If there’s one word I hear over and over again from foster moms, it’s this: guilt.

We feel guilty for not doing enough, for not being enough, for wanting rest, for saying no to one more visit, one more placement, one more request from a caseworker. And when we do say no, we often sit with the heavy weight of second-guessing ourselves: Am I letting someone down? Am I failing as a foster parent?

But here’s the truth: boundaries are not selfish — they are essential. Without them, foster parenting will eat us alive. With them, we can actually show up more fully, more consistently, and more lovingly for the children in our care.

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One of the hardest parts of parenting children from hard places is the constant question: am I doing the right thing?

Every decision feels weighted:
Do I push or do I give grace?
 Do I set the boundary or soften it?
Do I make the accommodation or hold steady?

If you’re parenting a child with trauma or anxiety, you’ve likely asked yourself these questions on repeat. And you’re not alone.

Recently, one of the mamas in my Fearless Fostering community shared something that hit home for many of us:

This is such a brave, honest reflection — and one so many foster and adoptive parents will resonate with.

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Let’s be honest — most foster parent training programs are designed to check a box. They’re full of important information, but they often leave out how it actually feels to be a foster parent.

If you’re a foster parent or considering becoming one, you’ve probably heard something like:
“Just complete your training hours, pass your home study, and you’ll be ready to welcome a child into your home.”

But here’s the truth:
Foster parent training is just the starting line — not the full playbook. And no one talks about what happens after the state checks “approved” on your file.

As someone who has walked this road and now helps other foster moms navigate theirs through my Foster Mama Lifeline community, I want to tell you what training doesn’t prepare you for — and what you can do instead to feel truly equipped.

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One of the things I’ve come to love the most about creating content is pulling back the curtain a bit. Foster parenting, motherhood, and entrepreneurship can be so intense sometimes—and while I’m always here to support you through the hard parts, I also love sharing the things that bring me joy, comfort, and just a little bit of fun.

So today, I’m kicking off this month’s R.E.P.O.R.T., where I walk you through a few of my favorite things lately: what I’m reading, eating (or drinking), playing, obsessing over, recommending, and treating myself to. These are the things giving me life right now—and I hope they’ll offer you some inspiration, too.

📖 Reading: The Hotel Nantucket by Elin Hilderbrand
🥤 Eating (Drinking): Island Punch Spindrift
🌞 Recommending: B.TAN “TAN AF” Self-Tanner
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There’s this unspoken pressure in motherhood — and especially in foster motherhood — to be the “fun mom.”
The one who always has energy, creativity, smiles, and Pinterest-worthy crafts.
The mom who never seems to lose her cool and always has time for play.

But what happens when that’s not you right now?

What happens when life feels heavy, and you can barely summon the strength to get through the day, let alone make it magical?

Let’s talk about that.

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