Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff | Christian Women, Boundaries, Self-Sabotage, Red Flags, People Pleasing

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Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff | Christian Women, Boundaries, Self-Sabotage, Red Flags, People Pleasing episodes

April 08083 | You Are The ONE: A Reminder Every Christian Woman Needs To Hear (& Share)
If your heart has ever whispered:
“Maybe I’m just hard to love,”
“I’m always the problem,”
“I must be the common denominator…”
today's episode was recorded with you in mind.
In You Are The ONE: A Reminder Every Christian Woman Needs to Hear (& Share), Dr.Tiff shifts the focus away from “finding the one” and back to becoming The ONE—the woman God created you to be, before heartbreak, rejection, and poor choices ruled convinced you that you were incapable of having the love you deserve. This episode is your reminder: you are not broken, you are The ONE.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
24 min
April 01 082 | From Paragraph To Period: How To Say 'NO' Without The Guilt
Girl, you know you don't want to do it. You know you don't have the energy. But instead of saying no, you write a seven-sentence apology with three explanations attached. In this episode, Dr. Tiff unpacks why so many of us over-explain our "no" — and walks you through how you can go from a whole dissertation to one clean sentence with a period on the end.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
21 min
March 25081 | Be Still & Mind Your Business: How Being 'The Fixer' Is Keeping Your Stuck
You're overwhelmed, overworked, and if we're really being honest — maybe a little resentful. But you're also the first to raise your hand when something needs to be fixed. This week's episode is for my fixers. My over-functioners. The ones who see a problem and their spirit says "I got it" before anyone even asks.
I want you to know that I see you, babes. You've become the event planner, the therapist, the Uber driver, the financier — the one everybody depends on because they know you'll handle it. But I also see you complaining about being overwhelmed. But when a gap appears? I also see you running to the front of the first to fill it.
In this episode, Dr. Tiff gets honest about something we don't talk about enough: Some of your overwhelm is not just what's being put on you. Some of it is what you volunteer for.
We dig into:
The difference between support ("I'm here with you") and the take-over spirit ("Step aside, let me handle it")
How your constant fixing is training people not to grow — and why that's not love, it's a pattern
The ways you're co-authoring the exhaustion you keep complaining about
Why Psalm 46:10 is God's gentle reminder that you are not Him — and you can sit down
As only Dr. Tiff can, she lovingly calls out that take-over spirit, and shows you why minding your business might be the most loving thing you can do in this season of your life.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
19 min
March 18 080 | Is Self-Sabotage Ruining Your Relationship? How To Know If You're Pushing Them Away
You don’t want to sabotage your relationships… but some of your habits are doing it for you. Do you start arguments from nowhere, pull back to see if they’ll chase you, or make people “prove” they won’t leave—then feel rejected when they get tired?
In this eye-opening episode of Fix Your Relationships, we'll explore a sneaky form of self-sabotage: Testing people to prove they’ll leave. Join me in calling out the subtle tests we run in relationships to protect ourselves from pain, and how those tests quietly sabotage the very love we’re praying for.
If you're truly ready to stop running people through emotional obstacle courses and start building real, secure connection, this episode is your mirror.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view upcoming dates, tap here, or visit https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/morelovelesshustle
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
24 min
March 11079 | "I'm Done!": 4 Signs It's Time To Move On
So many women stay in relationships, friendships, family roles, even church situations long after their gut has told them 'its time to move on'—simply because they’re terrified of being labeled:
“The quitter”
“The one who broke the family”
“A bad Christian”
If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship way past its expiration date because you were scared of being “the one who left,” this episode is for you. In today's conversation, I'll explain why saying “I’m done” doesn’t make you a failure—and how to know when it’s time to leave without feeling guilty.
If you’ve wanted to say “I’m done” but you’ve been scared that would make you a quitter, this episode will be your lifeline.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
Ep68 | Working Overtime In Your Relationships? 8 Signs You're Outsourcing Love To Performance
Ep77 | Loving Them Without Losing You: Setting Boundaries For Christian Women
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
25 min
March 04078 | Soft Heart, Strong Backbone: What Being A Good Steward Of Your Heart Actually Looks Like
A lot of us feel like we only have two options in love:
Be soft, loving, and walked all over,
OR
Be strong, guarded, and low-key shut down.
But what if God is actually inviting you into something else: A soft heart and a strong backbone.
If you’re tired of being either “too soft” or “too hard,” then this episode is sure to hit home. I'll share with you what it truly means to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2) and to “guard your heart” (Proverbs 4:23) without becoming cold or bitter. You'll learn how to keep a soft, loving heart while building a strong backbone that protects your peace and heart, without compromise.
If you’ve been asking, “How do I love deeply and protect myself?”—this episode will feel like oxygen.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
Ep77 | Loving Them Without Losing You: Setting Boundaries For Christian Women
Ep58 | The Ultimate Relationship Hack: Minding Your Business
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
17 min
February 25 077 | Loving Them Without Losing You: Setting Boundaries For Christian Women
Setting boundaries can be difficult. Especially if you tend to love extra-hard. Compound that with all you've learned about love as a 'Christian woman' and it may feel like you've gotten conflicting messages about love and relationships for your entire adult life. If you’ve ever thought, “If I really loved them, I’d stay no matter what,” while also thinking, "I can't keep doing this," this episode is for you.
This week, I'm breaking down the difference between unconditional love and unconditional access, and helping you learn how to be patient & kind (like 1 Corinthians 13 says) while not abandoning yourself or your boundaries in the process.
This is a must-listen if you’ve been loving hard, over-giving, and feeling guilty any time you even think about saying no.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view upcoming dates, tap here, or visit https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/morelovelesshustle
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
19 min
February 18 076 | Beyond The Five: Is Emotional Safety The Missing Love Language?
We’ve all heard about the Five Love Languages—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. But what if there’s a missing piece that your heart has been begging for?
In this episode, Dr. Tiff explores the idea of adding a sixth love language — Emotional Safety — arguing that true love requires a sense of calm, trust, and the freedom to be vulnerable. Using vivid metaphors and personal stories, she explains how Emotional Safety helps soothe the nervous system and why it’s essential for healthy relationships. If you’ve ever had great “chemistry” but constant anxiety, this one’s for you.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
New York Times Article: The Five Unofficial Love Languages
Ep75 | Chemistry or Chaos: 3 Simple Questions To Know For Sure
MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view upcoming dates, tap here, or visit https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/morelovelesshustle
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
30 min
February 11 075 | Chemistry or Chaos: 3 Simple Questions To Know For Sure
Does your “chemistry” usually come with anxiety, overthinking, and emotional whiplash? This week, Dr.Tiff breaks down the difference between real chemistry and chaotic familiarity—and why highly driven women are sometimes drawn to what hurts. Turn the volume up and learn the 3 simple questions to ask yourself in order to know for certain.
RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view upcoming dates, tap here, or visit https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/morelovelesshustle
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist
18 min
February 10 074 | The Messier The Better? A Conversation with "Unexpected Company" Creator, Tiffany Yvonne Cox
Ever wonder how smart, ambitious women end up in some of the messiest relationships? In this fun, light, and a little-bit-messy episode, Dr. Tiff chats with actress/writer/director Tiffany Yvonne Cox about her new vertical series “Unexpected Company”—and the very real patterns it reflects in our love lives. Listen via podcast of WATCH the full episode on YouTube.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
UNEXPECTED COMPANY - A brand new vertical series written, directed by, and starring Tiffany Yvonne Cox can be seen on Instagram, Youtube & TikTok.
MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view upcoming dates, tap here, or visit https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/morelovelesshustle
The ONE Within 30-Day Reset is a one-of-a-kind journaling experience designed to improve your most intimate connections by focusing on YOU. In just 5-10 minutes per day, I’ll help you confront your unique relationship challenges and begin to make the necessary changes to start attracting the love you deserve. To learn more, go to DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin
THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS FOR US TO CONNECT
Follow on Instagram: @DrTiffanieTV
Visit The Website: www.DrTiffanieHenry.com
Join Me On Facebook: https://FYRCommunity.com
Subscribe To Our Email List: https://becometheone.myflodesk.com/jointhelist

