Fostering Voices Podcast

Summary:

Welcome to a festive episode of our podcast, where we dive into the heartwarming world of holiday traditions and intentional joy. As we usher in the holiday season, we're joined by some special guests – the Vehon kids! In this intimate conversation, we explore how our family of 9 embraces the spirit of togetherness and crafts unique traditions that redefine the meaning of festive celebrations.

Discover the magic of intentional joy and connection as we unpack the Vehon family's approach to the holidays. From crazy traditions that spark laughter to thoughtful rituals that deepen family bonds, this episode offers a glimpse into the joyous tapestry we've woven. If you've ever been curious about what holiday festivities can look like in a bustling household, this is the perfect episode for you.

Join us in celebrating the season with the Vehon kids' first-ever podcast recording. Whether you're seeking inspiration for your own festivities or just love a good holiday story, this episode is sure to fill your heart with warmth and festive cheer. Thanks for joining us as we unwrap the magic of intentional joy in this joyous holiday season!

Resource Links:

Swirled Mint Cookies Recipe

Rolo Pretzels Recipe - The Girl Who Ate Everything

Butterscotch yule log: A retro Christmas dessert recipe from the 60s - Click Americana

Christmas 2023: Phoenix holiday lights map

Foster Care & The Holidays

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Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Summary:

In this episode we peel back the curtain and take a look into tribal foster care. Joining us are Brad and Karin Dahlman, a remarkable couple who have dedicated themselves to fostering children for many years. Through tribal foster care, they've opened their hearts and homes to dozens of kids, making an immeasurable impact on our community. Karin sits on the board of Foster Arizona, and Brad is one of those people we can call to rally troops or step into a problem. We absolutely love them and are really grateful we all get to learn from them today. Tune in as we dive deep into their incredible journey as foster parents and explore the vital role of tribal foster care in the lives of children. Join us for an inspiring and informative conversation that sheds light on the challenges and rewards of this vital work.

Resource Links:

The Importance of ICWA Foster Homes: A Personal Account | American Indian Policy Institute

For Families & Service Providers » NICWA

Foster a Future for American Indian Children | Arizona Department of Child Safety

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters:

00:09 - On Today's Episod

00:43 - Welcome

01:17 - Brad and Karin Dahlman

01:38 - Life Before Foster Care

02:27 - Deciding to Foster

04:01 - Answering the Call

04:21 - Adjusting to the Decision

06:17 - Tribal or Not?

08:27 - Overcoming Tribal Challenges

13:37 - Kill 'em with Kindness

15:07 - It's all About Relationships

16:45 - Let them Lead Us

18:29 - The Baby Book

19:59 - From Baby Book to Dad

20:16 - Packing the Children Up

22:28 - Losing a Child

24:17 - Can't do it for Yourself

24:55 - Stronger for It

25:55 - Never too Old

26:56 - Unexpected Blessings

28:11 - Being on the Same Page

30:15 - Changing Visions

31:57 - Misconceptions

32:58 - Starting Late

34:23 - 7 kids; 6 and Under

35:09 - You Can!

35:47 - The Takeaway

37:21 - Resources

38:52 - Connect with Us!

39:16 - Thank You!

Summary:

Welcome back to the Fostering Voices podcast with Kim and Brian! In celebration of Adoption Awareness Month this November, join us for a special episode dedicated to all things adoption. Our guest, Ed Johnson, a revered local attorney deeply embedded in foster and adoption circles, brings a wealth of experience to the discussion.

In this insightful episode, Ed shares his years of knowledge, shedding light on crucial aspects of the adoption journey. If you're on the path to adoption in Arizona, don't miss the opportunity to connect with Ed—his contact information will be in the resource notes. As advocates for informed parenting, we emphasize the importance of understanding the unique spaces of loss associated with adoption. Education is key, and the more you empower yourself with knowledge, the better equipped you'll be to support your children, present or future.

We hope today's conversation sparks valuable insights and encourages ongoing discussions about adoption. Tune in for a heartfelt exploration of this meaningful journey.

Resource Links:

Ed Johnson - [email protected], 480-209-2847

Families Considering Foster Care and Adoption

The Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters:

00:03 - Intro

00:53 - Welcome!

