There’s a moment in nearly every foster mama’s journey that hits harder than expected.

It usually doesn’t happen during licensing classes or even during the first hours of welcoming a new child. It happens after a few days, when the adrenaline wears off and real life kicks in. When the child starts showing signs of trauma. When your biological kids start acting out. When the caseworker misses their visit or when the bio parent sends a letter that leaves you in tears. It’s then that you realize: no one prepared you for this.

If you’re there right now—or you remember it vividly—I want you to know you’re not alone. I created this post because I wish someone had sat me down before my first hard week and told me what to expect, what to ignore, and what to lean into. So here it is—my honest list of what I wish every foster mama knew before her first really tough week.

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