Friends Missing Friends

By Hannah Rumsey

Host Hannah Rumsey talks with those who have experienced the death of friends, grief experts, and more, to normalize the complex grief of losing a friend in a world that often doesn’t understand. Toge... more

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The podcast currently has 77 episodes available.

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October 10, 202345. The Holographic Heart (Part 2): honoring and remembering our friends
Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Suzanne Longstreet!
(If you want to catch part 1, check out episode 44).

Today, my friend Suzanne and I discuss:
Forgiving friends versus pulling away

How we protect ourselves after loss

How often people dismiss friend-grief

Not every friend is going to fulfill everything (and how friends respond to different facets of us)
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not
born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is
born.” ― Anaïs Nin

About today's guest, Suzanne Longstreet: Suzanne Longstreet coaches high performance mindset shifts that transform six figure entrepreneur’s mindset so that they can release their inner bad ass. To learn more about Suzanne: https://www.successandclarity.com

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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18min
October 03, 202344. The Holographic Heart (Part 1): honoring and remembering our friends
Today, my friend Suzanne and I discuss:
The question “Did I do enough?” after a friend passes away

How important it is to celebrate friendship and keep your heart open after loss

The holographic heart (our heart-mind), and how we can love multiple people with our whole heart.

Creativity after loss
About today's guest Suzanne Longstreet: Suzanne Longstreet coaches high performance mindset shifts that transform six figure entrepreneur’s mindset so that they can release their inner bad ass. To learn more about Suzanne: https://www.successandclarity.com

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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24min
September 26, 202343. Picking up the scraps (Part 2): writing plays about our grief
Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Ian Ornstein! (If
you want to catch part 1, check out episode 42).
About Ian: Ian grew up in California and moved to Chicago in 2015. He writes (plays, short stories, essays, monologues) and performs (improv in various forms) around town. Right now he's thinking about trying to move through life with less judgement and being open to the various varieties that life presents him.
To join Ian’s quarterly email list (where he shares his
creative projects and more) go here: https://mailchi.mp/f07a754c2dc2/ianornsteinquarterlysignup

Today, Ian and I discuss:
The difference between writing about a family member’s death versus a friend’s

Book recommendations that include grieving a
friend (Perks of Being a Wallflower and In the Pockets of Small Gods)

How to be considerate but ALSO understand how we are not responsible for everyone’s feelings!

Considering people’s privacy and feelings when writing about our grief (in his play and my memoir)

The last moments we remember about our friends who passed

Resources:
To check out the books Ian recommended:
Perks of Being a Wallflower:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22628.The_Perks_of_Being_a_Wallflower
In the Pockets of Small Gods:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/36478918-in-the-pockets-of-small-gods

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you
enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so
appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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38min
September 19, 202342. Picking up the scraps (Part 1): writing plays about our grief
About today’s guest, Ian Ornstein: Ian grew up in California and moved to Chicago in 2015. He writes (plays, short stories, essays, monologues) and performs (improv in various forms) around town. Right now he's thinking about trying to move through life with less judgement and being open to the various varieties that life presents him.
To join Ian’s quarterly email list (where he shares his creative projects and more) go here: https://mailchi.mp/f07a754c2dc2/ianornsteinquarterlysignup
Today, Ian and I discuss:
The inspiration behind Ian’s play “The Virgin Death”

The impossibility of fully honoring someone’s life

How we do NOT believe everything happens for a
reason (instead, something horrible happens and then we pick up the scraps, hoping to make something beautiful from it)

My struggles with writing a memoir

And so much more!
Tune in next week for Part 2 of our conversation!

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you
enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so
appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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33min
September 12, 202341. Flipping the script: Jaymie interviews me! (Part II)
Enjoy Part 2 of Jaymie interviewing me!
Today, Jaymie and I discuss:
What I would say to my 23-year-old freshly grieving self

Identifying what we need and asking for help (which can be so hard!)

Being in that dark dark place, when it doesn't feel like it'll ever get better

And much much more!

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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28min
September 05, 202340. Flipping the script: Jaymie interviews me! (Part I)
Today I thought it’d be fun to flip the script and have my good friend Jaymie (from episode 15 and 16) interview me!
Jaymie and I discuss:
Why I created the podcast

My grief journey (including how I’ve invalidated and gaslit my own grief!)

The complexities of friend-grief and what I’ve learned

What to say (and not to say) to people who are grieving

The MYTH of the 5 stages of grief

And much much more!

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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39min
August 29, 2023 Announcing Season 2 of Friends Missing Friends!
Season 2 of Friends Missing Friends begins 9/5/23! Make sure you follow/subscribe wherever you get your podcasts, so that you can continue to get updated whenever I release an episode.
I appreciate you!!

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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3min
August 22, 2023 39. Season 1 Highlights
Enjoy this compilation episode, where I share snippets of my favorite moments from Season 1. I truly loved talking to each person, and learned so much about myself and about grief.

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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47min
August 15, 2023 38. BONUS: Forgiveness in the movie Women Talking
Today I talk to co-producer Sydney Bauer about forgiveness in the phenomenal film Women Talking (directed by Sarah Polley, based on the book by Miriam Toews).

To find out more about the film, go here: https://www.mgmstudios.com/women-talking/
To find out more about the book, go here: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/women-talking-9781635574340/

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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10min
August 08, 2023 37. BONUS: How forgiveness can set you free "Deleted Scenes"
Enjoy this bonus episode of cut material – or “deleted scenes” as I like to call them – from today’s interview with Mark!

Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated! You can send in your questions to [email protected], send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
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12min

FAQs about Friends Missing Friends:

How many episodes does Friends Missing Friends have?

The podcast currently has 77 episodes available.