01:42 - Ed's Story and Work

02:25 - Having a Voice in the Court System

03:53 - Ed's Experience with Adoption

05:39 - Kids Need to be Remembered

06:09 - Appreciating RAD

07:54 - The Joy and Reality of Adoption

10:12 - FIrst Hand Experience with Trauma

12:18 - Relating to One Another

12:46 - Support Leads to Successful Adoptions

15:56 - Resilience Leads to Successful Adoptions

17:51 - Those who Stick Around

18:54 - It's a Family Affair

19:25 - Who's Your Favorite Child?

20:24 - Other People's Perceptions

23:08 - To Foster or To Adopt?

27:03 - Talking about Severence

28:24 - Talking about Cost

30:24 - Subsidies for Fostering

35:23 - The Practical Support of Subsidy

36:56 - The Courtroom Process

40:03 - After the Courtroom is Over

42:08 - The 30-dollar Staple

44:29 - Freedom After Adoption

46:39 - Extended Family

47:35 - The Takeaway

48:59 - Resources

51:01 - Connect with Us!

51:24 - Thank you!

Summary:

In this episode, we dive deep into the crucial topic of mental health and finding a path forward when you're grappling with the question, "Where do I go from here?" Today, we are thrilled to have Carol Melim join our conversation. Carol is not only a Licensed Clinical Social Worker but also a specialist in trauma therapy, certified in EMDR and EMDRIA, with a unique perspective. She brings a wealth of book knowledge and invaluable lived experience to the table, making her exceptionally attuned to the distinctive challenges faced by foster and adopted children, as well as their families.

Throughout this episode, we'll explore the intersection of mental health and family dynamics, drawing on Carol's expertise and personal insights. Whether you're a parent seeking guidance, someone interested in mental health, or simply curious about the experiences of foster and adopted children, this conversation will provide valuable insights and practical advice. Join us as we navigate this important conversation, offering hope and understanding for those asking themselves, "Where do I go from here?"

Resource Links:

Lighthouse Psychiatry

Support Group & Retreats

Types of Trauma Therapy | Mental Health Treatment | California

Complementary & Alternative Techniques and Interventions used with Complex Trauma Clients

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters

00:22 - On Today's Episode

00:35 - Welcome Carol Melim

01:33 - Carol's Story

04:04 - RTC's, CFT's, Life Skills

04:55 - Making a Change to Help

05:48 - Respite

06:55 - Becoming a Therapist

07:57 - Unique Challenges

09:18 - Lacking Behavioral Support

11:47 - Having a Safe Space

12:53 - Navigating Therapy

15:18 - Maneuvering Within Therapy

16:57 - Knowing When Therapy is Needed

18:09 - Recognizing False Motivation

20:51 - Follow the Mama Duck

21:31 - The 'Why' Journal

23:02 - Changing Behavior

25:22 - You Don't Get Pie

27:41 - Fun in Parenting

28:58 - Identifying Urgent Scenarios

30:51 - Behavior Coaches

32:32 - When it's not just Trauma

33:55 - Beyond Therapy

35:14 - Leaving too Soon

36:38 - The Takeaway

37:20 - Resources

38:25 - Connect with Us!

38:46 - Thank You!

Summary:

Today, on our 20th wedding anniversary, we embark on a meaningful journey, delving deep into the intricate layers of marriages affected by trauma. Join us as we explore the profound impact that caring for children with special needs has on marital relationships, acknowledging the challenges without getting lost in statistics.

We are honored to be joined by Perry Emerick, an ordained minister and EMDR trained counselor and supervisor. With 26 years of marriage and three children under his belt, Perry brings a wealth of personal and professional experience to our discussion. Together, we unpack the complexities of trauma, relationships, and family dynamics, focusing on the ways past traumas can influence our present connections.

In this episode, Perry shares invaluable insights on how to strengthen marriages and families, especially when past traumas cast their shadows. His expertise and compassionate approach offer guidance on shoring up relationships, emphasizing the resilience and transformative power of love and understanding.

Tune in as we navigate the profound impact of trauma on marriages, discovering the resilience that lies within the bonds of love and commitment. Thank you for joining us on this heartfelt exploration.

Resource Links:

Perry Emerick LICENSED PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR | PASTOR

Keeping a Marriage Together While Raising a Child with Special Needs

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey, Bruce D. Perry, et al.

Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Audible Logo Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Summary:

In this episode we delve into the transformative journey of becoming a foster parent. Join us as we sit down with Katie O'Dell, the passionate Executive Director of AZ127, a steadfast advocate for fostering life within a supportive community. AZ127 firmly believes that children require families, and families thrive with a strong support network. Together, we explore the profound steps, challenges, and rewards on the path to becoming a foster parent. Katie shares her invaluable insights, highlighting the vital role that community plays in this process. Tune in as we embark on this inspiring journey, discovering the power of love, compassion, and unity in building a brighter future for children in need.

Resource Links:

https://az127.org/

Foster & Adopt

Foster Cooperative

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

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Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters:

00:08 - On Today's Episode

00:35 - Welcome Katie O'Dell!

01:03 - Katie's Story

04:12 - Invisibility in Our Own Community

05:58 - What Happens to the Invisible?

07:23 - Advocating for the Invisible

09:15 - The Stereotype of The Invisible

10:03 - Mobilizing Faith Communities

11:27 - Families Need Communities

13:51 - Fostering is Hard

14:59 - Wrap Around Care Community

17:10 - Lonliness in America

18:05 - Offering Care

19:08 - We are "Judgy" People

21:28 - We can Change our Communities

22:44 - Walking the Talk

26:55 - Foster Parents are Real People

28:00 - Take the Next Step

30:03 - Anyone can Step Up

31:14 - It will Change Your Life!

31:58 - Every Little Thing Counts!

33:31 - The Takeaway

33:48 - Step Into Caring for the Vulnerable

34:31 - Resources

35:19 - Start Asking Questions

36:02 - Join the Conversation!

36:30 - Thank You!

Summary:

Today is all about celebration as Foster Arizona turns 10 years old. Join us as we take a delightful trip down memory lane, reflecting on the invaluable lessons and heartwarming joys we've encountered throughout this incredible journey.

In this special episode, we're honored to have Al Moore, one of our founding board members and the current board chair, as well as Ashley Shick, one of our earliest lead team volunteers and a dedicated board member. Their stories and insights will inspire you as we share our love and gratitude for these incredible individuals. Get ready for a heartfelt and enlightening conversation as we celebrate a decade of fostering hope and change. Stay tuned!

Resource Links:

https://fosterarizona.org/get-involved/#events

Please submit your story (and photos if you'd like) to: [email protected]

Register for the celebration event!: https://rock.fosterarizona.org/registration/10YearBash

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Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

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Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters:

00:10 - On Today's Episode

00:36 - Welcome Ashley and Al

00:59 - How did you get Involved?

04:01 - Ashley Getting the Call

04:30 - And then there's Al!

06:00 - Foster Care Becomes Personal

07:36 - The Kids Change Your Life

08:28 - What Keeps You Coming Back?

11:33 - It Takes a Village

12:03 - The System's Numbers are Skewed

13:38 - What Brings them Back?

15:04 - It's not all Sunshine and Roses

18:53 - Pivot, Flex, Adapt, Grow

20:10 - The Human Challenge

25:20 - Meeting People Where They Are

26:51 - Mountain Top Moments

31:02 - Reminiscing on the Beginning

33:35 - Celebrating Today and the Future

34:59 - The Magic Sauce

37:11 - There's a Surprise Drawing!

39:04 - The Takeaway

41:18 - Big Birthday Bash Event Coming Up!

41:56 - Submit Your Story Please!

42:31 - Connect with Us!

43:08 - Thank You!

Summary:

As we continue exploring the return to school season, today's discussion delves into a crucial topic. Join us as we sit down with Amanda Glass, an esteemed legal professional with a passion for advocating for children's rights.

Amanda's journey, post-graduation from the Sandra Day O'Connor College of Law at Arizona State University, led her to a groundbreaking Equal Justice Works fellowship at the Arizona Center for Disability Law, supported by Greenberg Traurig, LLP. Her impactful project focuses on enhancing accessibility to special education and mental health services for children with invisible disabilities within Arizona's child welfare system. Through legal expertise, community education, and collaborative efforts with existing organizations, Amanda strives to uplift children facing emotional or unseen challenges.

In this insightful conversation, Amanda sheds light on the invaluable role collaboration and connection play in ensuring every child's needs are met. If you're a parent or guardian encountering roadblocks, frustration, or uncertainty in securing the necessary support for your child, this episode offers guidance and hope. Join us as we explore the transformative power of collective action and empathy in advocating for the future of our children. Thank you, Amanda, for gracing us with your expertise and perspective today. Tune in and empower yourself with knowledge!

