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In this episode, Mariel and Josh dive into the powerful impact of physical actions on mental health and overall well-being. They discuss how maintaining a tidy space, engaging in self-care rituals, and adopting a confident posture can significantly improve one's mood and reduce anxiety. Highlighting the importance of nutritious food, healthy sleep habits, and proper hydration, they propose a 30-day trial aimed at enhancing mental health through mindful rituals, intentional outfit selection, daily exercise, and a focus on hydration and nutrition.

Mariel and Josh share personal anecdotes, including Mariel's experience at the East Side Culture Crawl and her strategies for managing anxiety through physical presence and posture. They also explore how fashion and tidiness can elevate mood, with tips on using these as forms of self-care. Additionally, they emphasize the value of paying attention to the body's signals and making small behavioural adjustments to boost overall well-being.

Listeners are encouraged to participate in the 30-day trial and share their own tips and tools for mental health. Mariel and Josh stress the importance of seeking help when needed and leveraging mutual support to utilize each other's strengths. Tune in for practical advice and inspiring stories on how physical actions can positively transform your mental health.

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The Art of Connection in a Digital Age

In this episode of "Probably Important Podcast," Josh and Mariel dive into the value and impact of Zoom in their lives, especially its role in maintaining and building relationships during a time of reduced physical connection. Mariel shares her gratitude for Zoom, recounting how it allowed her to stay connected even when she was under the weather. Together, they reflect on the concept of friendship, categorizing relationships into different levels, and emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, loyalty, and shared values.

Josh introduces the idea of a tiered system for relationships, explaining how it can streamline the process of navigating new acquaintances. Mariel elaborates on the distinctions between acquaintances, casual friends, and the inner circle, noting that her inner circle holds her accountable and demonstrates loyalty and integrity, regardless of the time apart. They discuss how these relationships evolve through different life stages, with loyalty and shared values being key components.

Mariel emphasizes the importance of not oversharing with those who may not have the capacity to hold space for vulnerability, referencing Renee Brown's work on the topic. Josh adds that understanding the stages of relationships helps manage expectations and interactions. They also introduce the unique concept of 3-minute, 3-hour, and 3-day friends, highlighting the value each type brings to one's life.

Further into the conversation, Josh and Mariel explore the importance of shared values and the role they play in both friendships and romantic relationships. They stress the need for open communication and the capacity for personal evolution within relationships. Mariel shares a personal experience where she had to distance herself from a friend due to lifestyle choices, underscoring the need for supporting each other from a distance when necessary.

The episode wraps up with a discussion on the intentionality of choosing who we surround ourselves with. Mariel talks about reaching out to new influences and building a supportive network, while Josh highlights how a good friend can positively impact our success and values. They invite listeners to share their perspectives on the qualities of good friendships and their experiences with different types of relationships. The hosts also encourage feedback and communication through email, social media, and their new community group, aiming to foster a supportive and connected community.

Tune in to this insightful episode to explore the nuances of relationships, the importance of intentionality, and how to build meaningful connections in a digital world.

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Welcome to 'Probably Important Podcast,' where Mariel and Josh delve into the intriguing concept of "blind spots" and explore how they impact our personal growth, relationships, and career development. In this episode, along with a guest appearance from Editor Kyle, they discuss the dangers of blind spots and how acknowledging them can lead to positive transformation. The conversation is packed with insights on self-awareness, the value of humility, and the importance of trusted relationships in helping us navigate unseen obstacles.

Mariel, Josh, and Kyle open up about their personal experiences with blind spots and how they've worked through them. They share stories that range from therapy sessions to driving analogies, illustrating how blind spots can shape our decisions and interactions with others. Josh emphasizes the critical role of self-acknowledgment and therapy in revealing hidden aspects of ourselves, while Mariel shares her journey toward recognizing and addressing her tendency to carry others' burdens.

Throughout the episode, they discuss the significance of having a support network of trustworthy individuals who can provide honest feedback and help us detect potential issues before they become major problems. They also examine the challenges of relying solely on friends, considering the benefits of professional counseling or therapy to maintain objectivity.

The conversation takes a personal turn as Mariel and Kyle reflect on their shared past in volleyball, which brought them back together. They discuss how memory plays a role in their lives, with Kyle's detailed recollection of past events serving as both a strength and a burden. This leads to a broader discussion on the role of memories in relationships and how time impacts closeness with others.

To round off the episode, the P.I. Crew propose an actionable item to help listeners manage their own blind spots: creating T-shirts with the phrase "what you resist persists" to remind us all of the importance of self-awareness and acceptance. Join us for this thought-provoking conversation and get ready to explore the fascinating world of blind spots with us.

