Flourish-Meant: You Were Meant to Live Abundantly

Have you wondered if your great product, skill, or service is enough?

Today's guest is Jacqui Wilson, a ministerial entrepreneur who is passionate about utilizing her God-given gifts to empower others to fulfill their purpose.

She shares why a great product, service, or skill isn't enough. Jacqui encourages listeners to understand that everyone has something valuable to offer, but the reason behind what we do matters more than the product or service.

Wilson states that people need to hear our motivations and connect with why we're doing our work. Someone out there will resonate with your story and think, "That sounds just like me."

Jacqui shares her story of transitioning from law to children's ministry. We discuss how to discover the purpose God planned for our lives. Wilson emphasized the need to focus on positives and discern a pure-hearted mission centered on meeting the needs of others.

Jacqui states that everyone has a skill. List your talents and positive traits. When you use your skills to serve God's purpose, he will expand your abilities. The Lord will show you how to develop and strengthen as we seek him and depend upon him to guide us.

We discuss how to pivot or shift by praying for clarity and studying scripture. Jacqui shares her personal experience with taking steps from one career into a new life mission by following the guidance of the Holy Spirit. She encourages listeners to pay attention to the needs and circumstances pointing toward how to serve God and others.

Jacqui and I also talk about pitfalls and perseverance, noting how the Lord equips us to learn and grow through failures. She also emphasizes the importance of Christ-centered confidence. Failure can help us grow stronger. Keep your life-changing mission in mind.

We discuss how to discern your niche when you're passionate about a variety of things. Jacqui advises listeners to consider practical aspects along with narrowing the focus to remain within a single mission.

Sometimes we need to bring in support to help us do our work well. We can also use previous experiences to equip us for new areas of service. We discuss the examples of Moses and Joseph. Jacqui shares how practicing law taught her problem-solving skills that equipped her to better serve in children's ministry.

If we're willing to listen, the Lord guides us toward the purpose he planned for us. Jacqui emphasizes that you have a story and a purpose.

Connect with Jacqui at https://iamjacquiwilson.com/ or on social media under iamjacquiwilson.

What secrets to living your best could you learn from the deep south?

Today's guest, Jane Jenkins Herlong, is a Sirius XM Southern Humorist, international best-selling/award-winning author, professional singer, recording artist, and professional speaker. An inductee into the prestigious Speaker Hall of Fame, Jane is also the author of five books, including her latest offering "Sweet Tea Secrets From the Deep Fried South" (Tyndale House). A former Miss America contestant, Jane crisscrosses the country sharing her unique brand of sweet tea wisdom and Southern-fried humor.

Jane shares stories from her life as a true southerner which could bless listeners throughout the world.

We discuss humor as a medicinal blessing and the power of story to inspire our souls. Jane shares specific anecdotes demonstrating how our mindset can change the trajectory of our lives. She quotes Zig Ziglar's famous sentiment, "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right."

Our conversation highlights the balance of grace and strong character, much like the iconic southern staple of sweet tea. Jane shares a memory of her grandmother demonstrating a woman's perfect blend of strength and kindness.

We also emphasize how southern culture reflects the principles of setting healthy boundaries. Jane describes a precious family friend who taught her to protect her heart.

Herlong reflects upon the folks who blessed her life along with the prayers with which she covered her family home in Charleston. We discuss the importance of protecting our hearts, homes, and lives with prayer and discernment. Jane exhorts listeners to filter the content entering their minds.

She encourages us to spend time in scripture and listen for the Spirit's guidance. Allow the Lord to keep your feet on the path meant for you and away from the messes you could step into off of the path.

Jane reflects upon the priority of spending time with people. Relationships with dear ones serve as a library of priceless stories which might one day vanish if we don't access them while we can.

Understanding of our past, next-level thinking, and insights into God's Word serve as the key elements of Jane's messages. We discuss Biblical principles as foundational to living our best. Jane encourages listeners to spend time and energy on relationships and matters of eternal significance.

She emphasizes loving, embracing, and encouraging one another. We emphasize the southern values of blending people and flavors to bring out the richest blessings.

To connect with Jane, visit her website at janeherlong.com

Do your children see themselves as made in God's image?

If you or your kids have struggled with self-image, today's podcast addresses how to share positive, Christ-centered esteem.

Justin and Lindsay Holcomb share practical tips to help parents demonstrate positive and Biblically-founded self-image for their children. We discuss the prevalence of poor self-image and body-shaming among kids.

As authors of multiple books, the Holcombs offer tips to help parents navigate bullying and social pressures to adopt negative perspectives on eating and health.

For more tips on how to raise kids with Christ-centered self-image, check out the full episode.

Connect with Justin and Lindsey at https://justinholcomb.com/books/

How do you know if you or someone you care about suffers from abuse?

Today's guest, Michelle Donnelly, helps us determine how to identify abuse.

Michelle explains that marriage is designed to reflect God's relationship to his bride, the church. When marriage fails to represent the loving and nurturing character of the Lord's relationship to us, we must bring the discrepancies to light so we can correct the issues or offer rescue to victims. God hates abuse and does not condone it in marriage or any other relationship.

