And why you were never meant to carry it alone.There’s a lot of talk about the logistics of foster care.The background checks. The home studies. The training hours.Even the bedtime routines and trauma-informed parenting techniques.But what no one really talks about — at least not out loud — is the emotional load that comes with foster parenting.It’s not just heavy.It’s complicated.And most days, it’s completely invisible to everyone but you.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of everyone else’s emotions while your own are bursting at the seams…If you’ve ever wondered why this feels so hard even when you’re doing everything “right”…If you’ve ever asked, “Am I the only one falling apart quietly behind the scenes?”This post is for you.Let’s name the emotional load foster moms carry — and talk about how to stop carrying it all alone.Join the Foster Mama Lifeline here: https://stan.store/fearless_fostering/p/reclaimed-mama-community-pfdw5q2kFind all my resources here: https://stan.store/fearless_fostering

And why I built Fearless Fostering to give it to you.When I got the call for our first placement, I wanted to feel ready.I had taken the classes. I had read the books. I had organized the bedroom.But when that little one crossed our threshold for the first time…I realized how much I wasn’t prepared for.Not because I didn’t care.But because foster care is not just logistics.It’s a thousand emotions at once — grief, love, guilt, hope, anger, fear — and no roadmap for how to hold it all.I created Fearless Fostering because I never want another mama to feel as alone, confused, and emotionally overwhelmed as I did back then.Today, I want to tell you exactly what I needed during my first placement — and why Fearless Fostering exists to give you what I didn’t have.Enrollment closes tonight at midnight, and the program begins tomorrow, July 1st. If your heart’s been whispering “yes,” I hope this post helps you say it out loud.Join Fearless Fostering Here: https://fearlessfostering.selfcarebestie.com/fearless-fosteringHop on a call with me TODAY, June 30, 2025 here: https://calendly.com/cbearsecounseling/fearless-fostering-interview?month=2025-06

I'm answering your foster care questions today on the podcast, including what to do when your kids need more of you than you can give, how to prepare for a new placement, and how to process the grief of goodbye.Learn more about my Fearless Fostering group and join here: https://fearlessfostering.selfcarebestie.com/fearless-fostering

There’s a moment in nearly every foster mama’s journey that hits harder than expected.It usually doesn’t happen during licensing classes or even during the first hours of welcoming a new child. It happens after a few days, when the adrenaline wears off and real life kicks in. When the child starts showing signs of trauma. When your biological kids start acting out. When the caseworker misses their visit or when the bio parent sends a letter that leaves you in tears. It’s then that you realize: no one prepared you for this.If you’re there right now—or you remember it vividly—I want you to know you’re not alone. I created this post because I wish someone had sat me down before my first hard week and told me what to expect, what to ignore, and what to lean into. So here it is—my honest list of what I wish every foster mama knew before her first really tough week.Apply HERE for the Fearless Fostering Group: https://forms.gle/UAtaNxBNHJfyc3hF7

Pediatric dietician and foster mama Madison Tyler joins me on this week's episode to share some signs that your foster or adoptive kiddo might be struggling with trauma-related food issues and how to solve them. If you'd like to learn more from Madison, you can follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/nourishwithconnection/

If you’re a foster mom, chances are you’ve found yourself in emotionally charged, high-stakes moments more than once—moments where your child is melting down, or a visit doesn’t go as planned, or something triggers your own trauma. These are the moments when your nervous system goes into overdrive, and every part of you wants to react.But here’s the truth: Regulation always comes before connection. And that means you must be grounded before you can effectively support your child.In this post, I want to walk you through five trauma-informed grounding techniques specifically for foster moms navigating tough moments. These aren’t fluffy feel-good suggestions—they’re practical tools you can use when it feels like everything is spiraling out of control.Apply HERE for Fearless Fostering: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfF8P5eedeg3Wd7xdwaTOISWoyXX3LyZEsWsjjx11sI9bZUkQ/viewform

Foster care isn’t static — it’s a system that’s constantly shifting based on politics, policy, funding, research, and public awareness. And in 2025, we’re already seeing some significant changes that every foster parent (especially moms on the frontlines) should be aware of.Whether you’re new to fostering or have had multiple placements, these updates matter. They impact how long kids stay, the kind of support you receive, and how you advocate for your family and your foster child.Let’s break down what’s new in foster care policy this year — and more importantly, what it means for you as a foster mama.APPLY for Fearless Fostering HERE: https://forms.gle/KXbNKLUUEynwU2fy8

APPLY for the Fearless Fostering Group: https://forms.gle/HR8pem1G6Wx4dAhbALearn more about Fearless Fostering here: https://fearlessfostering.selfcarebestie.com/fearless-fosteringFoster care is never linear. If you’re reading this, you probably already know that. You know the wild swings from hope to heartbreak, the late-night worries, the unspoken fears. You know how it can feel like everything is happening at once — or not at all.And in the thick of all of that? There’s the messy middle.It’s the part that doesn’t get as much attention:✨ When the honeymoon phase of a new placement fades and the real work begins.✨ When reunification plans shift and change, leaving everyone reeling.✨ When your child’s trauma shows up in ways you didn’t see coming.✨ When you’re doing everything you can — and it still doesn’t feel like enough.This “messy middle” is where most of foster care actually happens. And it’s also where so many foster mamas feel stuck.Today, I want to share why this season feels so hard, and some gentle, real-life ways to find your calm — even when it feels like the chaos will never end.

Absolutely LOVED this talk with my pal and former Fearless Fostering member, Christi Chatman. In addition to being a foster mama, Christi is a therapist and big believer in therapy (especially embodied therapy for all that we hold in our bodies) for foster mamas. She shares her foster care journey thus far, what was painful and frustrating, as well as encouragement for how to persevere and heal from the wounds of foster mama trauma. You can find Christi on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/christi_chatman/Learn more about my Fearless Fostering Program and apply here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1dDWEAyUJFNC6gQj4R7bBb9bFZKcFWCl-yTY8pW2NZfA/edit#response=ACYDBNh_D4bXIebgjtBJjip3XwLSi-s24mCfEL9UiioWUgIo-D9Fp0mdpM1ekqlzMcjtGJc