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In today’s episode, I talk about self-hatred, why we struggle with it and my journey out of depression.

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In today’s episode, I talk about the controversial Stoic motto “expect nothing and accept everything”. For centuries this motto has raised brows, discussions and arguments, so today I’ll be telling you what I understand, what I’ve taken from it and how I practice it. now note this isn’t me asking you to drop all your expectations and become a modern-day droid and neither is this me asking you to adhere to this motto, it’s me simply me talking to you about what I’ve learnt and as with everything I talk about in this podcast take what feels right and leave what doesn’t.

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In this episode, I talk about The new year, new year resolutions, how to attain Changes in your life and get to your goals, gratitude and a little bit about the concept of time.

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The World went from not encouraging self-care to making it a trend so now everyone’s into self-care, normally this would be a good thing, but in a world where trending and going viral is the end game of the day, self-care has become an aesthetic, a gimmick to pass as woke, introspective or simply to go viral, In today’s episodes Ovü takes a deep dive into self-care and gives you 8 things you should know about self-care to have an easier time with loving yourself.

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In today's episode, I talk about how to keep working towards your new year's goals, why they may feel out of reach right, how to reconnect with them and how I overworked myself into depression.

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What are affirmations?

How do they work? Or rather Do they work?

can you affirm something into existence? what’s does repeating and reciting words have to do with a better life? And are affirmations a spiritual or mental thing?

welp, if you are wondering about any of these questions I’ll be answering all of them today.

In today’s episode I talk about affirmations, my journey with Affirmation and what I’ve learnt from my journey, I answer questions that I assume a beginner would ask. Listen and enjoy.

Materials on Affirmations

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/do-affirmations-work

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/affirmations.htm

https://positivepsychology.com/daily-affirmations/#

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In this episode, I read a letter to my listeners containing things I’ve learnt about life from growing up.

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A letter to Whoever’s listening

Dear listener,

How are you doing? I hope you're good, I'm writing this letting to let you know, I’m thankful for time and growth, yes this surprises me too cause they were times when the pain was too much for me, times I was too numb to feel but I’m grateful, now this isn’t me saying that I’ve mastered the art of growing older, you never do, you just learn to live rather be alive, you learn things happen for a reason, that every situation’s meant to teach a lesson as long as you’re willing to learn, you learn relationships expire and people leave to make room for other people, you learn the saying “if it’s truly yours it’ll come back” is true but you also learn that you get to decide if you want that back in your life, you learn to take things easy and remain present, you learn everyone’s struggling or going through something cause life doesn’t revolve around you, you’ll learn to know your value and your place in people’s lives, you’ll learn to walk away when situations no longer benefit you, you learn to be at ease with time, you learn to take moments to breathe in deep, you learn to look at the sky, the sun, the moon and the stars again like you once did as a child, you learn to be thankful for everything and be excited about everything like you were as a child, and eventually, you’ll begin to find your younger self again, you’ll forgive your younger self for leaving and they'd forgive you for forgetting them and at this point, you’d have to relearn yourself. you’d learn to accept the mistakes you made and you'll begin to see them as lessons and eventually, your memories won’t hurt you anymore, anxiety will kick your ass but eventually, you’ll understand that your anxiety is only a result of your imagination not the reality of the future because you never know what will happen, though the uncertainty of the future may push you into apathy don’t worry you’ll find your place in the present and through all of these cycles, depression might kick your ass and half the people in your life wouldn’t exist anymore but that's life. you’ll also most likely lose your mind over things you can’t control but in all honesty that’s just life, it’s a cycle of growth, learning, endless trials and tribulations simply because life teaches us to be better for ourselves and others and in all honesty, nothing is worse than a stagnant thing because stagnancy equals death, in the words of modern day philosopher kehlani Ashley parish “what is not growing is dead if you Can't understand get the fuck out my face” I added the last part cause people will get tired of your ass if you don’t grow up and dump your childish behaviours cause ain’t nobody gat time for that, besides all this growth is to teach you to create your happiness, to value your time and energy, to do what you love and to be at peace with yourself because that’s all that matters and eventually you’ll realize you just have to keep going not for anyone else but yourself now I’m not tryna be a motivational speaker, I’m just telling you the truth everyone might fail you, the reality is we’re the only ones that can save ourselves because we have to do this shit for ourselves, so fall, learn and pick up yourselves and get back on your grind and shit because that's what growing up is about. If you ever need anything feel free to hit me up because that's what I'm here for, to lend a helping hand

Yours sincerely,

Forthepainsofgrowing

An introduction to Forthepainsofgrowing a bi-weekly podcast hosted by me (Ovü), where i dissect life’s issues and the communal struggles of young adulthood with my inner voices and guests using various story telling methods, our first episodes will be out in November.

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Music used:

L.Dre - Steven universe

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Drake - Fire & Desire

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(Transcript)

Growing up has to be one of the hardest things to ever do, when we’re young we think life’s all cotton candy and roses , like it’s all some divinely orchestrated timeline, put together piece by piece by GOD or some divine energy or whatever it was that we believed in, but it isn’t and some of us are lucky enough to experience this bliss the “INNOCENCE OF CHILDHOOD” for a long time, sometimes longer than usual while others journey to the other side of reality that our actions have reactions or consequences or punishments,

now don’t ask me why growing up is so hard because I don’t know why but maybe just maybe it’s because the Adults create a "SAFE" environment for us to experience our early days which lead us into thinking life is cute then we went out into the world and realized it's all shit and adults in a bid to protect us never really gave us the right tools to pass the test called "LIFE" or maybe it’s cause we never really listened to them, and the “INNOCENCE” we once basked began to prick our inquisition so we delved into all the things we were told not to as kids these are just thoughts and theories from my mind though what is fact though Is that growing up has it’s pains it’s tricky it gets hard and too much to bare but not to worry we’re here

Hi I’m OVÜ

I’m a writer, singer, Poet, someday filmmaker and now podcaster

If I were to ask anyone of you listening what growing older’s like

My guess would be that a lot of you would say hard, stressful, you’re broke, you’re alone, friends go, in fact everyone goes but depression stays, anxiety’s a bitch, you’re tired all the time and just when you think you’ve reached the floor, life will remind you that the gutters exist, others would say Gucci, it gets easier, eventually you’ll get the hang of it and in all honesty I agree with all of you but I wouldn’t know this without the growing pains, without the cycle of learning and failing

I am personally thankful for time and growth, they were times when I wished that it would end, when I didn’t want to see another day but I’m grateful for all of those moments because they lead us here to forthepainsofgrowing

Forthepainsofgrowing is a safe space for young people to talk, learn and exchange ideas about life with each other, during the course of the episodes my guests and I are going to share our personal experiences and nuggets of wisdom we’ve obtained during our journey in life with the aim of making life easier for someone else, each topic will be approached with love, grace, openness and understanding. Our ultimate aim is to provide a space for you to come into and validate the communal struggles in your life Forthepainsofgrowing will Never be a space for I or my guests to harsh out, settle scores or force our beliefs of right or wrongs on you we’ll be talking about alot of things that people experience and struggle with so i advise you take what feels right and let the rest sit, it’s your life after all

Welcome to our little therapy space filled with peace love and divinity

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