Abuse can impact workplaces, parent-child relationships, friendships, or other situations.

Victims can become deceived by abusers who pretend to repent or offer insincere apologies. The patterns of abuse repeat in a cycle. Donnelly cautions listeners to watch for manipulators who do not support their promises or words with matching, long-term patterns of behavior.

We discuss the nature of abuse as one person trying to assert power over another. Sometimes the domination is overt, but other times the subjugation comes through subtle and manipulative means. Perpetrators often shift all blame to their victims.

Michelle says, "An apology without changed behavior is manipulation."

We also clarify how God's design for relationships centers upon mutual edification, respect, and sacrifice for one another's well-being. Abusive relationships do not reflect mutuality; instead, the victim does all the sacrificing and the abuser takes all the edification.

Michelle and I highlight the importance of speaking up for those who remain trapped in abusive situations. Donnelly mentions the problem of spiritual abuse. She shares how the calm facade of a perpetrator will contrast with the way a victim might appear crazy due to the trauma they've experienced. Michelle explains that abuse victims suffer trauma comparable to the levels experienced by prisoners of war.

In Donnelly's book, Safe Haven, she delineates how to learn the signs of abuse and access important resources to help victims.

We also emphasize the need to pray for discernment so we can recognize abuse because manipulative, charming perpetrators cloak their crimes so effectively.

Michelle encourages listeners who might suffer abuse that God loves them so deeply. "The Lord has life in abundance beyond what you see right now. He is honored by seeking the truth."

We also stress the need to remain faithful in walking with one another despite the messiness of abuse recovery. Safety must be our top priority. But it's also important to understand the psychological and circumstantial strain which often causes victims to return to the abuser.

To listen to The Christian Single Mom's podcast or access Michelle's resources, visit her website at plusoneparents.org.

Feeling stuck in a pit? Drained? Oppressed?

Today's episode offers the keys to overcoming what holds you back so you can experience your optimal life!

Joy Schneider, spiritual warfare expert and author of 5 books, joins us to share how we can live in the peace and confidence already granted to us.

We discuss the power of our relationship with Christ, specifically the authority to declare freedom in his name. Joy explains how to identify spiritual oppression and use scripture to break out of its hold.

We also explore misconceptions and fears about spiritual warfare. Joy confirms the true benefits of protective spiritual practices as building confidence and experiencing optimal living.

Our conversation explains how to stand empowered with the truth so we no longer sit as vulnerable targets for evil.

Joy shares the loving message she heard from God to encourage you today.

To get Joy Schneider's new field manual or her other books, visit her website at https://www.wateroflifeunlimited.com/

Have you ever wondered about what it would be like to experience the culture of Christ here on earth? What if heaven's culture could be cultivated here?

On today's podcast episode, pastor and Real Live Talk podcast host Duke Lamastra addresses how the Kingdom of God intersects with human society and culture.

He explains how to develop a mindset aligned with the way God thinks so Jesus is at the center of every aspect of life.

We discuss how to walk out a life with Christ in our culture without straying into the toxic patterns of self-righteous disdain or allowing evil to influence our behavior.

Duke outlines three major components of developing a Kingdom culture:

1. Love - an intentional connection with God as the source of love and a way of viewing others through Jesus' eyes. We explore the concept of forgiveness and discuss the opposing force of fear.

2. Honor - determining how to choose an others-centered mindset and demonstrate compassion. We share how the life of Christ models mercy, grace, and uplifting others, including those who differ greatly from us. Duke defines the foundation of ministry as honoring the needs of others.

3. Serve - a central mission for Christ and his followers, putting the needs of others above personal preferences and comfort. In recognition of his identity and position, Jesus served others. As followers of Jesus, we honor Christ's nature as we serve others. We discuss how influence is all about the opportunity to serve.

We discuss how each and all of these components align with how we align with Christ's character and share his presence with those around us in our community.

Connect with Duke Lamastra on his website at simplepowermedia.com to get online courses, social media contact info, and videos.

Search for Real Live Talk wherever you listen to podcasts.

Seeking more fulfillment this new year?

ARE YOU FLOURISHING IN YOUR FAITH? THREE YEARS AGO YVETTE Walker WASN'T. She'd been walking around for years believing in God, but with a dead heart. After hearing God's calling, she started POSITIVELY JOY as a podcast and ministry about the struggle for everyone to walk in their joy. Her devotional, "Whispering in His Ear," focuses on the quest to talk to and listen to God's message every day.

If you feel empty or discontented, this week's podcast shares the solution for experiencing greater joy and fulfillment in your life.

We discuss the ways to grow closer to God and radiate peace and contentment despite how your emotions or circumstances might otherwise frame your life.

To connect with Yvette and get her free resource, How to Choose Joy, visit positivelyjoy.com. Join her Positively Joy community on Facebook.

Domestic abuse impacts almost half of American women yet remains one of the most misunderstood crises faced by our nation. People question the motives of victims who return to perpetrators. Many community members fail to recognize abuse without visible wounds. Worse yet, church members and leaders sometimes (whether intentionally or unwittingly) support the abuser or shame the victim for attempting to escape.

