For The Mental Girlies Podcast

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Hey yall! Sorry for the late epsiode. I sat down with Iridiscent (any pronouns) aka Psychosomatic Des to talk all things rejection proofing! What it is, how they got into it, and the journey of healing yourself and generational trauma (and how it shows up as sickness in the body). Enjoy!

This episode is the same as the one on my Youtube channel. It touches on a new diagnosis, how I feel about it, medication I take, and where I want to go.

FUN FACTS

Age: 22 (boutta be 23!)

Signs: Virgo, Leo, Capricorn

The Fear of Being Seen and Perceived.

There are lots of big mistakes that have been made. 

Even with all this unknown, all you can do is be brave.

Some of the greatest moments in history were not planned. 

You have to do it scared. You have to be brave.  

We think we’re gonna die when we’re authentic - we’re not. We think the world is gonna end - it’s not. It’s gonna move on. we’re not.

Humans have an amazing way of adjusting themselves. Make people make room for you. 

Nothing happens before you are ready for it. You are built to succeed in the moment where you have the option to be honest, true, and authentic. You have what you need. You just need to believe that. 

Your subconscious fears are holding you back from what you want!!

Labor is painful. Give birth to yourself.

ROLANDE is bringing you niggas STATS for the holidays!!!!

She talks

Demystifying research

the harms of not doing your research

a short intro to descriptive research and correlations, y'know? so you can stay educated about the world around you

being (begrudgingly) grateful for Emory

feelings vs. logic (intuition vs. science & evidence & proof)

The importance of Black research!!!!

WOMANISM

I LOVE YOU MY BLACK WOMEN! STAY EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, AND SPIRITUALLY SAFE!

REFERENCES

Jasmine A. Abrams, Ashley Hill, & Morgan Maxwell; Underneath the Mask of the Strong Black Woman Schema: Disentangling Influences of Strength and Self-Silencing on Depressive Symptoms among U.S. Black Women. Sex Roles 80, 517–526 (2019).

https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-018-0956-y

ROLANDE was in a pinch, and learned a lot about herself.

Lots of little nuggets of encouragements. 

Lots more growing up. The light of fairytales I grew up with dimming

Listening to your spirit and following your desires. Sacrificing your desire for “supposed” or “should”.

Grind and hustle culture might just have a point.

STORY UPDATE:

I had so much fun at the friendsgiving!! I am so glad I went. I made amazing memories and ate some really good food. 10/10, it is always such a vibe with Evolve and friends!!! Shout out to host ASIA, friend DAVENA, and funny bitch LIANA!!!!! THAT SOUFFLÉ WAS HITTING! ALSO TO MAKAYLA MOMMA FOR THAT DRESSING!!!!

ROLANDE discusses

feeling grounded in my body

validation and freedom

reminding myself of my why

religion as an oppressive tool

individualism AND perfectionism??? as a sin

EBSUxSJP Parallels Discussion Recap

demystifying activism and politics

being (a certain) Black at Emory

pushing the responsibility onto the privileged.

LINKS:

Learn about the genocide happening in Palestine

@thestorydoula's referenced instagram post.

Men Aren't Trash they're Traumatized - RK

Hulu's The Other Black Girl

my talk proposal was denied

im in a good mood

the world is on fire

own your feelings

own dat shit

do your work

you're almost there.

be you - people can either get with it or get lost.

Being a (Black) (woman) is hard.

Learning about America's history is hard.

Coming to terms with internalized colonial and racial beliefs and how it's changed your perception of life is hard.

Being in a world that tells you you're crazy for how you see it. is HARD.

But you are your own source of validation.

Like I said in the episode, this was a tough day. Thanks for listening.

happy 2nd birthday to my baby; you have been a great help to me.

"The paradox of education is that as one begins to become conscious one begins to examine the society in which [she] is being educated." - James Baldwin

own your feelings

stand on that shit

allow yourself to be proved wrong

THEMES:

Solar Eclipse in Libra New Moon