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“We feel like room mates… there is just no spark left.”

If you have ever thought this about your relationship, Episode 13 is for you.

In this episode we talk about what to do when there is:

• Zero spark
• Zero chemistry
• Zero emotional connection

…but you still want to feel like lovers again, not just team mates or co parents.

“It is not that the spark is gone. It is that it is buried under stress, resentment and both of you living in the wrong energy.”

Inside this episode we break down real, practical ways to bring back polarity and attraction:

For him: attention, affection, reassurance, consistency.
For her: respect, appreciation, receptivity, softening.

No performance. No pretending. Just simple, everyday shifts that change the way you feel around each other.

Save this for the days you feel like there is nothing left.

Share it with someone who feels like the spark is gone.

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“We still loved each other… but we felt more like roommates than lovers.”

In this episode, we open up about what really causes couples to lose their spark — and how to get it back.

The distance.
The resentment.
The moment you start living side by side… instead of soul to soul.

“It’s not that the love is gone — it’s that polarity is missing. You’ve both just forgotten how to dance between the masculine and feminine.”

If you’ve ever looked at your partner and thought, “Where did the passion go?”
If you’re tired of feeling like business partners instead of lovers…

This episode is for you.

Save this for the days you feel flat.
Share it with someone who’s craving that spark again.

Full episode: “From Roommates to Lovers Again — The Truth About Masculine & Feminine Energy” is live now. Link in bio.

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“I used to think putting everyone else first made me a good partner.”

I thought love meant giving…
Even when I had nothing left to give.
Saying yes when my body screamed no.
Holding everything together while quietly falling apart.

But the truth?
Self-sacrifice isn’t love.
It’s self-abandonment dressed up as devotion.

The moment I stopped betraying myself to keep the peace, everything changed.
My energy came back.
My desire came back.
And so did we.

If you’ve been giving until you’re empty…
This episode is your reminder that the relationship you want won’t come from doing more — it comes from being you again.

Save this for the days you forget your needs matter too.
Listen to the full episode: “How To Stop Self-Sacrificing In Your Relationship” — live now on The Save My Marriage Podcast.

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“If only they would stop blaming me…”

In this episode, we go deep into one of the most painful loops couples get stuck in — blame, defense, and disconnection.

For years, we both thought the other person was the problem.
I wanted Adam to change.
He wanted me to stop overreacting.
And nothing ever changed.

The truth?
You cannot make your partner change.
But you can influence them — not through criticism or control, but through calm ownership and emotional safety.

“When I stopped pointing the finger and started leading with love and responsibility, everything changed.”

If you are tired of the same fights and ready to create real change in your relationship, this episode is for you.

Save this for when you feel stuck.
Share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Full episode: How To Get My Partner To Stop Blaming Me And Get Them To Change is live now. Link in bio.

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“We thought we just needed to learn more… but the truth is, we had to unlearn.”

In this episode, we’re sharing the six patterns that nearly destroyed our marriage — and the ones that saved it when we finally let them go:

❌ Control ≠ Safety
❌ Criticism ≠ Motivation
❌ Vulnerability ≠ Weakness
❌ Marriage ≠ Competition
❌ Resentment ≠ Protection
❌ Withholding the Truth ≠ Keeping the Peace

These weren’t quick fixes. They were deeply ingrained stories — beliefs we inherited from childhood, conditioning, and survival — and they were silently pulling us apart.

But once we started unlearning them, everything shifted:
Trust grew where fear used to live.
Connection deepened where resentment once ruled.
And our love finally felt safe again.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying so hard but nothing is changing… this episode is for you.

Save it for the days you feel stuck.
Share it with someone who’s ready to try a different way.

Full episode: “6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)” is live now. Link in bio.

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Fighting about money is rarely just about dollars.
It’s about power, trust, values, and the deeper emotional stories money represents in your relationship. 