Charlene Quint, Christian attorney and advocate for victims and survivors of domestic abuse, shares her personal story of escape and triumph. She escaped from decades of suffering in an abusive marriage. After securing her freedom, she established a law practice that specializes in advocating for victims of domestic abuse.

Charlene defines the various forms of abuse, many of which are less recognized than physical violence. We discuss the profound wounds inflicted by verbal and emotional abuse. Quint addresses the prevalence of financial abuse and the ways this serves the perpetrator's scheme to imprison his victim. Financial oppression also gives the abuser an upper hand in court. Perpetrators also threaten vulnerable family members, especially children. We explore these and other reasons why women often return to the abuser.

Charlene explains forms of abuse the perpetrator can easily keep hidden or deny, including sexual abuse and restricting access to medical treatment. She reveals abandonment in remote or dangerous areas as a common form of physical abuse. Victims left in these situations often have no money and lack the means to find safety or shelter.

Perpetrators of domestic violence might also manipulate scripture and religion to abuse victims spiritually.

Domestic abuse perpetrators are masters of manipulation and charisma. Many abusers gain the admiration and respect of the community, church, and those who might otherwise show compassion toward the victim. Women often fail to recognize themselves as victims and don't realize they are in an abusive relationship.

Charlene details the patterns of talented manipulators as they gradually entrap victims. She explains macro-cycles of behavior, from love-bombing in the initial luring of a victim to devaluation and the final phase in which he discards her with no resources.

Quint cites CDC statistics to reveal alarmingly high rates of assault, stalking, and coercion in relationships. these numbers are low due to the underreported nature of domestic crimes and their impact.

We discuss how to recognize and respond to domestic abuse. Charlene recommends paying attention to those who seem withdrawn. We also mention the importance of making resources available for victims through churches, workplaces, and other organizations.

For women in abusive relationships, Quint states the first priority must be healing. She encourages listeners to recognize God is on a rescue mission for them.

Charlene also emphasizes that victims must realize the abuser will not change. No matter how convincing the master manipulator's promises to reform, he will resume the abuse as soon as his victim has been secured in his trap.

Quint encourages women to focus on God's promises. She highlights the verses in Joshua 1 exhorting us to be strong and courageous because God is with us. Charlene also advises against the temptation to turn back and return to the abusive relationship.

We explore the spiritual warfare involved in the battle of domestic abuse. Charlene acknowledges that escaping abuse will prove the hardest thing a victim will ever do, but assures that at the end of the battle she will be stronger than ever. As the daughter of the Lion of Judah, she will be a lioness.

Charlene encourages victims to adopt a warrior mindset. She refers to Ephesians 6 as a go-to verse to equip victims and survivors toward victory. She reminds listeners of the importance of praying God's Word. Quint emphasizes her clients are always in a better position after the battle.

Charlene Quint offers a free handbook for pastors, free downloadable resources, and is available for workshops. To get all these materials and more, visit abusecare.org.

Get a copy of Charlene Quint's comprehensive book on overcoming domestic abuse, Overcoming the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, and Other Domestic Abusers on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Narcissist-Sociopath-Psychopath-Domestic/dp/1951310004

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Have insecurity or other fears held you back from fulfilling your purpose? Today's episode faces the ageless issue of fear and how you can become emboldened to overcome the obstacles to fulfilling your dreams.

Amy Debrucque, founder of the Life on Purpose Movement and host of the Life on Purpose Podcast, shares her story of overcoming years of severe anxiety to become a resource of hope for others. She and her daughter wrote a book on the steps from imprisonment in fear to living an emboldened and purposeful life.

Amy shares specific keys to becoming fearless and therefore equipped to live out potential. She notes the importance of taking a pause to evaluate the barriers holding you back from your next brave step toward God's calling.

We explore the power fear maintains when we entertain our worries in the silence of our minds. If we name our fears and obstacles, the power of their hold over us lessens.

Amy and I discuss how fear lies to us. First, anxiety magnifies negative outcomes. The exaggeration escalates and convinces us that the things we fear are more powerful than God's ability to equip or rescue us.

Debrucque mentions the following steps of kindness and resisting temptation. She also emphasizes the need to evaluate whether each action we take will serve to embolden or hinder us with regard to fulfilling God's purpose.

We discuss the importance of stepping out of comfort zones, noting the simple win of showing up in obedience. Fear deceives us into believing we are better off if we don't even try. But we're not. No risk means no growth. No growth means we never live to fulfill our purpose.

Amy recommends taking an inventory of what you've already done to step out of your comfort zone. Identify and celebrate the victories behind you to move forward with greater confidence.

Debrucque relates her mission to help women recognize their worth and potential. Amy hopes you will not be discouraged. She also encourages women to reach out to those who need support.

Check out Amy Debrucque's Life on Purpose Podcast at https://www.amydebrucque.com/podcast

Visit her website for free resources and get a copy of her book at https://www.amydebrucque.com/

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Merry Christmas, friends!

Enjoy this special episode for Christmas Day!

Podcast hosts in the Spark Media Network collaborated to bring you inspiration and insights to warm your spirits on this holy holiday.

May the Lord richly bless you now and through the coming year!