Save My Marriage Podcast

Most high-achieving couples aren't failing to communicate because they lack intelligence. They're failing because they carry deep childhood trauma patterns that taught them having needs is weakness, asking for help means failure, and their partner should "just know."

In this episode:
Why your needs feel unmet — and why it's usually the story you're telling, not your partner
Why "no" doesn't mean your need is invalid
The myth that your partner should "just know"
How to move from hyper-independent or co-dependent to interdependent

READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

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You've handled the career, the business, the money. So why does your marriage feel like the one problem you can't crack?

Adam and Aston Simmonds dig into something most successful people don't want to hear: the habits that got you here are the same ones pushing your partner away. If your life looks great from the outside and still feels hollow at home, listen to this one.

In this episode:

• High standards, fix-it mode, efficiency. Brilliant at work. Quietly corrosive in a marriage
• There's a "science of achievement" and an "art of fulfilment." Nailing the first one teaches you nothing about the second
• "Dirty fuel" is fear, proving yourself, the dread of sliding backwards. It keeps you producing and it keeps you disconnected. Adam and Aston explain how to run on clean fuel instead
• Put the marriage first and the rest tends to fall into place. They walk through how that reorder actually works

READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

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→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most couples struggling with marriage communication think they just need to get better at talking to each other. But what's really driving the arguments, the withdrawal, and the resentment is a lack of shared agreements. In this episode, Adam and Aston break down what boundaries actually are, why couples conflict keeps repeating without them, and how to build a boundary agreement that creates safety, respect, and real connection.

In this episode:

• Why most relationship disconnection is a boundary problem, not a communication problem
• The game analogy that reframes boundaries as structure rather than walls or control
• How to create a shared boundary agreement that both partners actually buy into
• Why self abandonment masquerading as unconditional love is quietly destroying your marriage

READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

If you've been telling yourself "I just feel disconnected" and pointing at your partner, this episode will redirect that conversation back to the one place real change starts: you.

In this episode:
Why disconnection is more common than couples admit
What "fully choosing the relationship" actually means
Acceptance is the first step, not a sign you're settling
How rejection shows up without a single word being spoken
Story first, evidence second - why you keep finding what you don't want
The two pathways and why you have to choose one

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READY TO GO DEEPER?

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

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LISTEN ON:
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

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LEAVE A REVIEW:
If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples.
Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

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CONNECT:
→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsimmonds 

→ Facebook (Adam): https://www.facebook.com/AdamSimmonds11

→ Website: https://savemymarriageschool.com/

READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they lead their life.

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

"I thought I was helping. I was actually making it worse."

In this episode, we're getting real about one of the most common patterns we see in struggling relationships:

The one who tries harder.
The one who over-functions.
The one who holds everyone accountable — except themselves.

"You cannot control someone into accountability. And the moment I stopped trying, everything started to shift."

If you're the one doing all the work and your partner just won't meet you there…

This episode will change the way you see that dynamic forever.

Save this for the next time you feel like you're carrying it all alone.
Share it with the partner who says "I just want them to step up."

Full episode: "Why Your Partner Won't Take Accountability (And What Actually Works)" is live now. Link in bio.

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READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

 Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they lead their life.

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

"Why won't he just step up?"

If you've said this out loud or just thought it quietly, exhausted and frustrated…

This episode is for you.

Because the truth is, the harder you push, the further he pulls away.
The more you do, the less space he has to rise.

And none of it is working. Not the initiating. Not the withdrawing. Not the silence you call "giving him space."

"Men don't step up when they feel like they're failing. They step up when they believe they can win."

If your man is disappearing into work, going quiet, or just fading into the background…

He's not lazy. He's losing.

And the shift that changes everything?
It's not a conversation you need to have with him.
It's the one you need to have with yourself.
Save this. Because the next time you feel that pull to push harder, come back here.

Share it with the woman in your life who's exhausted from carrying it all.

Full episode: "How to Inspire a Man to Step Up (Without Pushing Him Away)" is live now. Link in bio.