In this episode, we pull back the curtain on what’s really going on when couples clash over finances: 

• Why money fights are often about safety, control, or feeling undervalued — not the budget itself
• The hidden money stories that drive resentment, blame, and avoidance
• How to turn “money talks” from battles into powerful conversations that build trust and teamwork

“Money is not the enemy. It’s a mirror — reflecting how connected you are as a team, how safe you feel with each other, and how aligned your vision really is.”
 
If you’ve ever thought:

• “We can’t talk about money without fighting”
• “I feel like I’m the only one carrying the financial load”
• “We have different priorities and it’s tearing us apart”

This episode will help you see money as a bridge instead of a barrier — and show you how to finally get on the same page financially and emotionally.
 
Save this for the next time a money conversation spirals.
Send it to a couple who’s struggling to talk about finances without fighting.
 
Full episode: “Money & Marriage: How to Finally Get on the Same Page & Stop Fighting About Money” is live now. Link in bio.
 
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Feeling unsafe in your marriage does not always mean physical harm.
Most often it is about emotional disconnection, not being heard, or feeling dismissed. 

In this episode we reveal the truth about safety in marriage: 

• Why “I don’t feel safe” is really about trust and emotional connection
• How dismissing your partner’s feelings creates deeper disconnection
• The shift that turns conflict into closeness and reassurance

“Safety is not about fixing all the problems. It is about creating a space where your partner feels seen, heard and valued. When you do that, love and trust return.”
 
If you have ever thought:

• I feel shut out in my marriage
• I do not know how to reach my partner anymore
• I feel more alone with them than without them

This episode will help you understand what safety really means and how to rebuild it in your relationship.
 
Save this for the next time you feel disconnected.
Send it to a friend who feels unsafe or unheard in their marriage.
 
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Control and criticism aren’t about tearing you down. They’re about protecting what feels unsafe inside.

In this episode we reveal the truth about control and criticism:

Why criticism is actually a cry for safety and certainty
What’s really underneath the controlling patterns — fear, overwhelm, and not feeling supported
The shift that transforms control into connection and teamwork

“Control isn’t proof she doesn’t love you. It’s proof she doesn’t feel safe to let go. When you respond with leadership and reassurance instead of resistance, the whole dynamic changes.”

If you have ever thought:

Why is she always on my case?
No matter what I do, it’s never good enough
I feel like I can’t win in this relationship

This episode will help you see criticism differently and give you the steps to break the cycle and rebuild trust.

Save this for the next time you feel attacked.

Send it to a friend who feels stuck in the criticism-control loop.

Full episode: “Why Your Wife Is Controlling and Highly Critical (and How to Break the Cycle)” is live now. Link in bio.

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Defensiveness isn’t proof your partner doesn’t care. It’s a sign they don’t feel safe.

In this episode we reveal the truth about defensiveness:
Why defensiveness is really about protection, not rejection
How shame, fear, and not feeling enough fuel the walls in your relationship
The exact steps we used to break the cycle and finally open up honest conversations 

“Defensiveness isn’t the problem. Disconnection is. When you meet the defense with compassion instead of fighting it, everything changes.” 

If you’ve ever thought:
He just won’t open up
Every conversation feels like hitting a wall
We can’t talk without it turning into an argument 

This episode will shift how you see defensiveness and show you how to create safety, honesty, and connection. 

Save this for when you feel shut out. 

Send it to a friend who’s tired of hitting the same walls. 

Full episode: “Why Is My Husband So Defensive & How To Get Him To Open Up” is live now. Link in bio. 

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“Resentment isn’t about your partner at all”

In this episode we reveal the truth about resentment:

• Why resentment is really grief, sadness, and unmet needs
• How unspoken needs become premeditated resentment
• The exact steps to shift from resentment into appreciation
  
  

“Resentment isn’t an excuse. It’s the reason. And when you feel it instead of fighting it, you can finally be free.”

If you have ever thought:

• I’m doing everything on my own
• My partner should just know what I need
• Things will get better if they just change
  
  

This episode will challenge those beliefs and show you how to reclaim your power and reconnect.

Save this for when you feel stuck in blame.
Send it to a friend who’s tired of carrying silent resentment.

Full episode: “How To Let Go Of Resentment” is live now. Link in bio.

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