Resource Links:

A Parent's Guide to Navigating IEP Rights and Responsibilities

Learn The Law - NCLD

Resources - Arizona Center for Disability Law

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapters:

00:04 - On Today's Episode

00:46 - Meet Amanda Glass

01:29 - Amanda's Work

03:23 - What Disparities are There?

05:05 - What Draws you to Child Welfare?

07:08 - Dukes Up!

10:04 - Options for Parents in Dispute

11:58 - Options for Filing Complaints

13:39 - Ordering Corrective Action

16:23 - Timeline for Due Process

19:06 - Broken Systems

23:21 - Restraint and Seclusion

27:00 - What can a Parent Do?

29:26 - Follow the Plan with Fidelity

31:41 - Accountability

32:37 - Public Records of Accountability

34:38 - Least Restrictive Placement

35:56 - Change of Placement

37:10 - Knowledge is Power

38:18 - Procedural Safeguards Notice

39:22 - Don't go it Alone!

40:00 - The Takeaway

40:57 - Resource Links

42:56 - Thank You!

Summary:

Join us in celebrating the return to school as we dive into an enlightening discussion on IEPs and 504s with the incredible Nancy Williams. Our guest, Nancy, brings a wealth of expertise to the table as the Executive Director of the Arizona Association for Foster and Adoptive Parents, an organization that has personally touched our lives. With a remarkable 30-year career in education, including roles as a special education teacher and administrator, Nancy's insights are invaluable.

As a volunteer Surrogate Parent through the Department of Education, Nancy advocates passionately for youth in group homes who require special education services. She's a dedicated champion for families navigating the complex school system and fighting for their children's rights. In this episode, we'll delve into the intricacies of Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) and 504 plans, gaining essential knowledge and strategies for supporting children with diverse needs.

Nancy's dedication and expertise shine through as we discuss fostering inclusive and supportive educational environments. Tune in as we engage in a dynamic conversation that empowers parents and educators alike. We're thrilled to welcome Nancy into our podcast space today.

Resource Links:

Arizona Association for Foster and Adoptive Parents

A Guide to the Individualized Education Program

National Center for Learning Disabilities

Arizona Center for Disability Law

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Summary:

In this thought-provoking podcast episode, we delve into the world of adoption through the eyes of Mea Han Fajardo, an extraordinary international adoptee and the visionary behind FostAdopt Connections. Join us as we explore Mea's deeply personal journey and how she has transformed her experiences into a powerful platform, fostering meaningful opportunities and connections for children in foster care and group homes.

Throughout the conversation, Mea opens up about the unique challenges and joys of being an adoptee, offering valuable insights that shed light on the intricacies of the adoption process. Her heartfelt reflections inspire empathy and understanding, as we gain a profound appreciation for the resilience and strength of those touched by adoption. Mea's passion for making a positive impact in the lives of vulnerable kids shines through, and we express our sincerest gratitude for her willingness to share her remarkable story with our listeners.

So tune in and join us in this moving discussion as we celebrate the power of human connection and the transformative influence of compassion and love in the world of adoption.

Resource Links:

FostAdopt Connections

20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew - Nightlight

Link to book:

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew: Eldridge, Sherrie: 9780440508380: Amazon.com

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Email: [email protected]

Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast

Instagram: @FosteringVoices

Web: www.fosterarizona.org

Chapter Markers:

00:01 - Open

00:04 - On Today's Episode

00:33 - Welcome Mea Han Fajardo

01:33 - Mea's Story - Adopted at 10

02:58 - The Life-Long Experience

03:48 - We don't talk About it

04:01 - Gratitude and Lonliness

05:34 - The Space to Grieve

07:01 - Grieving with Intent

08:02 - How to Grieve

09:41 - Being Allowed to Grieve

10:32 - Normalizing Grief

11:29 - Breaking Open

12:50 - Grieving with Others

14:31 - Unlocking Grief

17:09 - The Mystery of Being an Adoptee

18:17 - Sympathizing with Adoptees

20:45 - Sharing my Adoption Story

22:38 - Reflection for Compassion

23:59 - An Adult Relationship with Parents

25:13 - Searching for Relationship

26:50 - Don't Hold on so Tightly

27:01 - Being Prepared when your Kid Starts Searching

27:44 - We Accept Your Family

29:42 - Loving Myself

31:26 - The Takeaway

32:27 - On Behalf of Adoptive Parents

33:25 - Resources

35:04 - Closing