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Welcome to the 'Probably Important Podcast,' where we dive into the topics that are often avoided but truly matter. In this episode, Mariel, Josh, and Reverend Stephen Garrett engage in a deeply meaningful conversation about death, grief, and loss. Reverend Garrett shares his personal experiences, shedding light on why open discussions about death are crucial for our personal and societal well-being. He talks about the impact of losing loved ones, recounts his sister Jody's passing, and introduces us to the Professional End of Life Doula Program he created.

As we explore the spiritual and emotional sides of death, Reverend Garrett offers insightful ideas on how to reframe death as an inspirational teacher, encouraging us to embrace our spiritual nature while acknowledging the shadow sides of life. The conversation goes deeper into the cultural factors that influence our beliefs, including societal issues like economic instability and climate change, and how these can be tied to a lack of spiritual awareness.

Mariel, Josh, and the Reverend also discuss the importance of preparing communities for grief, emphasizing the need for community support and various expressions of grief. The episode touches on the challenges arising from an aging population and a shortage of resources, with Reverend Garrett suggesting that grief rituals or gatherings can help address unexpressed grief. We learn about Reverend Garrett's compassionate approach to supporting those in pain, his belief in the power of acceptance and understanding, and how these values shape his work.

This episode provides a comprehensive view of death and grief, blending personal stories with practical advice and deep spiritual insights. Tune in to gain a new perspective on these essential topics and join the ongoing conversation aimed at helping us all navigate life's most challenging moments with compassion and courage.

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Mariel and Josh discussed the impact of sunlight on their mindsets, the importance of mindset, and the concept of a growth mindset. They also explored the significance of self-compassion, the evolution of personal identity, and the impact of past trauma and neglect on their present behaviors. Lastly, they discussed reframing their self-narratives, recognizing and accepting patterns in life, and the challenges of public speaking. The conversation highlighted the importance of changing negative self-talk, rewriting narratives, and using positive self-talk to improve mindset and performance.

Mariel and Josh had an engaging conversation about the impact of sunlight on their mindsets, with Josh sharing his observations about how the change of season affects his inner dialogue. Mariel agreed, sharing her own experiences and how the lack of sunshine can lead to a heavier self-talk and even depression. They ended the discussion with Josh expressing his appreciation for the idea that mindset, including a growth mindset, is an ingredient that contributes to people's experiences.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of mindset and how it can be manipulated for a more positive outlook. Mariel shared her admiration for Marisa Peers, who teaches courses on changing one's narrative and thought patterns. 

Josh shared his struggle with maintaining a growth mindset while launching and managing his business. He discussed how he had fallen into a negative mindset and how a conversation with a child about a lost race car race inspired him to change his perspective. Mariel then shared a similar experience with her own child and how changing the narrative from "I can't do it" to "I'm learning" can empower and help take control of the situation. The importance of the growth mindset was emphasized throughout the conversation.

Mariel and Josh discussed the importance of self-compassion in personal growth and its potential to extend to others. Josh highlighted the challenge of offering compassion to oneself, particularly in areas of personal shortcomings. Mariel emphasized the need to reframe negative self-talk, using the example of improving relationships. Both agreed on the importance of acknowledging and accepting the difficulties of relationship building, and emphasized the need for commitment and communication to succeed in relationships.

Josh and Mariel discussed the concept of personal identity and its evolution over time. Josh shared his perspective on the importance of self-awareness and the brain's tendency to make statements and then work to fulfill them. Mariel agreed, noting that people often hold onto parts of their identity as if they are immutable, while Josh suggested that self-discovery can occur through investing in oneself. They both agreed that personal identity is not static and that individuals can and do change over time.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of reframing their self-narratives. Josh suggested that by telling themselves different, potentially untrue, stories about themselves, they could open up to a different future. Mariel agreed, acknowledging that this could be uncomfortable and awkward at first, but emphasized that with repetition, it becomes more natural. They also touched upon the concept of 'overnight success', with Mariel pointing out that what appears as an overnight success is usually the result of years of hard work. Josh concluded by highlighting that everyone is already repeating stories, whether they are self-condemning or not, and that this repetition shapes their reality.

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Denise, from the 'I Am Here' program, introduced her program's focus on promoting workplace wellbeing and creating a culture of trust and support. She emphasized the importance of addressing mental health issues in the workplace and offering resources and education through their 'Tribe Members' course. The discussion also highlighted the significance of recognizing when someone is struggling, checking in on colleagues, and empowering people to take advantage of available resources. Additionally, the conversation touched upon the importance of managing expectations, teaching key skills, integrating learning into corporate culture, and creating a supportive environment that prioritizes employee wellbeing.

