Save My Marriage Podcast

Do you feel like you are married to the farm and not your husband? This is a common pattern for farming couples. The wife carries the home, the kids and the mental load, and resentment builds year after year. In this episode, Adam and Aston show why waiting for an easier season keeps your marriage stuck, and what to do instead.

In this episode:
Why farming wives feel lonely, unseen and resentful, and why farmers feel unappreciated too
The hidden contract on the farm and the mental load nobody talks about
Three questions to ask yourself about what you resent but have not said
How putting your marriage first leads to better farm decisions, less conflict and less cost

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Why Your Wife Has No Energy Left for Connection (And What She Really Needs From You)

Your wife isn't rejecting you. She's exhausted, carrying the mental load, and asking for more connection can feel like one more job. Adam and Aston Simmonds explain why emotional connection in marriage is built in small moments across the day, not big gestures. They also share what your wife really needs from you to feel seen, valued and supported.

In this episode:
Why "I want more connection" lands as pressure, and why connection doesn't require a perfect day
The emotional pathway to intimacy, and why it works like a recipe, not two minute noodles
Why connecting with yourself first makes it safe to open up to your partner
What women want to feel in a marriage, and why connection doesn't always have to lead to the bedroom

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Repeating arguments in marriage can leave you feeling more like roommates than a team. Aston and Adam Simmonds explain how to find the unmet needs beneath each fight and ask for what you need without blame.

In this episode:
Why solving the chores or money issue may not stop the same fight
How your last three arguments can help you spot an unmet need
How to turn a complaint into a clear, kind request
Why staying calm and making things right after a fight are skills you can learn

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Do your values feel completely different from your partner's — and does that mean you're not compatible? This episode breaks down the win-win marriage framework, showing high-achieving couples how values alignment in relationships actually works — and why "different" doesn't mean "broken."

In this episode:
Why couples confuse values alignment with being identical — and how this misconception creates win-lose relationships
The real questions to ask to uncover your true values hierarchy (not the socially-approved answers)
How value expression differences — like business growth vs. family connection — can actually benefit each other instead of competing
The one-page values exercise Adam and Aston use with couples to turn values conflict into a win-win marriage

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Working away is hard on a marriage but it's not the FIFO arrangement destroying your connection, it's the missing plan. In this episode we break down exactly how high-achieving FIFO couples stay connected through fly in fly out work arrangements, and how to build a coming home agreement that actually works.

In this episode:
Why both partners in a FIFO relationship are struggling  and why fighting over "who has it harder" is a lose-lose battle
The five minute coffee check in framework for long distance marriage communication that replaces logistics talk with real connection
How to build a coming home agreement that stops the role-switching chaos and resentment when your partner walks back through the door
Why missing each other is a gift in FIFO couples therapy  and how to use distance to bring back spark instead of letting it become a wedge

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Menopause doesn't ruin marriages — silence does. In this episode, Adam and Aston Simmonds unpack why divorce rates and women's suicide rates both peak during menopause, and how emotional acceptance, compassion, and nervous system awareness can turn this transition into the making of your relationship instead of the end of it.

In this episode:
Why menopause removes your capacity to keep tolerating things that were already broken — not the cause of them
The two very different experiences happening simultaneously for her and for him, and why neither is talking about it
Why "it's just hormones" is the most damaging thing a husband can say — and what to say instead
How feminine and masculine energy dynamics shift during menopause, and why surrender (not force) is the real strength
How to move from criticism and blame back into compassion and curiosity as a couple

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If you're carrying the mental load — planning, organizing, remembering everything — while your partner seems to do less and less, this episode names exactly why. Adam and Aston break down the over functioning under functioning dynamic and show you how to rebuild real partnership instead of silent resentment.

In this episode:

How the over functioning under functioning trap forms, and why it's perspective, not fact

Why these patterns trace back to childhood roles and the beliefs that keep them alive

The exercise Aston uses to reveal how much you're carrying that was never yours

How control disguised as helping makes your partner feel like an employee

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Tired of always being the first to say sorry after a fight? Adam and Aston explain why this pattern develops and share five steps to repair your relationship without waiting for your partner's apology.

In this episode:
- Why arguments turn into lasting resentment when you never repair
- How childhood experiences shape the way you apologize or shut down
- Five steps to acknowledge hurt, take responsibility and reconnect
- How to validate your partner without agreeing or keeping score

00:00 Repairing after a fight
10:36 Why apologizing feels so hard
20:28 What repair really means
25:36 Five steps to repair and reconnect
28:39 Going first without keeping score

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Perimenopause doesn't just change her body. It exposes everything your marriage has been tolerating for decades. If the rage, distance, and disconnection feel suddenly unsurvivable, this episode is for you.

In this episode:
- Why perimenopause doesn't create marriage problems. It reveals what was already there, and why hyper-independent women are hit hardest
- How to shift from blame and labeling ("she's just hormonal") to curiosity and compassion. Why that shift changes everything
- The move from complaints to positive requests: practical language that keeps your partner leaning in instead of shutting down
- How the five-minute coffee check-in can rebuild daily connection fast and why doing nothing is the most dangerous choice you can make

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Most couples asking "Should I get a divorce?" are actually asking the wrong question and that one shift in perspective can change everything. If your marriage feels hollow, disconnected, or like you're living as roommates, this episode is for you.

In this episode:
- Why "should I get a divorce?" is usually the wrong question and what to ask instead
- How emotional disconnection builds silently over years through thousands of small moments, not one big event
- Why therapy and counselling often leave couples more defeated and what actually creates change
- Co-created patterns keeping you stuck, and how taking responsibility for your part breaks the cycle

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