40 min

About Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff | Christian Women, Boundaries, Self-Sabotage, Red Flags, People Pleasing

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TOP 10% GLOBALLY RANKED PODCAST

You are brilliant at your career, devoted in your faith, and deeply intentional about your life.

So why does your love life keep falling short?

Hey babes. I'm Dr. Tiff — licensed psychotherapist, relationship transformation coach, wife, momma, and lover of God, wine, and minding my business. I have spent the past 20+ years helping highly driven women find the love and the life they desire and deserve.

Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff is where faith meets work — and real transformation begins. Each week, I help you identify the patterns keeping you stuck in the same cycles — the people-pleasing, the over-functioning, the red flags you explain away, the self-sabotage you can't seem to shake — and give you the tools to actually break them.

After 20+ years of working with highly driven women, the same truth keeps showing up: the woman who is crushing it everywhere else in her life is often the same woman who is hustling the hardest for the bare minimum in love. And no amount of strategy, effort, or over-giving is going to fix that.

The fix starts from the inside. And it starts with you becoming the woman who no longer settles — not because you lowered your standards, but because you finally understood that God designed you for more.

Rooted in the truth of Psalm 139:14 — that you are fearfully and wonderfully made — this podcast will walk you through the self-work you've been putting off so you can call in the love you actually deserve.

Each week we cover: Relationship patterns · Emotional boundaries · Healing from toxic relationships · Self-worth and identity · Over-functioning and people-pleasing · Faith and relationships · Breaking generational cycles · Attachment styles · Becoming emotionally available

This podcast is for you if you are: ✦ A highly driven, faith-grounded woman who keeps attracting emotionally unavailable partners ✦ Tired of over-giving and getting the bare minimum in return ✦ Ready to stop ignoring red flags and start requiring more ✦ Done with people-pleasing and finally ready to put yourself first ✦ A woman who wants love — real love — and is willing to do the inner work to get there

It's time to stop looking for the one — and Become The ONE that everyone is looking for. Because, everything changes, when you do.

Questions? Collaboration inquiries? Email [email protected] or visit DrTiffanieHenry.com.

Ready to do the deep work? Join The ONE Within 30-Day Reset at DrTiffanieHenry.com/theonewithin.

Ready to connect with a community of like-minded women? Join us at becometheone.myflodesk.com/email.

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