Denise and Josh discussed the importance of recognizing and acknowledging that it's okay not to feel okay. Denise emphasized the need for teaching people to identify their emotions and feel comfortable expressing them. They also discussed the potential for miscommunication in using the term "okay" and how it can differ from person to person based on their circumstances. Mariel raised the question of being able to recognize when someone else is not okay. Denise highlighted the importance of self-checks and being conscious of one's own well-being as a prerequisite to helping others.

Denise emphasized on the need to empower people to take advantage of available resources before they become overwhelmed, using the example of a friend who was hosting his brother-in-law's family after a flood. Josh highlighted the common reluctance among individuals to ask for help, which Denise attributed to societal norms. They concurred on the role of a support system in providing guidance and directing people to available resources.

Denise shared a case study involving a construction firm where a significant suicide prevention initiative was implemented. The initiative, which included providing employees with tools and resources to discuss their mental wellbeing, resulted in a significant decrease in suicide rates among the employees. The conversation then shifted to the importance of mental health awareness and the need for men to be given the tools to help themselves and others. Josh added his thoughts on the cultural shift towards men being more open about their mental health. Denise concluded the discussion by highlighting the need for helpers, including first responders, to also receive support due to the traumatic situations they encounter.

Josh and Denise discussed the importance of integrating learning into the corporate culture in manageable, bite-sized pieces. Denise introduced the concept of Pulse Learning, an organization that specializes in breaking down large ideas into more digestible parts. They discussed the significance of showing employees that their wellbeing is a priority, with Denise highlighting the six pillars of health and wellbeing. The conversation also touched upon the value of creating a supportive environment where employees feel cared for, and how this can lead to engagement and better outcomes. Mariel and Josh discussed the potential for using visual indicators to identify those in need of support, such as those in recovery.

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Mariel and Josh discussed the importance of trust in relationships, emphasizing the need for clear communication and self-reflection. They identified feelings of insecurity as a cause of mistrust and suggested the need for understanding personal needs and feelings to maintain healthy relationships. They also discussed the impact of personal experiences and memories on relationships, different approaches to conflict, and the importance of healthy communication.

Mariel and Josh discussed the impact of personal experiences and memories on relationships. They identified different approaches to conflict, such as avoidance, aggression, and collaboration. They also emphasized the importance of open communication and the inability to protect and connect simultaneously. 

Josh introduced the concept of Nonviolent Communication, a model that aims to facilitate healthier communication by helping individuals express their needs and feelings without causing conflict. Mariel shared her personal experiences in setting up safe spaces for discussions and emphasized the importance of practicing communication skills.

 Josh likened the process to learning a new language, emphasizing the importance of following the 'recipe' of non-violent communication to achieve desired results. They agreed on the need to practice this communication style and suggested starting with lighter topics. They also emphasized the importance of involving their partner in this process and having the conversation when not in a conflict situation.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of self-awareness and meeting personal needs. They also explored the concept of conflict, suggesting that it can be perceived as either a danger or an opportunity for growth, depending on one's perspective. Additionally, they touched upon the topic of relationships, suggesting that rushing into intimate relationships without proper knowledge of the other person could lead to potential problems. They proposed the idea of gradually building relationships, starting from friends to close friends, and then to an intimate partner, to possibly avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.

Josh and Mariel discussed the importance of understanding a person's character, especially in relationships. They emphasized the need to observe a person's actions and behaviors, not just their words, to assess their integrity. The conversation also touched on the challenges of long-distance relationships, where it's harder to witness a person's daily life and routines. Mariel expressed concern over the fast-paced nature of today's society, which often leads to people rushing into relationships without fully understanding the other person. She suggested that relationships should not be hurried and that it takes time to truly get to know someone.

Mariel and Josh discussed the importance of open communication in relationships, particularly during the early stages when assumptions and idealizations can lead to misunderstandings. They emphasized the need for clarity on expectations and definitions of terms such as monogamy and partner. They also addressed the issue of trust and the potential for insecurities to lead to checking a partner's phone. They suggested that if doubts or suspicions arise, it may be beneficial to seek counseling and ask hard questions to sort out whether the problems are due to one's own assumptions or if they truly belong to the other person.

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Mariel and Josh have a conversation about intuition, with Mariel sharing her personal experiences and potential pitfalls. They discussed the nature of feelings as messages from the soul, body, or energy self, and how ignoring intuition can lead to undesirable outcomes. They also touched upon personal responsibility, emotional intelligence, and maturity, encouraging listeners to share their thoughts and experiences.

