you? 
• Lisa shares some recent breakthroughs that her clients have had around dating men with different incomes. 
• Why tone is so important to a man, and how to improve yours so you communicate from a true place of connection and power. 

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Quotes: 

• "As women, we feel more aligned and comfortable in our skin when coming from that more feminine part of ourselves. It's just who we are." - 13:24 
• "These men are so hungry for feminine women, not takers. You don't need to pay for things. You need to be appreciative." - 16:06 
• "He doesn't need your money, and he doesn't need you to pay for things. He needs you to be a great playmate, fun, and up for adventure. And also, to be willing to sit on the sofa and do nothing if that's what he feels like doing." - 17:48 
• "At the deepest level, my tone of voice shifted because I made this deep internal shift to being kinder and more compassionate and not needing to be right with men. I didn't have to be defensive, make a point, or talk down to men." - 28:05  

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Nice guys are the opposite of love bombers, but they still may not be great - why is that? 
• Why are nice guys constantly walking on eggshells? 
• How nice guys are different from other guys. 
• The ways nice guys can be calculating and manipulative. 
• How do you know if a man is truly compassionate and kind, or if it's an act? 
• Spending time with secure and grounded men can often feel boring because there isn't that surge of hormones that you feel with love bombers and men who play games. 
• Benjamin talks about his experience as a recovering nice guy. 
• Underneath the nice guy syndrome, there can be a lot of victimization and manipulation. 

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Quotes: 

• "It's good to give nicer men a chance, but not every nice man is a good potential candidate for a relationship." - Lisa 2:52 
• "Either just because he's nice, doesn't mean that he's a great guy, or that he's a good fit." - Lisa 3:01 
• "Very often, nice guys turn out to be anything but nice. They can swing back and forth from being giving to being angry an resentful, like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde." - Benjamin 4:26 
• "The hallmark of these nice guys is that they're giving to get. And when they don't get what they want, they're a completely different person underneath. - Lisa 11:14 
• "A healthy woman wants a real man who can kindly ask for what he wants, and he needs to communicate that in a way that is loving and clear, and in the present time." - Benjamin 26:55 
• Nurturing is healthy, but caretaking in the relationship becomes unequal." - Benjamin 32:13 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What motivates people to stay in relationships? One thing is that the fear of being alone can cause some people to remain in a relationship, even if it's not fulfilling.
• Others may not realize their negative or critical behavior hurts the relationship and may think they're offering constructive criticism.
• Discover how to communicate with men in a way that promotes a safe and open dialogue.
• Lisa and Benjamin model positive feedback in their own communication with one another.
• Learning to give positive feedback is crucial for any healthy relationship.
• It's essential to seek a partner who values kindness, thoughtfulness, and positivity.
• Remember to set boundaries and don't tolerate disrespectful behavior from men.

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Quotes: 

• "Convenience is a big reason why people stay in relationships." - Lisa
• "There's a loving, kind, and considerate way to give someone feedback, and there is a very destructive, mean, and cutting way of giving feedback." - Lisa
• "Do not let people abuse you, even if what they are saying is true." - Lisa 
• "In the same way that you clean up your house, we keep our relationship clean." - Lisa

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Lisa used the one phrase that caught Patricia's attention like nothing else. 
• Patricia had done a ton of inner work, but she was feeling frustrated that despite how hard she worked on herself, none of that "work" translated to luck in dating, a familiar feeling for many successful and intelligent women Lisa coaches. 
• Patricia gives insight into the significant breakthrough she had where she fully understood that she could get exactly what her heart desired. 
• What made Patricia fall in love with Lindon, and did it matter that he was 10 years younger and had different cultural backgrounds? 
• What is newlywed life like for Patricia and Lindon? 
• Lindon first felt Patricia was out of his league but was willing to constantly elevate himself and put in the work.

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Quotes: 

• "When I watch our clients fall in love, they actually look younger and happier. It's a remarkable thing to witness." - Lisa
• "The course allowed me to be bold and brave and to open up my heart and not judge." - Patricia 
• "Meeting Patricia brought about a transformation in my life. I must say thanks to you and her for shaping my inner world." - Lindon 
• "The course helped me to see that you might not have everything you want right now, but be willing to invest. Be willing to investigate and be willing to say, let me give this a chance." - Patricia 
• "I don't think we have enough time for me to share all the breakthroughs I received in the course." - Patricia
• "Love to me doesn't mean age. It's just a number. Right? Love is from the inside really radiating on the outside." - Lindon

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• There's a reason why the men consistently that you're into aren't interested in pursuing something with you. 
• Many of the successful women Lisa coaches are incredibly confident and should be. They sometimes need to be more intelligent about men. 
• We need to be able to attract the men we want to attract, engage those men, and have the skills to engage those men so that we can have fun and get up close and personal. 
• Lisa shares a story of a woman where it wasn't the dating sites that were off, but she realized she was the common denominator. 
• Through working with Lisa and Benjamin, they give you a script you can use to ask these great men for feedback. Lisa talks about the feedback she got from a man who told her that he could tell she wasn't really ready and how that led her to end up meeting Benjamin, the true Guardian of Her Soul. 
• How to show a great man that you have space and time for him, even if you have a successful and busy life. 

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Quotes: 

•  "It was really a bitter pill to swallow to look at the men I was attracting and realize those weren't the guys I wanted." -Lisa
• "Learn to use the dating journey as a path to enlightenment." - Lisa 
• "Many of the successful women I coach are extremely confident and should be. They just aren't always smart about men." - Lisa 
• "We need to be able to attract the men that we want to attract, be able to engage those men, and have the skills to engage those men so that we can have fun and get up close and personal." - Lisa

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• The world of difference between how Stella felt before joining Lisa’s coaching program vs. how she is now. 
• Ways Stella is becoming more curious in her dating life, and how that helps her connect with men on an even deeper level. 
• For many of Lisa’s clients, who they end up with is even better than they could have imagined. 
• How the Final Five exercise affected Stella on a profound level. 
• Stella talks about letting go of desperate and anxious energy and letting things go that aren’t right for her. 
• Stella is no longer “bending the universe’s hand,” but surrendering and focusing on her personal growth. 

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Quotes: 

• “It’s about emotional growth and emotional development for me, and for a lot of the women I’ve seen.” - Stella
• “Throughout this process, you discover more of who you are, and what's aligned with you and what isn't.” - Stella 
• “There’s no desperation at this point. There’s no specific timeline. There is a lot more curiosity and just a willingness to meet people.” - Stella 
• “Now, if something doesn't work out, I just let it go, knowing there's something better waiting for me on the other side.” - Stella 
• “We don’t really know what we need, so we make up ideas about what we think will be good for us.” - Stella 

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