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READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

"I realised if something happened to me… I wouldn't trust he could look after our kids."

That was the wake-up call.

Not a fight.
Not a breakdown.
Just a quiet, terrifying moment in the kitchen.

And instead of blaming him…
She asked herself:

How did I create this?

Because the mental load isn't just about tasks.
It's about the dynamic you've both quietly built.
Without even realising it.

"It's not that he doesn't care. It's that you've made it so he doesn't need to."

And that's the hardest truth to hear.

But also the most freeing one.

Because if you created it…
You can change it.

Not by doing more.
By finally doing less. 

Save this for the next time you feel like you're carrying it all alone.
Share it with the woman who needs to hear this today.

Full episode: "The Mental Load Is Not the Problem — And Why Most Conversations Make It Worse" is live now. Link in bio.

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READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

 Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they lead their life.

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

“Counselling didn’t fix it…”

In Episode 36, we break down the truth most couples don’t want to hear:

Why you can spend months… even years in counselling
And still feel stuck in the same patterns

“It’s not that you’re not trying hard enough…
It’s that talking alone doesn’t change emotional patterns.”

We share what actually shifts a relationship:

Not more conversations
But a different environment
Real safety
And doing the work in real time

If you’ve been going in circles…
Having the same arguments
Feeling like nothing is changing

This episode will show you a different way

Save this for when you feel stuck

Share it with your partner if you’re both trying… but not getting anywhere

Full episode: “Why Your Marriage Needs a Retreat (Not Another Counselling Session)” is live now. Comment “episode 36” and we’ll send it to you

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READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

 Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they lead their life.

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

👉 Book a Call: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

“We thought our partner was the problem…”

But it wasn’t them.

It was the pattern.

The same fight.
The same tension.
The same feeling of going in circles… over and over again.

“We see this every single day… couples stuck in patterns they don’t even realise they’re co creating.”

The growth gap.
The chaser and avoider.
The over functioning and burnout.
The roommate phase.
The silent shutdown.

None of these mean your relationship is broken.

They mean you’re stuck in patterns you haven’t learnt how to see… or shift yet.

And here’s the truth most couples miss:

👉 It only takes ONE of you to change the pattern.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected…
If you keep having the same arguments…
If you’re starting to wonder “is this just how it is now?”

This episode will wake you up.

Save this for when you feel stuck.

Share it with your partner… or someone who needs it.

Full episode: “8 Patterns Quietly Destroying Your Marriage” is live now. Link in bio.

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READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Apply to Work With Us

If you and your partner are successful on paper but feel disconnected, resentful, or like the relationship has slipped to the bottom of the priority list, you can apply to work with us inside Save My Marriage School.

This is not therapy.

This is for action-taking couples ready to lead their relationship the same way they lead their life.

👉 Apply here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/save-my-marriage-school/

“The manosphere lied to you about being a man… and it’s costing you your relationship.”

In this episode, we break down the truth most men were never taught:

The pressure to prove yourself.
The mask of control, dominance, and “having it all together.”
The quiet insecurity underneath it all.

“Real masculinity doesn’t need to perform, control, or tear others down to feel powerful.”

If you’ve ever felt confused about what it actually means to be a man…
Or you’re in a relationship that feels disconnected, tense, or off…

This episode will hit.

Because the problem isn’t you.
It’s the model you were given.

Save this for when you need a reset.

Share it with a man who needs to hear this.

Full episode: “The Manosphere Lied To You About Being a Man (And It’s Costing You Your Relationship)” is live now. Link in bio.

#masculinity #modernman #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #marriagehelp #marriageadvice #emotionalintelligence #menswork #selfleadership #personalgrowth #relationshipgrowth #intimacy #communication #healingjourney #couples #savemymarriage #savemymarriagepodcast 

READY TO GO DEEPER? 

→ Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 

→ Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session

LISTEN ON: 

→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 

→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a 

→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds

LEAVE A REVIEW: 

If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review.

CONNECT: 

→ Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ 

→ Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds 

→ Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...