Having a conversation about the concept of intuition, they explore Mariel explaining that she has always had a strong sense of intuition, often accompanied by physical sensations . They discussed how ignoring these intuitions can lead to undesirable outcomes. Towards the end, they pondered over the nature of feelings, with Mariel describing them 

Mariel and Josh had a detailed discussion about intuition, its role, and its potential pitfalls. They highlighted the subjectivity and personal nature of intuition, as well as the importance of balancing it with facts and logic. The conversation emphasized the need for compassionate self-understanding and the ability to differentiate between intuition and other factors such as past experiences or cultural views as messages from the soul, body, or energy self. Mariel and Josh discussed a traumatic experience Mariel had when she was six years old.  This experience marked the first time Mariel felt such intense and foreign emotions.

Sharing their personal experiences with intuition, emphasizing how it has affected their lives,  Mariel discussed how her intuition has often led her to feel unsafe and anticipate negative outcomes, while Josh noted the difficulty of distinguishing between hindsight bias and actual intuition. They also touched upon the importance of investigating and understanding these feelings. 

Josh and Mariel discussed the concept of intuition, highlighting its role in connecting individuals to themselves and the world. They stressed the importance of acknowledging and exploring one's intuition, but also cautioned against blindly trusting it, as it can lead to missteps. 

Josh and Mariel discussed the concept of personal responsibility and its connection to emotional intelligence and maturity. They agreed that each person has the ability and responsibility to manage their own emotions and actions, reducing the burden on others. They also touched upon the idea that taking on more responsibility can lead to more freedom, as individuals become more aware of their own behaviors and can choose to make positive changes. The conversation also highlighted the importance of clearing one's mind and heart to better understand and trust intuition.

Josh and Mariel discussed the concept of parts work, a technique from counseling theories that allows for a more analytical understanding of intuition. Josh shared his passion for this approach and its ability to help identify and respond to patterns. He also announced his plans to start a group focused on hearts work experience, which will explore parts work. They emphasized that intuition isn't about blindly following instincts, but rather about investigating and being curious.

Josh and Mariel had a conversation about the importance of intuition and how it can guide individuals in difficult situations. They encouraged listeners to share their thoughts and experiences, emphasizing the power of intuition in helping people make decisions that can save their lives. Josh expressed his support for those who have followed their intuition and took actions based on it. They concluded the discussion by thanking each other and acknowledging the significance of the topic for everyone.

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Join hosts Mariel and Josh in a deep and insightful conversation with Jenine as they explore themes of self-discovery, authenticity, and recovery. Together, they share personal experiences of trying to fit into different social groups and the powerful realization that they could belong anywhere. Jenine emphasizes the importance of doing shadow work to understand oneself better, especially in the fourth decade of life. 

The trio also discusses the benefits of bringing different groups together through shared joy and unity. They touch on the challenges of running a business, the collective trauma experienced globally due to the Covid-19 pandemic, and the benefits of using internal family systems as a tool for understanding and managing personal triggers and emotions.

Jenine's story of overcoming serious challenges, including an electrocution injury that permanently affected her ability to work in the film industry and her struggle with alcoholism and depression, highlights the importance of taking responsibility for one's own life and seeking help. Through vulnerability and seeking support, Jenine, Mariel, and Josh show that healing and recovery are possible.

For more information on Jenine's work and yoga studio, visit [sweetserenityyoga.com](https://sweetserenityyoga.com/).

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Join Mariel and Josh on the "Probably Important Podcast" for an enlightening conversation with Trish Wilkinson, a teacher and author, as they delve into the complexities of child development, mental health, and the power of empathy and forgiveness.

Trish shares her passion for understanding child development and mental health, highlighting the importance of empathy, forgiveness, and creating a safe environment for children to express themselves truthfully. She emphasizes the need to understand the brain's development and function to help children thrive, discussing strategies she has implemented to support children with attention and auditory processing issues, as well as anxiety.

The conversation expands to explore the nature of learning and the workings of the human brain. Trish explains the process of neural development, highlighting the benefits of learning multiple languages before the age of nine and the potential for neurodivergent children to have heightened creativity and focus. She also shares her work with schools to develop practices that encourage students to find their strengths and become invested in their learning.

Trish and the hosts discuss the benefits of mindfulness and meditation, particularly in schools, emphasizing the importance of preparing the brain for tasks and allowing time for processing. They also explore techniques to enhance empathy and connection among students, highlighting the importance of creating a safe and conducive environment for learning and growth.

Trish shares her teaching experience, including her success in improving students' scores on standardized tests by teaching specific skills for test-taking. She emphasizes the importance of setting up the day for success, incorporating morning exercise into the routine, and rewarding students for applying their skills in daily life.

The conversation concludes with Trish sharing her vision for improving the education system by incorporating brain-friendly practices into classrooms. She proposes a pilot program to implement specific practices in schools, emphasizing the benefits of increased student engagement and a more enjoyable teaching experience.

Tune in to the "Probably Important Podcast" for a thought-provoking discussion on child development, mental health, and the power of empathy in education.

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