We've been taught that being selfless is the highest form of love, but all it really did was make us invisible. As Béa Victoria Albina puts it, so many of us learned to earn safety, belonging, and worth by taking care of everyone else first. That's emotional outsourcing: when your nervous system confuses approval with survival. You can't rest if someone's upset, can't sit still when there's laundry to fold, can't stop apologizing just to keep the peace. Sound familiar? The truth is, reclaiming yourself isn't selfish ... it's revolutionary. Every time you pause to breathe, pee when you need to, or ask your body what it wants instead of guessing what everyone else does, you're reprogramming your nervous system for peace. You're not broken; you were trained to overfunction. Now you get to unlearn it. Read more: <a href= "https://veronicacisneros.org/episode297/">https://veronicacisneros.org/episode297/</a> Coaching: <a href= "https://veronicacisneros.org/">https://veronicacisneros.org/</a> Talk to a therapist: <a href= "https://outsidethenormcounseling.com">https://outsidethenormcounseling.com</a>

We've been taught that being selfless is the highest form of love, but all it really did was make us invisible. As Béa Victoria Albina puts it, so many of us learned to earn safety, belonging, and worth by taking care of everyone else first. That's emotional outsourcing: when your nervous system confuses approval with survival. You can't rest if someone's upset, can't sit still when there's laundry to fold, can't stop apologizing just to keep the peace. Sound familiar? The truth is, reclaiming yourself isn't selfish ... it's revolutionary. Every time you pause to breathe, pee when you need to, or ask your body what it wants instead of guessing what everyone else does, you're reprogramming your nervous system for peace. You're not broken; you were trained to overfunction. Now you get to unlearn it. Read more: https://veronicacisneros.org/episode297/ Coaching: https://veronicacisneros.org/ Talk to a therapist: https://outsidethenormcounseling.com

We've been taught that being selfless is the highest form of love, but all it really did was make us invisible. As Béa Victoria Albina puts it, so many of us learned to earn safety, belonging, and worth by taking care of everyone else first. That's emotional outsourcing: when your nervous system confuses approval with survival. You can't rest if someone's upset, can't sit still when there's laundry to fold, can't stop apologizing just to keep the peace. Sound familiar? The truth is, reclaiming yourself isn't selfish ... it's revolutionary. Every time you pause to breathe, pee when you need to, or ask your body what it wants instead of guessing what everyone else does, you're reprogramming your nervous system for peace. You're not broken; you were trained to overfunction. Now you get to unlearn it. Read more: <a href="https://veronicacisneros.org/episode297/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://veronicacisneros.org/episode297/</a> Coaching: <a href="https://veronicacisneros.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://veronicacisneros.org/</a> Talk to a therapist: <a href="https://outsidethenormcounseling.com" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://outsidethenormcounseling.com</a>

From Codependency to Choice: How to Reclaim Safety Belonging and Worth | EU 297

You're exhausted.
Not just physically. Emotionally. You're running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You're the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you've lost the version of yourself that wasn't running on fumes.

I'm Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it's like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I've been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to "hold it all together" while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes.

On Empowered and Unapologetic, we're ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one's having at the PTA meeting. Here, you'll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on:

• Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship.
• Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt.
• Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses.
• Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful.
• Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being "on."

If you're tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you're falling apart, you're in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process.

Let's do this together.

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You're exhausted. Not just physically. Emotionally. You're running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You're the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you've lost the version of yourself that wasn't running on fumes. I'm Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it's like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I've been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to "hold it all together" while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes. On Empowered and Unapologetic, we're ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one's having at the PTA meeting. Here, you'll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on: • Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship. • Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt. • Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses. • Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful. • Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being "on." If you're tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you're falling apart, you're in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process. Let's do this together.

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